Venting In whose future can you assure “it’ll get better”?

[SaintMary]

People say "it'll get better" but they have no fucking idea if that's the case. And the reality is, that for me, it will not. My current situation has me completely dependent on my parents. I don't make enough at my full time job and to cherry top it, I have a baby. I never wanted to be a mom ever. I got pregnant by a bigger waste of space than I am. I wanted to terminate and then was looking into adoption but was convinced like an idiot to follow through. Now every day I'm plagued by my future thoughts of struggling for the rest of my life. And I don't wanna do it. Once my parents die, which realistically is only a few years, my brother and sister (who both live in lavish homes) get the money from the sold home I share with my parents and I get some 10k from the split earnings to start a new life. I like to believe my daughter could live with her cousins and it wouldn't be a bad life for her. I like to create happy memories with her and I painstakingly obsess over my physical image so that when she looks back at my memory, I'm beautiful young and happy with her. As for everyone else, they don't care. Nobody does. And they don't have a reason to so I'm not holding it against them. It's just that I don't talk about it anymore because even I don't wanna know anymore how "everyone wants to die" or how someone suffered with illness before they died and would have loved to be in my position....well I would have given anything to be in theirs.

 

[TAW122]

Yes, I hate it when people tell me "it gets better". It's basically making an inane promise to the universe (or higher power) that may/not be fulfilled. Then when it doesn't come about, they say some additional inane stuff, just makes me really angry too and want to puke. Anyways, I'm sorry to hear about your situation and I hope you find peace for yourself and for your daughter to have a good life ahead of her.

 

[Ghost2211]

It's really tragic when people don't understand that not everyone wants to be a parent. it's really not good for the parent or the child for the situation to be forced. I'm sorry people around you pressure you, and didn't respect your concerns and wishes. It's truly awful feeling stuck in life, and being so greatly restricted by finances.

welcome to the group, I hope you find peace and friendship here.

 

[SaintMary]

Yes, I hate it when people tell me "it gets better". It's basically making an inane promise to the universe (or higher power) that may/not be fulfilled. Then when it doesn't come about, they say some additional inane stuff, just makes me really angry too and want to puke. Anyways, I'm sorry to hear about your situation and I hope you find peace for yourself and for your daughter to have a good life ahead of her.

I think people just say it because nobody else actually has the power to help someone not feel that way and if they can that person most likely will not put in the effort because what's the point. But by saying something it makes them feel like they were there for you if and when you're no longer around

 

[TAW122]

I think people just say it because nobody else actually has the power to help someone not feel that way and if they can that person most likely will not put in the effort because what's the point. But by saying something it makes them feel like they were there for you if and when you're no longer around

Yeah true, hence at the end it's self-serving for them and their ego. It's them first, and to them it's basically like "Hey world, look at me, I'm a good and caring person!" rather than solving the recipient's problems. Then again, even if they had the means, they may/not always help out, but I digress a bit.

 

[Not_Quite_Dead_Yet]

I grit my teeth whenever some moron tells me "it will get better". That is such a glib and lame way to evade listening to or talking about the real problem at hand that it is almost insulting. The reality is things seldom get better and spouting cliches like that are pretty much a sign that the spoutee is clueless about many aspects of life. Yours is a difficult situation and I truly hope things will somehow improve but trite assurances that they will get better are useless. No one can predict the future.

 

[S1mpleme]

People around and I tell myself whole life that everything will fine and here I am, my only "fine" is suicide by a painless method (hopefully). Nobody cares about me and my feelings, just that stupid frases, like everyone has answers to all questions.

 

[Pol]

True. It makes people feel better. I'm certain, most of us (if not all) said the same thing. I say it to myself sometimes, just to give me a little push to go on with the daily grind. I can feel why you're tired of hearing this phrase. I am. It's become the "go to" response.