impact of breakups: perception vs reality

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Whereas episodes caused from many other traumatic scenarios and mental states have over the decades become to be more accepted as not being simple fixes, the same can hardly be said for problems with love-life. From both extremes of regular social platitudes to psychology and mental health services, it is clear this is the case. Breakups or the like are not treated as an inherent risk that other issues are. Yet, in a 2017 study of precipitating causes in the United States, 'intimate partner problems' ranks third (21%) as a risk factor to suicide behind only a very vague and all-encompassing 'diagnosed mental health problems' (50%) and 'recent or upcoming crisis' (31%); way ahead of many widely treated and attended to issues like 'alcohol problem' (18%) and 'substance abuse' (18%).

source: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7713989/

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

'intimate partner problems' ranks third (21%)

And then combine that with the treatment of incels and domestic abuse victims (the female equivalent of incels). I'm guessing that it doesn't take those two factors into account, but it's a matter of definitions.

• Intimate partner problem: decedent was experiencing problems with a current or former intimate partner.

• Victim of interpersonal violence during previous month: decedent was the target of interpersonal violence during the past month.

Didn't see them mention "loneliness" or the like, strange.

 

[watsonsmith]

That is what did it for me.

I did not mature in time for the woman who loved me incessantly (and really mostly without good reason other than a dream and promise we shared) for good 7 years of my frantic bouts of instability (changing jobs, countries, continents). She is the most amazing person I had ever met and completed me. The person we were together could literally do anything. I was too ashamed to be open and honest with her. Don't ever hide your feelings... sometimes they eventually can only be released in death, because in their magnitude (and the lining for repressed shame and guilt) they cannot be expressed (or there are no ears that would listen anymore).

 

[Sherri]

I nearly lost the love of my life yesterday. I will hold tight and never let him go again. He takes me with all my mental flaws.

 

[watsonsmith]

I nearly lost the love of my life yesterday. I will hold tight and never let him go again. He takes me with all my mental flaws.

Please don't. I am very happy for you that you have someone who loves you the way you are.

I went through all the destructive borderline patterns with the love of my life, she stood by me until I really lost it mentally (with her travelling half across the world to be there for me after I pushed her away over 7 difficult years).

When I finally came back to it and matured at the ripe age of 32 enough to see what really is important in life I can only say – if you found love, focus on it, nurture it, appreciate it, be grateful for it. Be honest and you can reach the stars together.

I had careers many would dream of, I had resources, looks, anything you want. None of it means anything in light of losing love. Love is both the greatest elation and delight in this life. Losing it the deepest regret (and my ultimate reason for being here).

 

[Sherri]

You wrote that with your soul. Thank you for sharing with me, you are right at every single word you posted , love your avatar too a big hug, I hope you find happiness too, we all deserve a second chance, a third chance and so on. Don't stop dreaming and I hope that soon those would be just faded memories, I will follow all the advice you gave me .

 

[Chinaski]

And then combine that with the treatment of incels and domestic abuse victims (the female equivalent of incels). I'm guessing that it doesn't take those two factors into account, but it's a matter of definitions.



Didn't see them mention "loneliness" or the like, strange.

Domestic abuse victims are not the female equivalent of incels, there is absolutely no equivalence whatsoever.