I’m the type of person older people think of when they say “kids these days are lazy.”

[usernamesarehard]

I'm a huge mess. I'm lazy, unambitious, untalented and make excuses at every turn. I hate working. I don't believe if you work hard you can work your way up and earn enough to live a life of luxury. I have things I enjoy doing that I wouldn't mind getting paid to do, but I'm either too untalented/ unlucky/ disinterested/ uncreative or don't have the time or energy to learn and get better to make any of my interests a job. I like art and drawing, but I'm not a good artist and don't have the support system needed to be a starving artist. I like music, but have no real interest in creating it nor do I have the kind of creativity it takes to produce it or a good enough voice to be a singer. I enjoy cleaning and organizing, but being a maid/ janitor doesn't pay well. I have no interest in working a million side jobs to get by.

I want to have a job where I do the work for a few hours and then leave and enjoy my life. Honestly, the best type of job in my opinion would be one where I don't really have to do anything most of the time. I could show up, work for a few minutes/ hours and spend the rest of the time reading, working on art, or studying Japanese or Chinese. I also don't like working in a field where I have to interact with a lot of new people. I have plans of becoming either an electrician or working in the IT field, but part of me is too lazy and part of me is too uncaring to put in the work needed to be in these fields. I need to sign up for a trade school or find an apprenticeship to be an electrician, but I can't get an apprenticeship without a drivers license and I keep putting off signing up for a course or school. Part of me is also terrified to be in either of these fields because I've had my confidence beaten down so much that I worry constantly that I won't be able to do the job or that I'll mess everything up because of my terrible memory. I have no interest in being in any position of power. I can easily take care of myself (provided I have the funds to do so), but I have no interest in assigning tasks to other people, making sure they do the job correctly and fixing their mistakes. I just want an easy, low maintenance, low importance job.

Any advice? I already have my method and a low enough SI where I could ctb if I wanted to, but I really don't want to. I want to improve my artwork, play more videogames and be able to go out into nature again, but it feels like my laziness, inability to compromise and low motivation to fix myself because ctb is an actual option to me will be my downfall. (Sorry if this is hard to read, writing is not my strong suit.)

 

[sninturkey]

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[ThriveOrDie]

I'm a huge mess. I'm lazy, unambitious, untalented and make excuses at every turn. I hate working. I don't believe if you work hard you can work your way up and earn enough to live a life of luxury. I have things I enjoy doing that I wouldn't mind getting paid to do, but I'm either too untalented/ unlucky/ disinterested/ uncreative or don't have the time or energy to learn and get better to make any of my interests a job. I like art and drawing, but I'm not a good artist and don't have the support system needed to be a starving artist. I like music, but have no real interest in creating it nor do I have the kind of creativity it takes to produce it or a good enough voice to be a singer. I enjoy cleaning and organizing, but being a maid/ janitor doesn't pay well. I have no interest in working a million side jobs to get by.

I want to have a job where I do the work for a few hours and then leave and enjoy my life. Honestly, the best type of job in my opinion would be one where I don't really have to do anything most of the time. I could show up, work for a few minutes/ hours and spend the rest of the time reading, working on art, or studying Japanese or Chinese. I also don't like working in a field where I have to interact with a lot of new people. I have plans of becoming either an electrician or working in the IT field, but part of me is too lazy and part of me is too uncaring to put in the work needed to be in these fields. I need to sign up for a trade school or find an apprenticeship to be an electrician, but I can't get an apprenticeship without a drivers license and I keep putting off signing up for a course or school. Part of me is also terrified to be in either of these fields because I've had my confidence beaten down so much that I worry constantly that I won't be able to do the job or that I'll mess everything up because of my terrible memory. I have no interest in being in any position of power. I can easily take care of myself (provided I have the funds to do so), but I have no interest in assigning tasks to other people, making sure they do the job correctly and fixing their mistakes. I just want an easy, low maintenance, low importance job.

Any advice? I already have my method and a low enough SI where I could ctb if I wanted to, but I really don't want to. I want to improve my artwork, play more videogames and be able to go out into nature again, but it feels like my laziness, inability to compromise and low motivation to fix myself because ctb is an actual option to me will be my downfall. (Sorry if this is hard to read, writing is not my strong suit.)

Housekeeping managers make good money at resort style hotels

 

[Angi]

First of all, a big hug for you, yours does not sound like a comfortable life at the moment!

The problem you describe sounds like the lack of motivation that tends to come with depression. Maybe you can find a way out of it? I am not an expert, but the internet (and SS) are full of ideas, you could have a look if one resonates with you. After that, you seem pretty set to go, with a plan that can lead you to a nice and comfy life.

 

[Rabhen]

Huggies. I get it. Yeah, there are jobs like that but few and far between. Overnight security guard for a deserted place, a department store, industrial complex or such comes to mind. Do your rounds, watch the cameras, push some buttons. Little to no human interaction. Have you thought os taking care of the elderly and infirm that want to remain at home? My husbands step mother as a job where she goes to their houses to clean, fix meals, run errands etc., most of the human contact is more friendly than other types of human contact during work as most of these people are greatful and appreciative of getting to stay in their own homes as their life winds down and comes to an end. The work is rarely difficult and pays decent. Data input. If you can type what you read, numerically especially, you can get jobs, working from home even, where you have little to no human contact and these jobs pay well but can leave you unable to see well after an 8 hour day.
I agree with you about being able to work hard enough to raise your living, not possible. There are only so many hours in a day and in a week, pay by the hour is simple theft of life. Pay by the piece is a better way of pay, but the jobs you are looking for are not paid in that way.

 

[callme]

Man ignore them. You know what makes someone lazy? DEFINITIONS GODDAMN IT. You will always be lazy, if you had 2 cars, 3 children, 4 mortgages, 5 jobs and 6 cats you will be lazy. Know why? Because you weren't around when the person talking to you had it tough 40-50-60-70 years ago. That's the only qualifier to them.

They may also be alright with child labour from their time, because that's their view of responsibility and work. They never adjusted definitions for the present day, and it's completely understandable. Yes to me it is. But it's just that, definitions.

I am serious. You are lazy to yourself and you have things to change, but you will always be lazy to them no matter how much you improve. I have great heed for words and seriously intrigued by their values too, so I don't in any way hate them, I just know.

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[whywere]

I can agree with what @callme said in his post. Being all most 66 years old, reference point for this post, I have seen through the decades where no matter what a person does there is always someone or some people or group who thinks otherwise as far as no matter what I did, for real, in my past, like in the 1970's, I was always judged and barked at.

After a while, I learned to row my own boat and the heck with EVERYTHING that EVERYONE as trying to tell and/or judge me about. I was called all types of nasty things way back and you know what?? I found my Nitch and took off.

For a good laugh here, I went back to the area in the 2000's, 40 years later and the people that were judging me back in the 1970's STILL were doing the same old garbage about others AND I was traveling for my position, and they were stuck doing the same old crap 40 years later. So, who was lazy back in the 1970's?? I was just finding my way, same as you.

You are a smart and talented person, and you will find your place in the sun, been there done that (me) and I bet down the road you will be awesome!!!

Sending you lots of kindness, the knowledge that you ARE a smart and thoughtful soul, and you will find your place in the sun.

Stay safe my awesome friend!!

Walter

 

[Un-]

I'd advise you to take responsibility. Jobs aren't like that, and depending on where you are, they may never be like that. You'll eventually have to work hard - it's inevitable if you want earn a living doing something you like (or don't particularly mind).

Part of me is also terrified to be in either of these fields because I've had my confidence beaten down so much that I worry constantly that I won't be able to do the job or that I'll mess everything up because of my terrible memory. I have no interest in being in any position of power. I can easily take care of myself (provided I have the funds to do so), but I have no interest in assigning tasks to other people, making sure they do the job correctly and fixing their mistakes. I just want an easy, low maintenance, low importance job.

You can't stop worrying immediately, so I won't say "don't worry". I will say you should learn to take criticism, but most importantly you should learn self-discipline. Learn to commit to things that are uncomfortable for you, because life is unfortunately designed that way. Especially learn what you're capable of. Not only will you know what you can do, but you'll be able to differentiate between criticism and asshole-ery. Tying-in with the "life is uncomfortable", you'll eventually have to become a leader in some capacity. It's better not to victimise yourself against the cruelties of life, and to accept that you'll always be capable of overcoming anything set against you.

I don't know your age. If you're an older person suffering symptoms of dementia then maybe this doesn't apply to you. But the human brain is capable of memorising information of encyclopedic volumes - it just depends on how you memorise things. Some books that help with this, and prove that the techniques described work are How to Pass Exams by Dominic O' Brien, and Make It Stick by Peter Brown. I've personally incorporated these techniques and I've been able to memorise an alien amount of things, and can recall them months after initially remembering them.

 

[TotallyIsolated]

Old people are rude and most of them are f**king nazis anyway. You're awesome OP.

I have things I enjoy doing that I wouldn't mind getting paid to do, but I'm either too untalented/ unlucky/ disinterested/ uncreative or don't have the time or energy to learn and get better to make any of my interests a job

Just you, me, and 99% of everyone else then. I tried to learn how to draw and be more creative because I thought maybe I could quit my 9-5 coding job and become an indie game developer, but OMG I underestimated how complicated it all is, and I just lacked artistic talent. Seeing how there were people much smarter and more talented than me out there who could barely make it, I just gave up.

I still have dreams about being creative, but it aint gonna pay the bills!

Software can be quite cushy and chill if you're lucky, but it can just as easily be a stressful nightmare if you find the wrong job or a difficult client. Thats not to say there are other positions in IT that might come with less drama.

Part of me is also terrified to be in either of these fields because I've had my confidence beaten down so much that I worry constantly that I won't be able to do the job or that I'll mess everything up because of my terrible memory.

I've worked in software for 10 years and I still feel this way every day! :P One thing I've learned is that lots of people are either just winging it, or they just seem more confident than they really are. I know a guy who talks as if he's the greatest coder ever, but I've seen his code and its shit. I'm not judging, not least of all 'cos I wouldn't want people judging me!

There are lots of jobs you could do without having to manage people. Plus since COVID its easy to work from home, and you could probably find places that will let you work like 10 or 20 hours a week. You definitely can in IT cos I know a few people who do, either because they have kids or because they just have other priorities in life.

 

[Live Free or Die]

Overnight security guard for a deserted place

I worked with a guy who had a 2nd job doing this. Basically he sat at the gated entrance and watched the cars go through. Every few hours he had to do a drive around the property. It didn't pay well, but he did absolutely nothing but read/play on his laptop or phone. He said it was getting paid to do what he would be doing at home anyways.