I have a lot of confidence in the mods. I just wish there was a more balanced approach to pro-lifism than witch hunting people as pro-lifers who dare to encourage someone to try recovery. It's not received well in the suicide section, it would be nice if mods could calm that witch hunting down. But that's my take, what are your views on "mediocre moderation"? What exactly would you like the mods to do differently?
But how are you supposed to embark on a balanced approach to something that, itself, is not balanced. And never will be.
It's a pro-choice board, it's not going to completely cater to the far end of either spectrum, especially the "pro-lifism" end that already has its hands in every other pot in existence.
What's wrong with leaving this one alone?
If somebody takes issue with this place, they quite literally have everywhere else on planet earth and the web, to go.
They're not hurting for a space like many here were…and will be again, if people continue to justify hacking away at its current state.
Enough already I say.
It's like yanking a bloody and battered individual from their deathbed and shoving them into an arena with a vigorous opponent whilst demanding "fight them, fight them and only then will I concede that you have any right to an expedited death".
Even though that poor person has probably already fought a million battles and is just plain tired. They just want some peace before they go. The very least they could hope for.
But everyone and their brother thinks
they're the first, thinks
they're the one, they're the savior that will change a person's mind.
They think
they have the answer to someone else's miserable existence.
Those people need to get the fuck over themselves and pay attention to their own damn lives.
Ask themselves how and why they even have the time & energy to push their nose into somebody else's business.
Unfortunately..again..I think this site becoming easier to find since having been blasted by dubious parties, has resulted in diluting the usual crowd with people who probably shouldn't even be on here, people who can afford an extremely flippant handling of the conversation because they have an "I could take it or leave it" attitude.
When I first came here, you had to
dig to find this place. You really had to want it.
You really had to need it.
(Including those who stuck around and didn't end up committing suicide.)
And so you weren't going to risk its existence once you found it, you weren't going to play games with your only respite and gathering of kindred spirits.
But now?
Too many here are just fucking around.
They don't take the necessity of this site seriously.
And so they're fine with jeopardizing it for everyone else and searching for supposed weak spots to criticize, to pass the time and shoot the shit.
Forgetting that their self-described critical eye would best be employed elsewhere, the rest of society possessing far more faults in need of addressing.
Encouragement to continue on can be harmful in and of itself.
Because it can equate to prolonging or even compounding the current level of suffering.
Sometimes pushing people past their known limit and timeline to the point/degree that they actually
become impulsive.
Holding someone back doesn't always make them question things, it could just as often heighten their fear or aggression or fervor, so once you finally let go, they spin out of control and just look for the nearest sharp object.
I have actually begun to take issue with the term "recover" because some people here take it and run with it to the point that they assume every detriment can be "recovered" from and it is somehow their civic duty to interrogate members about their predicaments, always letting their own biases bleed through.
I've accidentally ended up on the recovery forum before because I peruse the "what's new section" and don't always look where the fuck I am going.
When I do end up giving my two cents and realize my mistake, I do take a step back and have an "oh, well shit" moment.
Although a lot of the time I realize that my words could be interpreted more than one way and aren't even a deterrent to "recovering" so I leave them.
Do other people implement such hesitation or regret when stepping all over the suicide discussion forum?
No, apparently not.
They think it's perfectly within their rights to cause a fuss and be thoughtlessly contrarian.
The respect and discretion never goes both ways.
To me, that's a problem.
Why does that problem deserve less acknowledgment than the opposite?
