It's entirely possible you're not an incel, particularly if you haven't developed stupid, rigid expectations regarding women and what they want/how they act/etc. I'm pretty confident in saying that leaning into inceldom or even self-identifying really will not do you any good unless you're seeking out questionable community ideals to be a part of and most likely will just degrade your sense of self-worth even further in the long term.
I think people should understand that "incel" is not a group, ideology, subculture, organization, community
or movement. it's none of these things.
"Incel is an abbreviation of involuntarily celibate, which is self-descriptive.
Up to 28% of American young men are Incel, according to the Washington Post, depending on how strict one wants to be when defining this term.
Calling involuntary celibates a movement is like calling poor people a movement or ideology.
To elaborate, 'pauperdom' is the state of being poor. This term is to poor people, what inceldom is to incels.
Both are life situations, the terms 'incel' and 'pauper' denote a person affected by these things.
Most people would widely agree that poor people aren't a movement, nor is there a specific ideology that which they adhere. Likewise, incels and inceldom are the same in that respect."