If your parents didn’t want you does that mean you shouldn’t exist?

[Iwouldratherdie]

if you were brought into this world against your choice and your parents just happen to not want you at all(for example what if your parents dudnt Intend on giving birth to you) should. Should you deserve a life of torture, harassment and pain?

 

[Superdeterminist]

No.

 

[Denise2207]

No-one deserves that

 

[Susannah]

No. Not unless you find a meaning with your existence. I don't know your backround story, but if your parents didn't wish you were born (as a parent myself, I find this horrific), your life must feel terrible. I get so angry on your behalf. How old are you? Any way to adopt you?
All my loveS

 

[Soul]

No, you don't deserve that. But unwanted children shouldn't be born at all. Being raised unwanted leaves terrible scars that never heal.

When I'm in charge of the world all children will be raised out in the countryside by people who are really good at raising children. They'll have fresh air and good food and a good education and pets and friends and a secure sense of being welcome and wanted.

 

[cowbain]

It fucking feels that way.

 

[esse_est_percipi]

You either exist or you don't. There is no 'should' or 'shouldn't'.

Sorry to sound like yoda, but I don't think existence is predicated on what people want or don't want.
The fact that you exist now is all that matters.
In a way we were all brought here against our choice (unless we had disembodied souls prior to birth which chose to be incarnated, which was then forgotten about).
But to answer your question, no. No one deserves any of those things.

 

[albino_elk]

If only sperm could not work without love of 2 people, it would be so much less suffering in this graveyard..

 

[Brokenwithbpd]

Absolutely not!

 

[albino_elk]

Absolutely not!

Prove it

 

[Brokenwithbpd]

Prove it

Prove it? Ok, I was adopted. My whore of a birth mom didn't want me, never once did I think I should exist because my shitty birth mom didn't want me.

 

[Deleted member 17331]

If I say that I and 10 other brothers were not wanted, would you believe it?

It still scares me how people throw children into this world as if it were feces that you could just flush. This is so tragic and sick. It is even more disturbing when I hear that I have to thank you for being alive. Shit, I need to throw up.

 

[Wayfaerer]

No, not at all!

If I say that I and 10 other brothers were not wanted, would you believe it?

It still scares me how people throw children into this world as if it were feces that you could just flush. This is so tragic and sick. It is even more disturbing when I hear that I have to thank you for being alive. Shit, I need to throw up.

Wow, 10 siblings and they all turned out to be boys? What were the odds of that??

 

[SadGirl]

even an unwanted pregnancy, nobody deserves to go through it, it was your parents' fault. you should not blame yourself for this, but I imagine that this situation must be heavy for you.

 

[Sprite_Geist]

Talking from a non-spiritual perspective: existence is a random chance - there is no grand plan or purpose for anyone. If you were not born then the question answers itself; then again you wouldn't be here to ask that which would make it redundant in the first place. Because you are here though you can ask it, but that makes the question pointless too. To answer you: It's irrelevant.

And no you don't deserve torture or pain because there is no reason for you to suffer - you've done nothing wrong.

 

[Deleted member 17331]

No, not at all!


Wow, 10 siblings and they all turned out to be boys? What were the odds of that??

All boys? No, boys and girls. I'm not fluent in English, I forgot to add "sisters" too. Thanks for remember.

 

[whywere]

WOW! This is me! Ihave a older brother and a younger sister. My "dad" thought the world of my brother and my "mom" thought the world of her daughter. I was the middle child and from day 1 till I was 18. my "parents" called me "the mistake" to my face all the time and also in front of everybody. THey did not want to "look bad" in the community, so I was not put up for adoption. When I was 18 they kicked me out and I never heard from them again, their choice. I never heard from my older brother or younger sister ever, agin their choice. If I tried to make contact all 4 would just hang up. Now when my "parents" died they left, in U.S. dollars, $500,000 for my sister and $2,000,000 to $3,000,000 for my brother and in the will I was not mentioned which meant I got ZERO. My "family" came from Germany to the U.S. and i asked if I could have something from my hertiage, and both brother and sister said no, end of subject. I always wished that I had been given up for adoption and I am 64 years young and it has messed my life up from the get go. Love and peace to all my great global family members here.

 

[iDieUDie80]

Sorry to bring levity here but all I can think of is Joe Dirt finding out his parents deserted him intentionally and didn't care about him and still managed to be with the girl he loved and find purpose.

No, no-one deserves a torturous life. But it doesn't have to be torture.

 

[whywere]

Sorry to bring levity here but all I can think of is Joe Dirt finding out his parents deserted him intentionally and didn't care about him and still managed to be with the girl he loved and find purpose.

No, no-one deserves a torturous life. But it doesn't have to be torture.

I totally agree BUT, like in my situation, it is VERY hard to overcome 1st 18 years of life that helps make how one views, acts and interacts with people. I heard a preacher once say give me him/her till the age of 5 and they will believe in those teachings the rest of their life.