Discussion If you put everyones problems in a pile in the center of the room, and were told to pick up whatever you wanted, everyone would grab their own problem

[BigPP]

Growing up my grandma always said that if everyone in the room put their problems in a giant pile, and was told to pick up whatever problems they wanted to deal with, everyone would end up picking their own problems back up. I find alot of truth in that, but was just wondering what others think.

 

[19andOverdue]

Growing up my grandma always said that if everyone in the room put their problems in a giant pile, and was told to pick up whatever problems they wanted to deal with, everyone would end up picking their own problems back up. I find alot of truth in that, but was just wondering what others think.

I guess it depends on how comfortable they are with their "brand" of suffering. Some people would trade anything just to be someone else, and some might feel they have a sense of control over their own problems

 

[Someone123]

Grandma not smart, is she?

Seriously, 99% of people have it better, about 1% leave by ctb, so I would definitely take someone else's problems, unless they were in the 1% with me.

 

[Sweet Chainsaw]

I strongly disagree!!

 

[RedHarlequin]

I think maybe your grandma had a life that wasn't full of awful, negative emotions.. I mean, a lot of old people went through war, but, and you can say Im a fool, I don't think war is as shitty as being suicidally depressed 18/7.

Even my psychiatrist told me once that I shouldn't kill myself, depression is not that bad, war is worse. I should think about what I will do to my parents.
I got really pissed off about this, I hadn't seen a lot of bad shit in life up to that point, so I had no arguments.

Now that shit has hit the fan externally too I seem to be dealing pretty well with things that others lose their heads about- death of loved ones, had a brain surgery recently, corona everywhere though I haven't had it myself, now war in Europe.

I think its because if you suffer internally intensely you stop giving a lot of shit about what is happening around you. So I just thought to myself after a couple months- that bitch should have her licence revoked and found a much better doc.

/ Rant over

 

[whatevs]

Completely disagree.

 

[FuneralCry]

I think that many people would probably choose to experience someone else's problems instead. I think that if someone has never experienced something then they have no idea as to how bad it really is, so I think that people are likely to pick someone elses problems over their own. I also think that people get tired of their own suffering and many would do anything to escape from that, even if it meant choosing someone elses problems.

 

[Messgram]

I wouldnt, many people have It alot better than me

 

[Forever Sleep]

I think that's a really interesting idea. To an extent, I get it- stick with what you know and all that.

Even worse, I think we can become almost defined by our perspective- to the extent that we might not even recognise ourselves if we didn't feel like that. Remember Stephen Fry being asked- if there was an off switch to being bipolar would he choose it? And he said- 'no'. Think it can seem like it has become part of your personality.

Asides from physical agony or incredibly traumatic lives or pasts (which I doubt anyone would want to pick from the pile), depression is so personal. What makes us all feel this way varies from person to person. Maybe we feel like we could 'cope' and even enjoy a different life with 'better' circumstances. Wonder if that's true though. Guess I sometimes wonder if it's me rather than the situation- so- if everything changed (for the better), would I suddenly become an optimist? Or, would I end up in the same place (just varying degrees of bad), no matter what the choice was?

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I don't know about you but I'd pick being too sexy, rich, and talented up from that pile instead of my existing problems of being the opposite of those things.

 

[Al Cappella]

Not quite. I think I'd pick "I have so much money I don't know what to do with myself" from the pile & see what that feels like…

 

[lostmyacc]

Total nonsense. People handle situations differently. Some peoples' problems are subjective and although valid other people maybe able to 'bounce back from' other problems are just unbelievable and not recoverable

 

[Graham]

No

I'd look for an easier one

 

[xo777]

disagree

 

[Foresight]

That's nonsensical to me. There's obviously a personal preference on what problems you wouldn't mind facing and little control over the ones you actually end up with.

 

[Leiden]

I sure as hell wouldn't pick my problems back up.

 

[Medicmedic72]

I sure wouldn't pick mine back up. Other people have it worse, but my circumstances have made it impossible for me.

 

[deathbecomesus]

I don't know if that's necessarily true for me. I have severe mental illness and lifelong trauma. I deal with delusional beliefs and sometimes go into periods of psychosis. I am never completely sane. I am either "sane enough to function" (i.e. paranoid thoughts I can ignore or at least work with) or "mental hospital / heavily monitored." Last week, in an episode of psychosis, I was convinced the fly on the wall was someone I used to know who shape-shifted into a fly to spy on me. It is frustrating, painful, and exhausting to be unable to tell what really happened VS what my mind made up. There are some things I believe that others tell me are not real but I still thoroughly believe them to this day. I also have dealt with back-to-back, nonstop trauma since childhood that have made me essentially crippled and I am incapable of dealing with basic life. As a cherry on top, I have chronic illness.

Not to say "woe is me" and spill my sob story but I guess this website kind of is for that and I feel sad so I might as well. I am not claiming others do not have it worse than me. I sometimes feel pathetic and weak for being unable to handle my life. Others have it far, far worse than me and still persevere. But I'd rather be broke, homeless, obese, or something else. Those are very difficult things to face and I wouldn't wish them on anyone, but that is how I feel.

 

[may13]

Growing up my grandma always said that if everyone in the room put their problems in a giant pile, and was told to pick up whatever problems they wanted to deal with, everyone would end up picking their own problems back up. I find alot of truth in that, but was just wondering what others think.

"The devil you know" as it were…

 

[LONE WOLF.]

Your 'Grandma' was a wise old bird because Yes l would pick up my own problems because I wouldn't want anyone else to have them!

 

[Insomniac]

It true and false.

Some people would rather be raped, groomed than be poor.

Some not.

Idk why but your granny's quote immediately made me think of the fact that in highschool, I knew a girl who was sexually abused repetitively by her dad but never told the police because of fear of losing her social status and becoming poor..

 

[lylas]

i would love to take some of my friend's problems. i hate watching them suffer with them. perhaps i could just take the whole pile and then ctb, like a scapegoat.

 

[Insomniac]

i would love to take some of my friend's problems. i hate watching them suffer with them. perhaps i could just take the whole pile and then ctb, like a scapegoat.

wow. wouldn't it be great? maybe adding my friends problems to mine is just what I need to conquer my SI.

Damn, too bad I don't have friends.

 

[catdaddy2601]

i would love to take some of my friend's problems. i hate watching them suffer with them. perhaps i could just take the whole pile and then ctb, like a scapegoat.

That's what I would do, take all the problems and use them as an incentive to ctb so everyone else can be free of their problems and I can be deleted

 

[Symbiote]

I would just leave the room entirely, drop off my problems and poof, "Thanks Goodwill for letting me donate so you can later profit off of them to some schmuck"

 

[Medicmedic72]

wow. wouldn't it be great? maybe adding my friends problems to mine is just what I need to conquer my SI.

Damn, too bad I don't have friends.

Same

I would just leave the room entirely, drop off my problems and poof, "Thanks Goodwill for letting me donate so you can later profit off of them to some schmuck"

Goodwill disgusts me. An empire built on free goods from people that thought they were helping others. Last time I went there I saw they had hiked prices to nearly retail for used goods. I needed a jello mold for my son to make jello and I can't find them in stores anymore.

 

[Zzzzz]

I would gladly trade places with someone who has terminal cancer.

 

[MyStateKilledMe]

Goodwill disgusts me. An empire built on free goods from people that thought they were helping others. Last time I went there I saw they had hiked prices to nearly retail for used goods. I needed a jello mold for my son to make jello and I can't find them in stores anymore.

If you need a jello mold, how about using a bundt cake pan? They're relatively cheap, and will technically produce a mold in the end. Or you can forget about the mold, let the jello set in a sheet cake pan instead, then use cookie cutters or simply a knife to make fun shapes. What are your thoughts?

 

[BigPP]

Growing up my grandma always said that if everyone in the room put their problems in a giant pile, and was told to pick up whatever problems they wanted to deal with, everyone would end up picking their own problems back up. I find alot of truth in that, but was just wondering what others think.

I guess alot of people aren't getting it, and actually falling for what the idea is about. You THINK everyone else has it better, but when you actually see what they are going through, you will realize it's probably better to stick with your shitty problems because at least you know how to deal with it.

Grandma not smart, is she?

Seriously, 99% of people have it better, about 1% leave by ctb, so I would definitely take someone else's problems, unless they were in the 1% with me.

Thats the point. You think everyone else has it better until you actually see their problems. People don't walk around wearing a shirt that says "my husband beats me", you know? Just t

I think maybe your grandma had a life that wasn't full of awful, negative emotions.. I mean, a lot of old people went through war, but, and you can say Im a fool, I don't think war is as shitty as being suicidally depressed 18/7.

Even my psychiatrist told me once that I shouldn't kill myself, depression is not that bad, war is worse. I should think about what I will do to my parents.
I got really pissed off about this, I hadn't seen a lot of bad shit in life up to that point, so I had no arguments.

Now that shit has hit the fan externally too I seem to be dealing pretty well with things that others lose their heads about- death of loved ones, had a brain surgery recently, corona everywhere though I haven't had it myself, now war in Europe.

I think its because if you suffer internally intensely you stop giving a lot of shit about what is happening around you. So I just thought to myself after a couple months- that bitch should have her licence revoked and found a much better doc.

/ Rant over

You couldn't be further from the truth about my grandma, but you wouldn't know it by looking at her, and that the whole point of the prompt

Not quite. I think I'd pick "I have so much money I don't know what to do with myself" from the pile & see what that feels like…

Yeah that sounds nice, but the too much money to deal with package comes with 5 people constantly trying to kill you, past trauma from sextual assault, everyone around you being fake and asking for money, 500+ people depending on you for their liveliehoods and an overwhelming urge to ctb. Do you really think there are people out there with one problem, and that problem being too much money? That's not a problem and you know it. I hope you are satisfied with the package, we don't accept returns.

I would gladly trade places with someone who has terminal cancer.

See, this is the response I'm looking for

 

[Insomniac]

I guess alot of people aren't getting it, and actually falling for what the idea is about. You THINK everyone else has it better, but when you actually see what they are going through, you will realize it's probably better to stick with your shitty problems because at least you know how to deal with it.

No because they're genetically and environmentally built to deal with their issues.

Saw a video of a woman in the Philippines who cooked from sewage. Using sewage as oil. Also cooking from leftover found in filthy garages and people brought that.

If I had these kind of issues, I'd just off myself. Anything is better (except having a vagina infested with worms lol)