If I’m ugly, just fucking say it

[burninghill]

I've been bullied since I was 10 years old, I'm 20 now. I was always ugly. I was born with buck teeth which was considered an oral deformity due to its severity and then I fell over and they scraped out of my face, I've spent my whole life trying to get my face to look normal.

I thought I finally looked decent, got my shit together and glowed up or whatever. It doesn't sound like a big deal, but some guy walked past me in the street and told me his 'friend likes me'. If you've been bullied you know what that means.

I'm out right now celebrating my birthday. I'm not in my home city. I'm supposed to kill myself in 8 days. Some people need to watch what they fucking say, any day could be someone's last. I looked in the mirror and I don't even look bad today. Is it that I'm deluded? Is it just because I'm alternative? Visibly queer?

I don't know. Usually I'd brush it off but it really upset me this time.
If I went right now and jumped off of the suspension bridge because of what they said then they'd never fucking know.

 

[Kanau_Nano]

I've had the same thoughts before. I've had random people make fun of how I look in public and it ruins my whole day. Hard to not think about it. Hope your birthday gets better.

 

[Bikishii]

I'm so sorry that happened, I've had the same experience and it's really shitty. That fucker doesn't deserve the time of day. I've had things like this go down that push me closer to ctb, but those pieces of shit don't deserve to have that much power over you, especially since he probably forgot about him being a prick within five minutes of making a shitty remark. He'll never know his comments pushed someone closer to death, and he doesn't seem like the type to care either.

I know that pain. I was ugly growing up and when I was younger I had cut myself plenty of times because I got caught in a drive-by insult or some other thing like that. I don't feel ashamed, but those cuts weren't worth it then and they wouldn't be now. It's an awful situation but it shows that you've at least got a heart and that you care, even if it hurts that his comment still sits with you, meanwhile he's getting his jollies by putting someone down.

I don't know the specific circumstances of your life or your situation, and I know this can be easier said than done, but don't let some asshole stranger push you closer to the edge. Don't let him mentally hold your hand and walk you to the suspension bridge. Your life is far too precious for these heartless fucks to have such power over you.

 

[Quietist]

I struggle with my appearance as well, especially getting older and having dealt with a lot of stress that has changed my face.

One thing I have learned, is that when they say "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" that shit really is true.

I have been clowned on by certain guys, and had them do that same thing, "My friend likes you" but it's just them clowning because they think you're ugly.

Yet I have also been hit on my certain guys.

Then when I was going through my "transman" phase, I had women calling me handsome and beautiful.

It really is subjective.

All I can really say is, even though I know it's enraging and hurtful, you have to try to stop giving a fuck what other people think.

Bullies bully because they themselves have weakness within.

 

[Aflame5926]

I thought I finally looked decent, got my shit together and glowed up or whatever. It doesn't sound like a big deal, but some guy walked past me in the street and told me his 'friend likes me'. If you've been bullied you know what that means.

sorry can explain it this normie why this is a form of bullying?

All I can really say is, even though I know it's enraging and hurtful, you have to try to stop giving a fuck what other people think.

^^^^^^^^

do the fuck the things you want to do and dont give a fuck easier said then done tho

 

[burninghill]

sorry can explain it this normie why this is a form of bullying?

^^^^^^^^

do the fuck the things you want to do and dont give a fuck easier said then done tho

It's really common if you're bullied, especially as a girl to have boys tell you that 'their friend likes you'.

It's supposed to be funny because you're too ugly for it to be true and they get a laugh out of embarrassing their friend by implying they found you attractive

All I can really say is, even though I know it's enraging and hurtful, you have to try to stop giving a fuck what other people think.

Honestly I'm a very confident person now and shit like that doesn't usually affect me (anymore), I think they just caught me in a weak moment LMAO. I also haven't been made fun of in that way for a few years.

 

[Aflame5926]

It's really common if you're bullied, especially as a girl to have boys tell you that 'their friend likes you'.
It's supposed to be funny because you're too ugly for it to be true and they get a laugh out of embarrassing their friend by implying they found you attractive

clearly i lived under a rock. never heard about this one. tbh i do find it a weird.
because i can imagine somebody actually tries to wingman it for his bro.

well i guess they fucked it up for all their bro that needed a wingman.
THANK IDIOTS that why we cant have nice things anymore

 

[Rihan]

I thought I finally looked decent, got my shit together and glowed up or whatever. It doesn't sound like a big deal, but some guy walked past me in the street and told me his 'friend likes me'. If you've been bullied you know what that means.

I thought only little kids did that. Who would have the audacity to do that, especially to a stranger on the street? I see online trends of people making fun of random people. It's really immature, and dehumanizing to see.