Venting I wish it was okay for men to be "softer"

[Mirelight]

I wish I could give my roommate a hug without being labled a "weirdo" or "gay".

I wish people would come and ask if I was okay when I cry in public instead of them physically recoiling at the sight and doing their best to ignore.

I wish it was okay for me to use "cute" text/ emojis without being labeled a "creep"

I wish it was okay to have "girlish" motivation quotes hung in my walls without being judged.

I wish it was okay for me to talk about my insecurities without being called "sensitive"

I wish people wouldn't silently judge me as they read this post coming from a "straight guy"

I wish...

 

[Spite]

Me too. There have been several times in my life where I have been shamed, shunned, or made to feel bad/weird for being very sensitive and in touch with my emotions as a guy. Screw anyone who makes you feel bad over this. Give your roommate a hug. Keep those motivational quotes up on the walls. Use those cute texts/emojis

 

[EmptyBottle]

in dm, with a profile that doesn't obviously reveal gender (only mentioning when asked), it can be easier, especially if one finds someone who is lonely and interacts.

if one wants to hide gender/age attributes, one could say (when asked) "I'd rather not share coz I've nearly been doxxed", regardless of whether that fact is true or not.

 

[CarbonBased]

I wish I could give my roommate a hug without being labled a "weirdo" or "gay".

I wish people would come and ask if I was okay when I cry in public instead of them physically recoiling at the sight and doing their best to ignore.

I wish it was okay for me to use "cute" text/ emojis without being labeled a "creep"

I wish it was okay to have "girlish" motivation quotes hung in my walls without being judged.

I wish it was okay for me to talk about my insecurities without being called "sensitive"

I wish people wouldn't silently judge me as they read this post coming from a "straight guy"

I wish...

I totally agree. I wish we lived in a world, where people could just do what they feel like doing and behave in the way they feel like behaving without having to worry about adhering to some abstract notion of gender. I have this experience with clothes. Sometimes I wish I could wear something 'feminine' without it being labeled as 'gay' or 'trans' or whatever, but you can't control what other people think about you, unfortunately

 

[victimized]

I wish I could give my roommate a hug without being labled a "weirdo" or "gay".

I wish people would come and ask if I was okay when I cry in public instead of them physically recoiling at the sight and doing their best to ignore.

I wish it was okay for me to use "cute" text/ emojis without being labeled a "creep"

I wish it was okay to have "girlish" motivation quotes hung in my walls without being judged.

I wish it was okay for me to talk about my insecurities without being called "sensitive"

I wish people wouldn't silently judge me as they read this post coming from a "straight guy"

I wish...

I just want to say that I'm a straight man myself who routinely does a lot of these things. I hug all my friends, guys and girls included, sometimes my friend is the one who initiates it first. I use the "cute" text/emojis like "^^" or "" or whatever else. I talk to my friends all the time about my insecurities and the only person calling me sensitive ends up being myself lol.

I don't really cry in public, and if I did I would probably experience that recoil if not around my friends. Idk, i've always struggled to cry in general.

What I'm trying to say is it's definitely the people you surround yourself with, because I used to be hit with the gay allegations all the time, yet now I'm more outgoing and softer and rarely am I accused. I have lots of hope that good people exist, but I'm still sad that the general public doesn't act that way :<

 

[ratchet381]

I just want to say that I'm a straight man myself who routinely does a lot of these things. I hug all my friends, guys and girls included, sometimes my friend is the one who initiates it first. I use the "cute" text/emojis like "^^" or "" or whatever else. I talk to my friends all the time about my insecurities and the only person calling me sensitive ends up being myself lol.

I don't really cry in public, and if I did I would probably experience that recoil if not around my friends. Idk, i've always struggled to cry in general.

What I'm trying to say is it's definitely the people you surround yourself with, because I used to be hit with the gay allegations all the time, yet now I'm more outgoing and softer and rarely am I accused. I have lots of hope that good people exist, but I'm still sad that the general public doesn't act that way :<

I am a straight man but a hug even from a man would mean a lot tbh. They should have groups for that.

 

[victimized]

I am a straight man but a hug even from a man would mean a lot tbh. They should have groups for that.

I think that would be nice lol. I used to be uncomfortable hugging other men for that same reason. It took a moment of extreme vulnerability in the aftermath of an overdose attempt where I hugged the one friend stuck by my side to see that there's no reason not to hug my friends. They mean a lot to me <3

 

[peacebenow]

I hope that society as a whole one day becomes accepting and changes for the good. it is ok to do all of these things and please know that the people you surround yourself with make a big difference. there are so many men that do these things and are not looked down upon. our very current political system and bad role models have created a place that makes all of this stand out that much more right now and that much more looked down upon right now. but be a rebel and do it all, you will become the role model needed for the next generation and for all the other males wanting to be who they are which are kind hearted men filled with humanity. there are leaders and amazing role models to look up to who are caring humane men to seek out as examples as well. I am sorry for how people can be.

 

[Cauliflour]

Honestly, stop worrying about what others think of you and just do it. Being complicit isn't gonna fix the societal problem. Do what you wanna do, if it's not hurting anyone then what's the problem?