I wish I could’ve been beautiful

[wildflowers1996]

I know that sounds so shallow but I guess that's who I am
my life would've been so different in every way

 

[Ondine0000ff]

I don't think it's that shallow, I mean a lot of people have thought "i wish i looked like this or that" at least once in their life.

 

[avaruus]

Don't we all? But prettiness can be a curse, especially for a woman. Not to sound too dark, but they probably are the most common victims of sexual harrasment etc...

 

[wildflowers1996]

yes but it's actually one of the main reasons I want to ctb because I'll never feel pretty
It sounds so ridiculous but it's true

Avaruus yeah that is true but it doesn't stop me wanting it

 

[アホペンギン]

yes but it's actually one of the main reasons I want to ctb because I'll never feel pretty
It sounds so ridiculous but it's true

Avaruus yeah that is true but it doesn't stop me wanting it

Its not ridiculous to want to ctb because you feel you aren't attractive, if you are sure of your choice and it is disturbing the quality of life, your appearance, it is a completely valid reason to ctb. I have said many times before that not everyone is capable of handling things similarly so wanting to ctb for this reason isn't ridiculous at all.

 

[Altalune]

I am objectively beautiful. That caused me a world of issues.

I was assaulted by someone at my faculty, the guys I dated were mostly shallow, I faced harassment almost every week by motorcycle couriers and random guys. It is not pleasant.

Of course, it's sometimes great to be pretty, but I genuinely wish I wasn't. My looks didn't stop me from Ctb soon, and if I were average, maybe I would find someone who truly loved me for my personality, not people who liked my appearance and ran away from me during difficult times.

 

[wildflowers1996]

Altatune - I'm so sorry you went through that :( you deserve to have someone who loves you for your personality and not leave you when things are hard.

I guess I want to be loved for both looks and personality and I'm not pretty and I don't value my personality much either I'm boring and I'm not really talented at anything either lol

 

[voyager]

Well, considering the emphasis society is putting on this issue it's not so shallow at all wanting to be accepted. Not sure if this is realistic, but am wondering, what it would be like if all of us had a certain beauty and attractiveness to one another, so that, superficial interests aside, it really only came down to one's personal connection.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I am objectively beautiful. That caused me a world of issues.

I was assaulted by someone at my faculty, the guys I dated were mostly shallow, I faced harassment almost every week by motorcycle couriers and random guys. It is not pleasant.

Of course, it's sometimes great to be pretty, but I genuinely wish I wasn't. My looks didn't stop me from Ctb soon, and if I were average, maybe I would find someone who truly loved me for my personality, not people who liked my appearance and ran away from me during difficult times.

Not to be rude, but I've heard similar things that have also happened to women who are average looking and even below average looking. Being attractive or not doesn't really make a difference. Power dynamics and vunerability play a bigger role harassment and assault.

 

[Altalune]

Not to be rude, but I've heard similar things that have also happened to women who are average looking and even below average looking. Being attractive or not doesn't really make a difference. Power dynamics and vunerability play a bigger role harassment and assault.

Lmao no worries, I know I'm pretty

 

[EvisceratedJester]

Lmao no worries, I know I'm pretty

My comment was a general statement surrounding cases of assault and harassment. I wasn't implying that you weren't pretty. I don't even really care about it. My main point is that being attractive has little to nothing to do with assault and harassment. Making these sorts of issues out to be something that is specifically connected to attractiveness is bad since it can make it harder for victims who don't meet social beauty standards to be taken seriously when these things happen to them. Most perpetrators specifically target those whom they have power over and those whom they perceive as vulnerable. Attractiveness isn't that big of factor here.

 

[Amyend88]

People tell me I'm beautiful, but I don't see it. All I see is a pathetic ugly girl who was raped and abused and I must have deserved it

 

[Shiva_Story]

can you imagine how it feels to be a beautiful woman validated with attention and appreciated for beauty by everyone everywhere for a certain period of time and for this validation and appreciation to gradually dissapear with increasing age and in the end being mostly ignored, dismissed and invisible.. must be depressing

 

[FailureToAll]

Me too, or atleast just average.