Venting I think my friends are terrible.

[EtterathButterfly]

Now, I have many friend groups. The problem is, I don't feel like I belong in any of them.

In one friend group theyre so caring, so kind.
But only to each other. A few days ago one of my friends in that friend group was venting about a previous conversation, but like four other people shut him down immediately saying "stop bringing up past arguments, you're making us feel sad". I've seen this same thing happen to this friend about like three times now? The recent one was just anxieties about a possible world war in 2024 (iirc he said it specifically because he lives in Israel) and they just told him to stop it and that he's bringing down the mood. At least he called them out on their toxic positivity.
I am not exactly a comforting person, so I didn't talk to him or anything. I just marked the channel as read and moved on. I'm probably an asshole for doing that though, but I don't really care for any of my friends anymore.

Another friend group, and I've been in this one a bit longer than the previous one I talked about, but there's been some fucky stuff in that group.
Someone who I thought was my friend tried to turn everyone against each other. And acted so innocent, using the "im the youngest in the friend group" excuse to be coddled often. One of my friends there, they called him out and told us all what he's done. The friend trying to turn everyone against each other said he was in a mental hospital, but about a week ago, someone saw him online in a game in the same server as her. But he immediately left.
I don't know if I should be thankful that I wasn't one of the ones he tried to manipulate. Someone told me that at least he tried to shield me away from this shitshow, acting nice to me in dms without talking behind others backs. She told me she thinks because I'm "friend shaped". I think I'm just too apathetic to care anymore.
god, I miss him. I don't really care about what happened, I just want him back.

I guess I'm apathetic to these situations because I've seen them too many times already when I'm so quick to jump from friend group to friend group. Or maybe they're not my friends at all, maybe I just wanted to feel like I'm loved when it feels so artificial and fake.

 

[Serious_Sam]

A few days ago one of my friends in that friend group was venting about a previous conversation, but like four other people shut him down immediately saying "stop bringing up past arguments, you're making us feel sad"

this makes me sad, empathy seems to be lost on many unfortunately. some people just want to be heard and it breaks my heart when someone is basically just told to shut up. :(

 

[huggyob]

relationships and friendships built off of the good moments which avoids all possible sources of negativity and shuts them down is a ticking time bomb, it's only time until it all piles up into a huge cesspool of grief and hatred waiting to get out. the act of hearing someone out means so much to certain people regardless of the context or if the other party provided any sort of response, honestly i prefer when people dont try and stand up and come up with a premediated course of actions to my problems as if they're in my shoes.
i truly hope you find others to be around and which reflect well on your personality as a friend group greatly transforms your persona and how you act with others. the 2nd friend group for instance as you described has one individual getting themselves out of situations using the red herring fallacy, ask yourself is you'd like to see you become them. the choice is ultimately up to you of how you proceed - the most i can do is feel empathetic and wish you all the best.