I think my ex might have blocked me

[ThatStateOfMind]

I may be wrong but I think she blocked me and I don't even know why. She supported me through a lot and didn't seem to mind doing so, I thanked her profusely and reminded her that she didn't have to. I went to send a message and it failed to send, then sent as a text message, and certain options that used to be there like "send read receipts" and "share focus stats" are gone. She was talking to me without her boyfriend knowing so maybe guilt got the better of her or maybe he found out and had her block me. Im not blocked on instagram or messenger (yet I suppose it could always happen) so it just confuses me why she would block me with no warning or anything. He might've even taken her phone and blocked me on his own, I have no clue.

I feel so lost rn guys, we had a great conversation last time we called. We chatted, talked about her new tattoo, and I thought it went well. If she did block me on iMessages, why didn't she block me on the other platforms? I would call to verify I'm blocked but I'm scared to know. I hate this uncertainty, and the pain it's causing me. I can't avoid it forever, I know I'm eventually gonna find out. She was 1/2 the reason I haven't CTB yet, idk. I've talked to friends a little and he thinks her boyfriend might be the reason as well (we both knew him in high school and he was a big control freak). I would understand if anything I messaged could've been taken the wrong way but i just wanted a platonic friendship. This fucking sucks.

The ironic part is that I thought everything was okay.

 

[WeepingWillow]

New phone maybe? Read receipts might be disabled by default. How long has it been since you last heard from them? I'm really sorry. It sucks when someone you care about isn't there anymore suddenly. Hope things work out. Hugs and I hope you can find other support in the mean time.

 

[ctbsurvivor<3]

It can be natural to assume the worst, but it's possible she's somewhere without data or wifi or having some other technical glitch with her phone.
I'd wait it out and see if she responds within a reasonable timeframe before otherwise trying to reach out. I hope a controlling new partner is not the case :/
Hopefully, it's just a misunderstanding. It can be tough to lose an important part of your support system out of nowhere and for seemingly no reason.

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

New phone maybe? Read receipts might be disabled by default. How long has it been since you last heard from them? I'm really sorry. It sucks when someone you care about isn't there anymore suddenly. Hope things work out. Hugs and I hope you can find other support in the mean time.

Just last night, so I don't think it's a new phone or anything. It really does suck, I just feel so down now as a result of this and i have no clue what to do.

It can be natural to assume the worst, but it's possible she's somewhere without data or wifi or having some other technical glitch with her phone.
I'd wait it out and see if she responds within a reasonable timeframe before otherwise trying to reach out. I hope a controlling new partner is not the case :/
Hopefully, it's just a misunderstanding. It can be tough to lose an important part of your support system out of nowhere and for seemingly no reason.

She was active on Facebook, so the only thing I can think of is a phone glitch, and I hope it's just that. I'm gonna wait until tomorrow night probably, she generally got back to me within a day. Her boyfriend was once my friend but he hates me, went as far as trying to get her to promise that if they broke up she wouldn't go back to me. I hope it's all some big misunderstanding and she hasn't blocked me, because she truly was a huge part of my support system. I wouldn't even be as hurt if she told me she was going to block me and gave me a reason if that's what happened, but for it just to happen.

If he blocked me without her permission on her phone, I can't imagine it would go well for him, idk I hope it's just a simple phone glitch though. I'm praying to whatever God there is that it's what happened. I was doing alright mentally but this dragged me back down to a bad place so I'm gonna try to keep my mind very occupied tomorrow.
I half expected to be judged, idk why. Being called crazy or something because I expect my ex to stay in contact but I'm glad you guys are understanding

 

[WeepingWillow]

Yeah If it goes on for more than a couple days, I'd just call. If it hangs up with out ringing then you have your answer (albiet a shitty one). Good luck man. The douche sounds like a real ass. It's going to be painful but to be honest you're better off keeping a healthy distance from that kind of "friend. " I hope she comes to her senses and gets away from that guy. Moreover I hope things work out for you. You didn't deserve that kind of betrayal.

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

Yeah If it goes on for more than a couple days, I'd just call. If it hangs up with out ringing then you have your answer (albiet a shitty one). Good luck man. The douche sounds like a real ass. It's going to be painful but to be honest you're better off keeping a healthy distance from that kind of "friend. " I hope she comes to her senses and gets away from that guy. Moreover I hope things work out for you. You didn't deserve that kind of betrayal.

Yeah, on iPhone it will either ring once and go straight to voicemail or it'll go straight to voicemail. If I'm blocked it's gonna hurt, pretty badly. We were friends for close to 4 years before we got together so I suppose if I'm blocked, there's that friendship gone for good. He honestly is a huge asshole. I hope she does too, I'm not shaming here but everything he got her on Valentine's Day was clearance and there was practically no thought. His parents also hate her. I know this because she talked about it on call before. I hope things work out in a way that doesn't hurt too bad if I am blocked. If I'm not blocked, and I hope I'm not, then alls well, I'll for sure either update on this post or make a new post when I get my answer. Thanks for your support, it really means a lot to me.

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

I'm probably gonna call tomorrow night and see if it goes through if I don't get a message anytime between now and then. Goodnight guys, thanks, and I'll be sure to update here after I do it.

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

So just an update, I'm even more certain I'm blocked since she still hasn't seen my message and anxiety got the better of me and I asked on messenger if she blocked my number. I asked it nicely and I hope I get a response but I'm scared she's just gonna block me on there but idk.

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

So I got an answer and I'm gonna sound absolutely stupid now but apparently she didn't have minutes, I assumed it was something different because my messages sent through so that's why I assumed i was blocked. Apparently she just didn't have minutes and got them now.

 

[WeepingWillow]

Glad it worked out. Phew! Hang in there man. Things will run their course. Best wishes.

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

Glad it worked out. Phew! Hang in there man. Things will run their course. Best wishes.

Thanks for all your support on this thread, hopefully I can return the favor some day :)

 

[FuneralCry]

It must had been so awful and disappointing going through all that, it must be a relief to realise that you weren't blocked after all.

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

It must had been so awful and disappointing going through all that, it must be a relief to realise that you weren't blocked after all.

It certainly was. It was mainly due to just feeling like it was so sudden and without reason.