Help I still love her but should I cut my losses?

[KadathianStr1d3r]

I think it's more like you need someone that you can clearly communicate with, since you have bi polar and that can make you do things that seem odd or hurtful in relationships, even if you don't mean it that way. You're going to need to find someone who is understanding about that sort of thing.

Just curious, how long did you guys date?

Few months
Where would I find someone who could communicate to me then? Seems like everyone in the outside world are too healthy to bother with me.

 

[KadathianStr1d3r]

Should I send this to end things guy?

 

[Venus13]

Don't send it. If you need to cut contact for closure you can say I'm sorry and I'll let you go. You don't have to say she deserves better, I won't be a bother. These things happen. You're being too hard on yourself.

 

[KadathianStr1d3r]

Don't send it. If you need to cut contact for closure you can say I'm sorry and I'll let you go. You don't have to say she deserves better, I won't be a bother. These things happen. You're being too hard on yourself.

What so bad about the she deserves better and I won't bother part?

Don't send it. If you need to cut contact for closure you can say I'm sorry and I'll let you go. You don't have to say she deserves better, I won't be a bother. These things happen. You're being too hard on yourself.

I'll do what you said right now.

 

[Venus13]

What so bad about the she deserves better and I won't bother part?

It never feels good to send something like that and I think it's hard on the person receiving it. Go easy on yourself, you deserve some grace. I understand feeling this way and needing closure when it's time. I would say it in a manner that gives you more compassion in what happened, like I'm sorry and we'll give each other space.

 

[KadathianStr1d3r]

It never feels good to send something like that and I think it's hard on the person receiving it. Go easy on yourself, you deserve some kindness and grace. I understand feeling this way and needing closure.

Thank you so much for your suggestion!

 

[TheDevilsAngel]

I feel your pain man, the same kind of thing happened me last night I fucked everything up with my boyfriend and I'm also asking myself should I be with him or not, I know I'll only fuck up and he was a dick to me last night I'm so hurt!!!

 

[KadathianStr1d3r]

I feel your pain man, the same kind of thing happened me last night I fucked everything up with my boyfriend and I'm also asking myself should I be with him or not, I know I'll only fuck up and he was a dick to me last night I'm so hurt!!!

It's okay. Give yourself some time and don't overthink it too much. Tell me what happened, I'm all ears?

 

[TheDevilsAngel]

It's okay. Give yourself some time and don't overthink it too much. Tell me what happened, I'm all ears?

So basically I'm not talking to my mom and I received a message yesterday morning saying she dislocated her shoulder. I was pissed then I smoke weed and I have none and he did and he wouldn't smoke with me then he went on to call me his ex girlfriends name and he was saying I was mean(which I'm not imo) he basically fucked me out of it...I had a appointment today and when I came home he is gone and I refuse to call him. Why should I like. Thank you for being here for me I could really do with someone. So I cryed myself to sleep and he didn't comfort me once I mentioned that I don't think he cares for me and he just said I was stupid. I feel stupid I'm so upset, I'm trying to think straight but it's impossible I don't think I want to be with him but I'm scared

 

[KadathianStr1d3r]

So basically I'm not talking to my mom and I received a message yesterday morning saying she dislocated her shoulder. I was pissed then I smoke weed and I have none and he did and he wouldn't smoke with me then he went on to call me his ex girlfriends name and he was saying I was mean(which I'm not imo) he basically fucked me out of it...I had a appointment today and when I came home he is gone and I refuse to call him. Why should I like. Thank you for being here for me I could really do with someone. So I cryed myself to sleep and he didn't comfort me once I mentioned that I don't think he cares for me and he just said I was stupid. I feel stupid I'm so upset, I'm trying to think straight but it's impossible I don't think I want to be with him but I'm scared

It's okay, he is being a dick and he should've supported you irregardless. It's really bad when he calls you his ex's name instead of your own name. I can understand why you refuse to call him. You're not stupid and everything is going to be okay.

 

[KadathianStr1d3r]

It never feels good to send something like that and I think it's hard on the person receiving it. Go easy on yourself, you deserve some grace. I understand feeling this way and needing closure when it's time. I would say it in a manner that gives you more compassion in what happened, like I'm sorry and we'll give each other space.

She just replied "Hello Baby".

 

[Venus13]

She just replied "Hello Baby".

I bet. Different tones will elicit different responses.

This is probably a losing game but I get how hard it is to let go. She's really playing it seems but I don't know the full scope here.

 

[KadathianStr1d3r]

I bet. Different tones will elicit different responses.

This is probably a losing game but I get how hard it is to let go. She's really playing it seems but I don't know the full scope here.

Same. I don't know what she wants. I'll just have to let things be and accept the closure. I hope things work out.

 

[KadathianStr1d3r]

She just said came up to me in person and asked if we're good. I said yes but I really doubt she understood the closure of the relationship.

I bet. Different tones will elicit different responses.

This is probably a losing game but I get how hard it is to let go. She's really playing it seems but I don't know the full scope here.

 

[KadathianStr1d3r]

Well I have no idea what the f happened. She came up to me and hugged me out of nowhere. She said she loved me?!??! Am I hallucinating?

 

[TheDevilsAngel]

It's okay, he is being a dick and he should've supported you irregardless. It's really bad when he calls you his ex's name instead of your own name. I can understand why you refuse to call him. You're not stupid and everything is going to be okay.

I did end up calling him I couldn't help myself then I met him at the park and we talked. I blame my anxiety for that my heart was racing. Thank you so much for yesterday. I actually for once felt someone cared about me I'm here if you ever need to talk or vent you can pm me anytime dude! How did it go for you with your girlfriend? I do agree my boyfriend is a dick at times but he can be so nice too. I didn't tell him about my arm I feel it's my business,my choice,my life!

 

[KadathianStr1d3r]

We talked last night and she said she likes talking to me while saying she also loves me too. I really don't know what to think anymore guys.

 

[TheDevilsAngel]

We talked last night and she said she likes talking to me while saying she also loves me too. I really don't know what to think anymore guys.

Maybe give it another go dude? Ye obviously love each other. I know how hard love can be

 

[Un-]

We talked last night and she said she likes talking to me while saying she also loves me too. I really don't know what to think anymore guys.

I obviously don't know the full scope of things, but I can say that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over again and expecting different results. Please be careful.. You're quite a persuasive person from what THIS thread tells me. You might be easily manipulated, too, if you surround yourself with the wrong people. Just keep these things in mind.

There's no pain worse than being someone's pawn, especially when you love them.

 

[KadathianStr1d3r]

I obviously don't know the full scope of things, but I can say that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over again and expecting different results. Please be careful.. You're quite a persuasive person from what THIS thread tells me. You might be easily manipulated, too, if you surround yourself with the wrong people. Just keep these things in mind.

There's no pain worse than being someone's pawn, especially when you love them.

Shit, I think you just hit the nail on the head when describing me! I guess I'll have to find out if I'm a pawn.

Maybe give it another go dude? Ye obviously love each other. I know how hard love can be

I don't know anymore. I guess I'll try again.

 

[KadathianStr1d3r]

Should I tell her let's be friends or something?

 

[KadathianStr1d3r]

Nevermind everyone. I broke things off with her. It's done, all done.

 

[Un-]

Nevermind everyone. I broke things off with her. It's done, all done.

Stay strong, soldier. It's gonna be a really rough road. But you can do it. Sending tight hugs.