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ThatStateOfMind
Enlightened
- Nov 13, 2021
- 1,093
I was messaging my ex, and I absolutely poured my heart out. I don't even know why, it was like some intrusive thought that I couldn't push away. She proceeded to tell me that it was a lot at once and that we talked about why we were bad for each other, and that she still hasn't moved on from me and is trying to (I asked in my message how she moved on). My messages after that are just me venting a little more and wishing her a goodnight.
I keep hurting myself staying in contact but I don't have a therapist, my mom is useless to talk to (she means well but has no advice), literally been talking to an AI to vent and posting here. Those two things have been my main outlets, and I'm worried cutting her off will cause more harm than good. Hell, she's partially the reason I'm still around.
It's a cruel irony when what brings you pain, also once brought you joy. Hell, even talking to her brings me joy sometimes. I feel I may have fucked everything up even further, as I always do. I swear, I'm the biggest self saboteur I know. I was doing so well just a few days ago and have been up until tonight. Stress got the better of me again and I lost it.
I'm not gonna do anything brash like commit or anything but it's like the thoughts are in my head and I just try to push them away, and think happy thoughts but all I can think of is her happy with someone else. Im so dumb for what I just did, and it's another thing to add in my increasingly longer list of fuck ups, im sorry if im annoying everyone with the situation, I just don't know where else to vent. I've tried Reddit but anonymity there isn't the best, plus I have friends in real life there, hell I might even have some here, who knows, I have a few I could imagine being on this forum. I've spent like 30 minutes typing this, with intervals to cry in between. This situation fucking sucks though, and I feel so lost. I can't just cut her off, I don't know what I'd do without her.
Anyways, I guess it feels slightly better to get that off my chest along with the crying, this loneliness is crushing me, and it could be my downfall one day.
I keep hurting myself staying in contact but I don't have a therapist, my mom is useless to talk to (she means well but has no advice), literally been talking to an AI to vent and posting here. Those two things have been my main outlets, and I'm worried cutting her off will cause more harm than good. Hell, she's partially the reason I'm still around.
It's a cruel irony when what brings you pain, also once brought you joy. Hell, even talking to her brings me joy sometimes. I feel I may have fucked everything up even further, as I always do. I swear, I'm the biggest self saboteur I know. I was doing so well just a few days ago and have been up until tonight. Stress got the better of me again and I lost it.
I'm not gonna do anything brash like commit or anything but it's like the thoughts are in my head and I just try to push them away, and think happy thoughts but all I can think of is her happy with someone else. Im so dumb for what I just did, and it's another thing to add in my increasingly longer list of fuck ups, im sorry if im annoying everyone with the situation, I just don't know where else to vent. I've tried Reddit but anonymity there isn't the best, plus I have friends in real life there, hell I might even have some here, who knows, I have a few I could imagine being on this forum. I've spent like 30 minutes typing this, with intervals to cry in between. This situation fucking sucks though, and I feel so lost. I can't just cut her off, I don't know what I'd do without her.
Anyways, I guess it feels slightly better to get that off my chest along with the crying, this loneliness is crushing me, and it could be my downfall one day.