I lie to you, sometimes.

[Un-]

I'll say something like.. I have no friends.. It's not true. I have school friends. I have online friends.

Or I'll say my family doesn't care about me. I don't know if they do, but I do know tears will be shed when I die.

I'm not upset by it or anything. I'm guessing.. When you're venting, you base what you say on how you feel. If I feel alone, I'll say I am.

At the same time, sometimes it genuinely does feel like that.. I haven't spoken to any of my school friends for weeks. Better than most here, but the point is that they're so distant.. I don't see them as friends. By technicality, they are.

My family forget me all the time. I haven't spoken with anyone in my family for almost the entire year. But I technically "have" them, even though it doesn't feel like it at all.

I hope I'm not alone in this.

 

[BreathOnAMirror]

I feel like we all definetly base our posts off how we're feeling at the time of writting, and that's perfectly fine, this is a discussion board not a scientific paper, it's about the emotions we're having, not the objective truth. Sometimes I wake up and I feel like I have no real friends in life, that everyone will leave eventually, sometimes I wake up and I feel like I do have a couple people who I really matter to, both of those feelings can occur within minutes of each other even, and those would create two very different posts, but that doesn't make either post fake or a lie, because this is a forum about how we feel at a certain moment, y'know?

 

[Forever Sleep]

Absolutely- you're not alone...

I recently had a big bitch on here about how unreliable friendship is and how it's always me who makes the effort. Today- my friend texts me out the blue... Feeling rather guilty...

Still- like you say- I expect many of us are indeed alone on here to varying degrees. If we're feeling lonely, we're probably more likely to exagerate.

I think you're just exceptionally hard on yourself- I remember past posts from you saying you felt like you didn't care about people's problems. Irony is- you're likely a much nicer person than you think if these sorts of things even occurr to you- It may just mean that you're over saturated and need to focus on you for a bit.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Well, I for one haven't lied or exaggerated my situation one bit. I have no family, as everyone has died within the past few years. I have no friends for all kinds of reasons, I guess. Never made any lasting ones at jobs I had since most wanted to go to bars after work and I don't drink, nor do I want to go to bars. Been there, done that. Plus, I cared for my mother's needs for many years, and after work I needed to take care of things she needed quite often. The only people I ever talk to are the clerks at stores I visit, or when I need to make a phone call to a store to see if they have something. I had to talk with a lawyer on a few occasions when I recently had my will drafted, as well as the lady at the crematory when I pre-paid for my cremation. Oh yeah, I had to talk to the guy who is making my mother's monument for her grave, and will have to again, when the stone gets here, in order to work out the engraving. I guess I talk to the teller at the bank when I go there, too. But, that's all just business talk, and, sometimes, some brief small talk. Other than that, I'm home, clearing out some of my stuff, trying to get rid of other things, and getting my affairs in order. I don't understand the reason for anyone to lie about their situation. Your life isn't bad enough, so you want it to come off as worse to others? That sounds like "trying to keep up with the Jones'" (don't know what that is, look it up)

 

[Wannagonow]

I really enjoy being a member of this site. I can be anonymous, honest, nervous- whatever. For me personally It's not in my best interest to be less than honest. If I want people to be able to be supportive (when I might be needing that), then it's important I'm giving honest, accurate information.

 

[Un-]

I feel like we all definetly base our posts off how we're feeling at the time of writting, and that's perfectly fine, this is a discussion board not a scientific paper, it's about the emotions we're having, not the objective truth. Sometimes I wake up and I feel like I have no real friends in life, that everyone will leave eventually, sometimes I wake up and I feel like I do have a couple people who I really matter to, both of those feelings can occur within minutes of each other even, and those would create two very different posts, but that doesn't make either post fake or a lie, because this is a forum about how we feel at a certain moment, y'know?

Exactly. Regardless, we act on how we feel. Not really the objective truth.

Absolutely- you're not alone...

I recently had a big bitch on here about how unreliable friendship is and how it's always me who makes the effort. Today- my friend texts me out the blue... Feeling rather guilty...

Still- like you say- I expect many of us are indeed alone on here to varying degrees. If we're feeling lonely, we're probably more likely to exagerate.

I think you're just exceptionally hard on yourself- I remember past posts from you saying you felt like you didn't care about people's problems. Irony is- you're likely a much nicer person than you think if these sorts of things even occurr to you- It may just mean that you're over saturated and need to focus on you for a bit.

Mhm. I don't think you should feel guilty about it though.

I don't think I'm a good person at all. The good news, or bad news, is that I'm going to see a psychologist next year. Maybe that'll do me some good.

Well, I for one haven't lied or exaggerated my situation one bit. I have no family, as everyone has died within the past few years. I have no friends for all kinds of reasons, I guess. Never made any lasting ones at jobs I had since most wanted to go to bars after work and I don't drink, nor do I want to go to bars. Been there, done that. Plus, I cared for my mother's needs for many years, and after work I needed to take care of things she needed quite often. The only people I ever talk to are the clerks at stores I visit, or when I need to make a phone call to a store to see if they have something. I had to talk with a lawyer on a few occasions when I recently had my will drafted, as well as the lady at the crematory when I pre-paid for my cremation. Oh yeah, I had to talk to the guy who is making my mother's monument for her grave, and will have to again, when the stone gets here, in order to work out the engraving. I guess I talk to the teller at the bank when I go there, too. But, that's all just business talk, and, sometimes, some brief small talk. Other than that, I'm home, clearing out some of my stuff, trying to get rid of other things, and getting my affairs in order. I don't understand the reason for anyone to lie about their situation. Your life isn't bad enough, so you want it to come off as worse to others? That sounds like "trying to keep up with the Jones'" (don't know what that is, look it up)

I think that's a rather mean way of looking at it. I don't think anyone, or at least me, wants my situation to sound worse than it is.

One thing I agree with FuneralCry is that you don't have to validate your pain with anyone. It's no one's business.

But it's very difficult to think of yourself as not lonely, when you spend many of your days not talking to someone. Even though, by technicality, you have "friends" - friends that haven't seen you in months, and don't intend to.

I don't blame anyone for doing what I do. It's how they feel. I don't think they're trying to collect pity points.. And I think that's such a rude thing to suggest.

I really enjoy being a member of this site. I can be anonymous, honest, nervous- whatever. For me personally It's not in my best interest to be less than honest. If I want people to be able to be supportive (when I might be needing that), then it's important I'm giving honest, accurate information.

True that. Then again, life is such a goddamm mess that things are hardly straightforward. Like I said in my earlier post, I technically have friends. But I'd much rather be alone than talk to them, because of how platonic everything is.

The better.. Advice for someone on the outside would be to just talk to them, but it's not that straightforward at all. Life is so messy.

 

[FuneralCry]

To me, it's completely understandable doing this, but are those things really so much of a lie if you feel that way at some point, but it's true that often our feelings and the way that we see things change depending on what is happening in our lives. People are unreliable after all and unpredictable and can be there for us one day but then just completely disappoint us the next. I would always prefer to be alone though personally. Also, take no notice of those that are insensitive about this, some people are just like that unfortunately.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Your life isn't bad enough, so you want it to come off as worse to others? That sounds like "trying to keep up with the Jones'" (don't know what that is, look it up)

I think that's a rather mean way of looking at it. I don't think anyone, or at least me, wants my situation to sound worse than it is.

I'm sorry you feel that way, but I don't think it is. You're right, you don't have to validate your pain with anyone. I agree with that. But, playing loose with the facts isn't that. For some reason you must have felt some kind of "guilt", as you thought it necessary to post this thread about lying to us sometimes. Those are your words. I don't know what other reason one would do that, really, other than what I said. If there is a different reason, say it. Maybe I'm out of line. If so, I apologize. We all have our own demons we fight. And I'll admit, there are FAR worse things to embellish.

 

[Un-]

For some reason you must have felt some kind of "guilt", as you thought it necessary to post this thread about lying to us sometimes. Those are your words.

I'm not upset by it or anything.

I made this thread to see if anyone else felt similarly.

I hope I'm not alone in this.

 

[Unending]

I definitely relate. My perspective on some things change quite frequently especially when I'm upset.

 

[Seiko]

It's understandable. And I don't think they're even lies; it's just how you felt that exact moment you wrote something.