Venting I have to make a confession about my sexuality

[Eren]

First of all, I do not try to offend anyone, I am very sorry if someone feels offended but I promise you that it is not my intention.

I have never liked men, and I have always considered myself heterosexual, I am very attracted to girls, but I have always thought that sex was not for me (traditional sex I mean) and for years I feel a strong excitement towards transexual girls.

I have read a lot about the subject, and I know that many transsexual women are bothered that their transsexual condition is eroticized, that they see it as a fetish, but for me it is not a fetish, I feel that I could have a relationship with them, I simply do not feel sexual excitement towards girls with female genitals but if I feel attraction towards girls with male genitals, it is not a choice, for me it is not a fetish.

I am writing this because I need venting, I feel attraction towards cis women, but I do not feel sexual desire towards them, and that causes me depression, feeling of helplessness etc ...

 

[Quinlor]

My advise is not thinking somemuch about sexuality or sex. Some people put this issue to the top of life and and then they get fuck mad .

 

[262653]

Chicks with dicks appeal to me too. Vaginas in my opinion look like smashed flowers. Like dicks, beaten into a squash with a baseball bat. Like potatoes dropped from 24th floor on the asphalt. Hairy dicks look fine to me. Hairy pussies though? Eww, no.

 

[Kikoo Loool]

I'm attracted by all types of women, cis and trans. I think there's no point bothering with sex issues, jusy enjoy!

 

[SawItOnce]

@Eren, I understand, I have felt like that before. I was worried, confused, scared because of the loneliness this thing imposed on me.

 

[Mr2005]

I'm more likely to offend people by saying chicks with dicks are still men. I have a foot fetish and they're still man feet but then that raises the question of if the attractiveness/grossness of them has anything to do with gender anyway.
I have no physical attraction towards men nor can I imagine being romantically involved. Jealous of their looks perhaps. Wanting to be them not be with them. I think porn has gotten us hooked on penises though. I can't cum with my girlfriend so maybe I am gay. I just imagine another penis jerking off in her face. Then I feel guilty and confused. The way I see it none of it's going to matter once I'm dead.

 

[Eren]

@Eren, I understand, I have felt like that before. I was worried, confused, scared because of the loneliness this thing imposed on me.

I feel same... it bothers me because this prevents me from having a partner with a cis woman and having a normal sex life with a cis woman, the most annoying thing is loneliness, I've always been alone, without friends, and this also prevents me from having a partner.

 

[hatelife]

I feel same... it bothers me because this prevents me from having a partner with a cis woman and having a normal sex life with a cis woman, the most annoying thing is loneliness, I've always been alone, without friends, and this also prevents me from having a partner.

there are transgender dating sites just so you know :) males like you that want to date them even some who are pre-op on there.

 

[Kikoo Loool]

I think the word "confession" should not be used in this situation. You have no crime to confess.

 

[Eren]

I think the word "confession" should not be used in this situation. You have no crime to confess.

it's simply a way to venting

 

[Wayfaerer]

This is just my amatuer opinion but I think heterosexual males who are into traps may suffer some internal conflict regarding their (preceived) heterosexuality. They prefer guys in skirts because it's a way of expressing their latent homosexuality while not going "all the way" and confronting it. This may not be the case, but it does make sense I think. I'm not judging either way.

 

[beyondbreath]

First of all, I do not try to offend anyone, I am very sorry if someone feels offended but I promise you that it is not my intention.

I have never liked men, and I have always considered myself heterosexual, I am very attracted to girls, but I have always thought that sex was not for me (traditional sex I mean) and for years I feel a strong excitement towards transexual girls.

I have read a lot about the subject, and I know that many transsexual women are bothered that their transsexual condition is eroticized, that they see it as a fetish, but for me it is not a fetish, I feel that I could have a relationship with them, I simply do not feel sexual excitement towards girls with female genitals but if I feel attraction towards girls with male genitals, it is not a choice, for me it is not a fetish.

I am writing this because I need venting, I feel attraction towards cis women, but I do not feel sexual desire towards them, and that causes me depression, feeling of helplessness etc ...

I don't see an issue with this. You still recognize their womanhood and identity, which is important. You respect them as people. Its a similar thing to a straight man not being attracted to trans women, just the opposite. They may be concerned about fetishization, but you seem genuinely respectful and caring.

 

[Flora1]

Chicks with dicks appeal to me too. Vaginas in my opinion look like smashed flowers. Like dicks, beaten into a squash with a baseball bat. Like potatoes dropped from 24th floor on the asphalt. Hairy dicks look fine to me. Hairy pussies though? Eww, no.

Blimey.. what did vaginas ever do to you

 

[deflagrat]

To each his own. I like some sadomasochistic stuff and I also kind of "hide it from everyone", but I guess it's not the same thing. In the end, it's your private life, and noone should pry if you don't want to tell them. I think it's perfectly fine to want what you want. If some people don't understand, to hell with them.

 

[Ko9]

Even if it is a fetish it isn't bad. You think they are beautiful and that is good and you. Some people always want the hole hand not 5 fingers and these people should fuck off. Either way, we should stop judging others and accept people how they are and what they like. If somehow a detail of my looks are something that others would find beautiful I would welcome it. -Someone with a fetish.

 

[Quinlor]

everything that is relational in our lives it's sucks

 

[TrailerTrash]

As many studies have shown, sexuality is a spectrum not a point. Own what you like and don't let anyone or anything get you down. You're the only version of you in existence or that will ever exist ..... unique .....

 

[Eren]

This is just my amatuer opinion but I think heterosexual males who are into traps may suffer some internal conflict regarding their (preceived) heterosexuality. They prefer guys in skirts because it's a way of expressing their latent homosexuality while not going "all the way" and confronting it. This may not be the case, but it does make sense I think. I'm not judging either way.

I thought the same thing a while ago, and in fact, I would have no problem if I liked mens, if so, I would look for a male partner, I have forced myself to feel attraction towards boys/mens even watching porn, it does not attract me in the least men or the male body, and I say, I would prefer it to be so because it would be easier to find a partner.

 

[Life sucks]

I think everyone have their own sexuality and what they want, you don't need to feel bad about it. I also hide my stuff.

Spoiler: I feel embarrassed so I never tell anyone

I got abused and spanked in childhood by women so in adulthood I like to be dominated sometimes like spanking and pegging. Its complicated that its not only like kink/fetish but related to emotions and love also

 

[Quinlor]

I think everyone have their own sexuality and what they want, you don't need to feel bad about it. I also hide my stuff.

Spoiler: I feel embarrassed so I never tell anyone

I got abused and spanked in childhood by women so in adulthood I like to be dominated sometimes like spanking and pegging. Its complicated that its not only like kink/fetish but related to emotions and love also

I agree completely. Sexuality should not be a big problem... in comparison to thinking in end your own life so sorry everyone.

 

[wildmoon]

I understand it must be really agonising when you think you have to be attracted to a typial cis woman and settle down.
But eff it. You like who you like and that is fine. You don;t need to be with anyone that will not make you happy.
I hope you can come to terms with it <3

 

[Eren]

I understand it must be really agonising when you think you have to be attracted to a typial cis woman and settle down.
But eff it. You like who you like and that is fine. You don;t need to be with anyone that will not make you happy.
I hope you can come to terms with it <3

my problem is that this prevents me from having a life as a couple with a cis woman

 

[262653]

Blimey.. what did vaginas ever do to you

Perhaps my aversion stems from the newborn trauma, as it was one of them that (who) brought me here.
On a serious note though, I don't remember ever seeing a vagina live. I only got to look at some photos and drawings, and at best it's not repulsive. "Now that's a fine piece of pussy she possesses!" -- Something I never said. Can't say the same about dicks.
I think I could be with a woman, but in that case I'd settle with cuddling, kissing and maybe rubbing with our clothes.
I'd be also fine with a man but he has to be extraordinarily cute, I guess, or have his head torn off to replace with a female one.

When I say cute, or make any other evaluation of the similar kind, I mean by my own standards, of course. My sexual attraction extends more than on just 'chicks with dicks', but I'm too lazy (energy preserving) to make a longer list, not that anyone cares anyway...

 

[Eren]

This subject really increases my feeling of loneliness, because being realistic, I will not find a trans partner, simply by statistics.
Sorry to write on an old topic, but I need to venting.

 

[KiraLittleOwl]

Some comments in this thread is gross and degrading.
Being trans is a tragedy of my life, I suffered decades of horrible dysphoria and depression, I sacrificed everything to be perceived as my real self and ultimate truth for me is that I am a woman born with male body.
Why it is so hard for some people to understand that genitals not always match the gender?

 

[Eren]

Some comments in this thread is gross and degrading.
Being trans is a tragedy of my life, I suffered decades of horrible dysphoria and depression, I sacrificed everything to be perceived as my real self and ultimate truth for me is that I am a woman born with male body.
Why it is so hard for some people to understand that genitals not always match the gender?

First of all, I feel if I have offended you, it has never been my intention.
I simply wanted to express my sexuality, I have not chosen it.

At no time am I denying that a transsexual woman is a woman.

 

[KiraLittleOwl]

First of all, I feel if I have offended you, it has never been my intention.
I simply wanted to express my sexuality, I have not chosen it.

At no time am I denying that a transsexual woman is a woman.

I was referring to others' comments which I don't even want to quote

 

[Eren]

I was referring to others' comments which I don't even want to quote

Ok, anyway, I had no intention of offending anyone when I opened this thread, I feel it was like that.

 

[Xena87]

Weird I stumbled upon this. I am trans LOL. I think I understand what you're trying to say. The problem is we feel like woman and (some) men seem to have an obsession with certain parts of our body and this tends flares up our dysphoria.. You know?..

Some comments in this thread is gross and degrading.
Being trans is a tragedy of my life, I suffered decades of horrible dysphoria and depression, I sacrificed everything to be perceived as my real self and ultimate truth for me is that I am a woman born with male body.
Why it is so hard for some people to understand that genitals not always match the gender?

Same sister! I got your back 100%

 

[Eren]

Weird I stumbled upon this. I am trans LOL. I think I understand what you're trying to say. The problem is we feel like woman and (some) men seem to have an obsession with certain parts of our body and this tends flares up our dysphoria.. You know?..



Same sister! I got your back 100%

Yes.. I understand