I have no friends, haven't had any for years, and it's just lonely

[thereisnomeaning]

I don't even know what friendships look like on adulthood for I did not make one single friend since I've left high school (and gradually lost contact to everyone I knew before). It just feels tiring. I try to make friends online or at university but I don't know how to connect to people, I don't know how to make people like me or feel close to me, and my life has become so lonely, sometimes I just wanna talk to someone but I don't know how to do that

 

[Covalite]

I feel the same way i haven't had any friends irl since hs and most of my online friends are superficial. Some of my online friends I'm close with but i still don't feel like i can tell them how i feel most of the time since all they wanna do is play video games or hang out. I often just feel like if i share anything I'll just make my self even more of an outcast.

 

[NotAllFairiesMakeIt]

I essentially have my mom and my boyfriend of three years and a cat. I do enjoy my work crew but it's a whopping three people lol

Other than that, I'm alone. In the house all the time on my days off. I'm genuinely starting to dread summer because we're supposed to be outside and socializing, enjoying the weather and I just know I'll be inside with my cat

 

[LigottiSchopenhauer]

I'm in exactly the same position. I lost all my friends around 2019-2021. The pandemic certainly didn't help, but it's not the only reason why I'm a friendless loser. This website is my most genuine social connection at the moment.

 

[Shinobu]

i understand how you feel but you should just keep trying im sure youll make some friends eventually its hard to talk to people but there are websites and like videos on youtube that can teach you how to be more social if thats what you truly want

 

[FuneralCry]

I do understand that loneliness certainly can be painful for so many people in this world but the fact is that anyway you cannot trust and rely on other people, humans have the potential to be so incredibly cruel and insensitive. So at least to me it's always better to be alone as long as one exists here.

 

[TheDizzenter]

Life after the simple 18's and all, feels an empty thing, and I can understand It.
In this point, I barely get out to see the light so often. So well, making friends isn't an easy thing.
Like, really.
What's friendship at this point?
Adulthood is a moment of life that having friends ain't truly that much
Or easier, may I say.
Being lonely is such a heck. But you always can find someone else to agree with you
Because life is quite this.

 

[H.O.Xan]

no but srsly, where tf DO U MAKE FRIENDS? Clubs? Work? Uni?<--- not tht coz I'm in uni, and it's shit socially, glorified beyond belief

 

[Rocinante]

I don't even know what friendships look like on adulthood for I did not make one single friend since I've left high school (and gradually lost contact to everyone I knew before). It just feels tiring. I try to make friends online or at university but I don't know how to connect to people, I don't know how to make people like me or feel close to me, and my life has become so lonely, sometimes I just wanna talk to someone but I don't know how to do that

Do you have discord?

 

[nosoul]

I've made some friends but lost all my childhood ones, and they view me as crazy and manic. I could swear before being diagnosed bipolar, they just thought I was hyper.

 

[Azora]

One of the problems with making connections with people today is that it's too easy in modern society to isolate yourself at home and isolation is addicting. When you're alone there are no responsibilities to anyone, no social pressures and can take it easy as much as you want. Before you know it, any social skills you might have had are gone and acquiring them requires too much pain and courage.

The first step to recovery in this regard is to get therapy. Not only does it help with depression, it also helps by practicing talking to other people.

 

[WorthlessCoward]

I wish I hadn't had any, friends in real life isn't like in the movies or anime, they're people who cruelly mock and insult you while disguising it as friendly banter. Forget about that think about "sticking with you through thick and thin". Maybe it's a cultural thing living in this third world shithole full wordly famous for being arrogant but mediocre people, maybe I am a doormat and I was supposed to shoot back both are equally valid and true.

Looked at it from another angle maybe I never had friends, I just had people I thought were friends or just hanged around because I thought (due to a sophism, caused by my grandma truly a fucking piece of shit) that not having friends was the worst thing and if I didn't change my attitude to become that doormat I was gonna end up alone, which ironically would have been for the better.

Summary, family (specially grandmothers) = shit, friends = shit, people = shit

 

[Rainork]

I don't even know what friendships look like on adulthood for I did not make one single friend since I've left high school (and gradually lost contact to everyone I knew before). It just feels tiring. I try to make friends online or at university but I don't know how to connect to people, I don't know how to make people like me or feel close to me, and my life has become so lonely, sometimes I just wanna talk to someone but I don't know how to do that

I'm sorry that you're feeling so alone.
I do relate to the feeling of losing every friend in your life, having no idea why and feeling like no one wants to stick around. I've spent the last year basically sat at home every day, someone that I thought was a good friend hasn't contacted me in months, and all other friends I've had before have been out of my life for years now.
It sucks, but just know you're not alone. Unfortunately todays world isn't always the best for keeping people close.
If you do ever need someone to talk to, you're more than welcome to message me.
All the best

 

[Riu]

I know it can be frustrating and discouraging. It's not easy being lonely. I'm in the same boat. But we've got to keep trying! What kind of things do you like doing? Maybe you could try a new hobby, join a club/group, and make some new friends there. You might find other folks that deal with the same issues you do, and that can give you some common ground.

If you want to try to become friends with me you are welcome. As I said, I am also lonely because I think I am just a boring person amongst other reasons, but maybe if we share similar interests we can become friends.

 

[peonylove]

I feel you, haven't had a friend in 5 years and can't talk to strangers without shaking. It's hell

 

[ilovedeftones]

I don't even know what friendships look like on adulthood for I did not make one single friend since I've left high school (and gradually lost contact to everyone I knew before). It just feels tiring. I try to make friends online or at university but I don't know how to connect to people, I don't know how to make people like me or feel close to me, and my life has become so lonely, sometimes I just wanna talk to someone but I don't know how to do that

I feel exactly like this for about 3 years now