I had to leave the reddit sub community r/Foreveralonewomen because it was worseing my suicidal thoughts

[FireFox]

Last year on reddit I joined the sub r/Foreveralonewomen to connect and meet with more women like myself. I have had never had a boyfriend and still a virgin at 26. Everyone else I grew up is married or has serious relationships. It's my deepest insecurity.

I eventually left the sub because it worsened my anxiety and depression I already fear never having a relationship. The threads from women over 40 taking about thier loneliness of being single absolutely petrified me. I am scared this will be my future. My anxiety has skyrocketed even more since reading all the sub threads I feel like I am running out of time to meet a man and its too late for me.

I also got bored of the regular threads complaining about"attractive woman have it better" or "pretty privilege"or the regular story about how this pretty work colleague got male attention at work today. I feel sorry for these women but mentally it is exhausting. I like discussing other things.

I went on the r/Foreveralonewomen discord server to connect with other women but the moderator is a massive micromanger and is criticitical of peoples posts if its not to her liking. It shocking how someone who complains about being stressed with thier current career has all the time in the world to constantly police and censor everyone's posts, opinions and just at times be so mean, at times to others even bringing up past historic posts to shame people. Other women are lovely but it is hard to connect with them at times as they have not got much going day to day lives whereas I am very outgoing and adventurous.

 

[Crono]

This world is a horrible and meaningless hell, chaos determines everything, just like other living beings, we humans exist through random mutations, whoever is unlucky enough to be born with genetics that make them less pleasant for partners is simply left to suffer and die alone. And this is all for nothing, just random chaos.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

I don't want this to sound patronizing, and it's not meant that way, either, but at ripe young age of only 26, you really do have time on your side.

 

[brokeandbroken]

Last year on reddit I joined the sub r/Foreveralonewomen to connect and meet with more women like myself. I have had never had a boyfriend and still a virgin at 26. Everyone else I grew up is married or has serious relationships. It's my deepest insecurity.

I eventually left the sub because it worsened my anxiety and depression I already fear never having a relationship. The threads from women over 40 taking about thier loneliness of being single absolutely petrified me. I am scared this will be my future. My anxiety has skyrocketed even more since reading all the sub threads I feel like I am running out of time to meet a man and its too late for me.

I also got bored of the regular threads complaining about"attractive woman have it better" or "pretty privilege"or the regular story about how this pretty work colleague got male attention at work today. I feel sorry for these women but mentally it is exhausting. I like discussing other things.

I went on the r/Foreveralonewomen discord server to connect with other women but the moderator is a massive micromanger and is criticitical of peoples posts if its not to her liking. It shocking how someone who complains about being stressed with thier current career has all the time in the world to constantly police and censor everyone's posts, opinions and just at times be so mean, at times to others even bringing up past historic posts to shame people. Other women are lovely but it is hard to connect with them at times as they have not got much going day to day lives whereas I am very outgoing and adventurous.

So first and foremost, I am not a woman.... That said I have written about this here a fair amount. But it's not you just society right now. The average American hasn't made a friend in the last 5 years.... America is lonely to its core right now man or woman.... The good news is you are young and hopefully society realizes it and changes. I wish you find what you are looking for.

 

[betternever2havbeen]

It's good you recognised your mental health was getting worse and came off somewhere that was negatively affecting you. Unfortunately there are lots of places on the internet that people go to for support and end up with very judgy replies that descend into arguments and only achieve making everyone feel worse. A lot depends on how well somewhere is moderated and it sounds like the place you were didn't have the best moderator unfortunately. I hope you can find a kinder support group or just feel free to post on here. I'm basically in the same boat but have nearly a decade on you. It's not something that bothers me (I prefer being single) but I wouldn't even worry at my age about not being able to find someone if I wanted to, certainly wouldn't worry at 26! It just sounds a really negative sub and not really somewhere you need to be at your age, glad you left.

 

[FireFox]

I don't want this to sound patronizing, and it's not meant that way, either, but at ripe young age of only 26, you really do have time on your side.

@locked*n*loaded I want to believe that believe me but I feel like time is running out of time and everyone is taken. All the time I am unlucky with men I do believe I am unlovable. All my life I have known nothing but male rejection. I was that teenage girl who never had a childhood sweetheart, never got asked out to the end of school year prom in year 11, at university I still experienced more male rejection despite being pro active and asking guys out.

It has left an enormous hole in my heart it absolutely kills me the heartbreak. It's tormenting.

It's good you recognised your mental health was getting worse and came off somewhere that was negatively affecting you. Unfortunately there are lots of places on the internet that people go to for support and end up with very judgy replies that descend into arguments and only achieve making everyone feel worse. A lot depends on how well somewhere is moderated and it sounds like the place you were didn't have the best moderator unfortunately. I hope you can find a kinder support group or just feel free to post on here. I'm basically in the same boat but have nearly a decade on you. It's not something that bothers me (I prefer being single) but I wouldn't even worry at my age about not being able to find someone if I wanted to, certainly wouldn't worry at 26! It just sounds a really negative sub and not really somewhere you need to be at your age, glad you left.

@betternever2havbeen It is just been extremely hard rescently seeing the women I grew up with getting married, having kids and serious relationships with their boyfriends. I live in a suburb neighbourhood within the area of the city I live in. The people who attended the church community I grew up in also went to the same school as me and also live within my neighbourhood area.

The people on that sub are also in their 20s too and it felt great finally meeting women who have experienced what I have experienced throughout my entire life. Single women like me society is not made for us everything is designed for people in relationships and to accommodate couples needs. Single people like me we have nothing and we are ignored by everyone. Even when I was university my friends in my law class frequently talked about their boyfriends and excluded me at times. I was that odd one out.

I feel like there is no one in this world for me. I thought I would be in a relationship by now.