I found out the reasons why I drive people away

[Ixtlilton]

I am an overbearing person, I am just too much to handle. Also, I invalidate people's feelings. I am not sure where it comes from I wish I did, but all I can do right now is just fix it. During conversations I am starting to realize what I am doing that is being pushy and with invalidating people's feelings and stopping it. I have much less to say cause of it, but it is better than saying bullshit. I found out by a girl I was talking to told me I was just wayyyy to much, and I just didn't understand what she meant until I analyzed our relationship. I did that shit all the time, I cringe looking back at it. Even with all of this I look back at the person who I was months ago, and I am still a lot different person than who I am now. I just need to keep pushing on and improving myself.

 

[timf]

You are to be congratulated for being open to consider improvement. This is not common. Here are some suggestions that might prove useful;

1. Make use of conversational silence. It can give others a chance to gather their thoughts and speak.
2. Make use of qualifiers to soften a response (could, might, sometimes, or possibly)
3. Ask questions that show interest and actually be interested.
4. Edit and shorten transmissions so as to not exceed the listeners interest.
5. Humor and self-deprecation can be a useful tool to set a listener at ease.

 

[Antigonish]

I tend to drive people away, but not because I'm just too much for them. I feel like I'm on a limited time basis, suicide aside, humans dont live long. And I just hate wasting time. Time waiting on someone who isnt ready, or will never won't what you will. Time on people who just wanna use you. Time on people who'll eventually leave you. So I live, my life in moments. Leaving the past where it is, and only referencing it to avoid future fuck ups.

When I get bored I drift away. It's a problem I'm trying to fix, but I think that just attributes to my suicidal thoughts/feelings. Forcing myself through the tiresome bullshit, instead of just cutting my losses and leaving, disappearing. But oh well, guess thats why they made alcohol, to keep shit entertaining.

 

[LADY007]

I tend to drive people away, but not because I'm just too much for them. I feel like I'm on a limited time basis, suicide aside, humans dont live long. And I just hate wasting time. Time waiting on someone who isnt ready, or will never won't what you will. Time on people who just wanna use you. Time on people who'll eventually leave you. So I live, my life in moments. Leaving the past where it is, and only referencing it to avoid future fuck ups.

When I get bored I drift away. It's a problem I'm trying to fix, but I think that just attributes to my suicidal thoughts/feelings. Forcing myself through the tiresome bullshit, instead of just cutting my losses and leaving, disappearing. But oh well, guess thats why they made alcohol, to keep shit entertaining.

I understand that completely. I am 68 years old and have no patience for bullcrap. Too many people get older, give up on dreams and sit in front of the television, complaining about everything. I get that they couldn't fulfill their dreams and miss the young, resilient person that they were. I feel that, too. When getting older necessitates stopping activities that you loved... It feels like a terrible loss. Then you here about cherished friends passing away... and these losses hurt. They hurt.. a lot. I feel just like you do.. mundane complaining angers me. Too little time left to focus on petty, unfulfilling B. S. I consider you one of the smart people.. you recognize reality. That takes bravery.. I so get what you are saying.. Love to you.

 

[Ixtlilton]

I am an overbearing person, I am just too much to handle. Also, I invalidate people's feelings. I am not sure where it comes from I wish I did, but all I can do right now is just fix it. During conversations I am starting to realize what I am doing that is being pushy and with invalidating people's feelings and stopping it. I have much less to say cause of it, but it is better than saying bullshit. I found out by a girl I was talking to told me I was just wayyyy to much, and I just didn't understand what she meant until I analyzed our relationship. I did that shit all the time, I cringe looking back at it. Even with all of this I look back at the person who I was months ago, and I am still a lot different person than who I am now. I just need to keep pushing on and improving myself.

EDIT: Before I say anything I want to let people know I got the help I needed, I am no more suicidal, I am still depressed but manageable and I am getting the help I need. The girl I was with was manipulating me for her own gain, and she is the school hoe (sorry if that word offends anybody), lmao.