I finally understand why people kill themselves in the end

[FireFox]

Growing up I always believed sucide was selfish because of what my family taught me. Now at 27 I am planning my own death.

The human mind is so cruel it's scary how a natural organ like the brain can use our deeper insecurities, thoughts and traumas to torment us relentlessly, distort our image of reality and ourselves. The urge to leave the body is so strong and ulimately wins.

I realise now the one thing I really wanted - a man who loves me - is never going to happen. I been through so much rejection and i now believe there is no man for me in this world. Everyone is in a relationship except me

I have been crying all day because I know I would have been a great wife to someone but no man ever gave me a chance its always another woman they wanted or worst of all men tell me I am not good enough for them. All I ever wanted was to happy, in a relationship, in a career but that never going to happen for me. I give love but no man appreciates it.

For me it's caused me immense sadness for there is no relief anymore. I have tired to enjoy single. I went climbing the 02 arena by myself, I go musuems and places by myself but now I can't enjoy life anymore, knowing I am going to be single forever. There is no help for people like me to cope with being single. I have tried counselling it's not working really.

Other women are so lucky to be chosen i wish for once someone picked me. I can't cope anymore. All my life I have been the girl and now woman who never had a guy really wanted her. Its absolutely painful realising it's too late for me.

 

[blacksand]

I agree I am so so lonely. Just earlier I saw some normie complaining about his gf and happy accident kids on reddit and how he can't party like he used to because of them. Normies finely tuned social skills and endless social dramas are something that they take for granted.

 

[J&L383]

 

[NotCreativeName]

I think the same. I still wont catch the bus, because its not the time yet. But seeing no girl wanting me in most of my life, failing at obtaining my dreams job, failing to even be a husband or a father, makes me feel like its better to jump soon. Im giviving some time, want to Tide UP some last things before going off, some games i Want to play before ending It ALL and finaly have some peace.

 

[LifesLife100]

Growing up I always believed sucide was selfish because of what my family taught me. Now at 27 I am planning my own death.

The human mind is so cruel it's scary how a natural organ like the brain can use our deeper insecurities, thoughts and traumas to torment us relentlessly, distort our image of reality and ourselves. The urge to leave the body is so strong and ulimately wins.

I realise now the one thing I really wanted - a man who loves me - is never going to happen. I been through so much rejection and i now believe there is no man for me in this world. Everyone is in a relationship except me

I have been crying all day because I know I would have been a great wife to someone but no man ever gave me a chance its always another woman they wanted or worst of all men tell me I am not good enough for them. All I ever wanted was to happy, in a relationship, in a career but that never going to happen for me. I give love but no man appreciates it.

For me it's caused me immense sadness for there is no relief anymore. I have tired to enjoy single. I went climbing the 02 arena by myself, I go musuems and places by myself but now I can't enjoy life anymore, knowing I am going to be single forever. There is no help for people like me to cope with being single. I have tried counselling it's not working really.

Other women are so lucky to be chosen i wish for once someone picked me. I can't cope anymore. All my life I have been the girl and now woman who never had a guy really wanted her. It's absolutely painful realising it's too late for me.

Spreading love to you and yours this new years

 

[Peace2peace]

Growing up I always believed sucide was selfish because of what my family taught me. Now at 27 I am planning my own death.

The human mind is so cruel it's scary how a natural organ like the brain can use our deeper insecurities, thoughts and traumas to torment us relentlessly, distort our image of reality and ourselves. The urge to leave the body is so strong and ulimately wins.

I realise now the one thing I really wanted - a man who loves me - is never going to happen. I been through so much rejection and i now believe there is no man for me in this world. Everyone is in a relationship except me

I have been crying all day because I know I would have been a great wife to someone but no man ever gave me a chance its always another woman they wanted or worst of all men tell me I am not good enough for them. All I ever wanted was to happy, in a relationship, in a career but that never going to happen for me. I give love but no man appreciates it.

For me it's caused me immense sadness for there is no relief anymore. I have tired to enjoy single. I went climbing the 02 arena by myself, I go musuems and places by myself but now I can't enjoy life anymore, knowing I am going to be single forever. There is no help for people like me to cope with being single. I have tried counselling it's not working really.

Other women are so lucky to be chosen i wish for once someone picked me. I can't cope anymore. All my life I have been the girl and now woman who never had a guy really wanted her. Its absolutely painful realising it's too late for me.

You will definitely find love just believe in yourself u are still young

 

[jellymomo]

I understand this so much. No one talks about how painful it is to be a woman unable to get in relationships with men. It's genuinely so hard to cope because I always wonder what's wrong with me that men don't like me, but like other women.

 

[divinemistress36]

Not everyone in relationships are happy they just appear that way on that way outside. I remember back in my 20s looking at what I thought were all these happy couples then finding out some were cheating on each other and getting divorces in their 30s. You still have plenty of time to find someone . People find love in their 30s, 40s, and older

 

[FireFox]

I understand this so much. No one talks about how painful it is to be a woman unable to get in relationships with men. It's genuinely so hard to cope because I always wonder what's wrong with me that men don't like me, but like other women.

@jellymomo Virtual hug Majority of society will never understand the real pain of going through your entire life being rejected by men while men always want other women and sometimes the women they want so badly don't even treat their partners well.

The last rejection i experienced was over the summer holidays last year was the most painful because I thought things were going to be different and I really wanted him. I am in love with a retail store worker who works at a CBD wellness store i used to shop in. He is in his 30s.

This man didn't want to be with me because I am a Catholic. He is a militant atheist. I told him I accept him for who he is and respet everyone's right to believe in whatever they want but he can't accept me for who I am .

I told him I will never force my beliefs on him and respect his right to be anti religion but for him he can never be with a woman who goes to chruch.

I try to act like I am ok with the rejection and say I am just fine but I am not.

He ex gfs didnt even treat him well and had enormous issues one of them was a drug addict and the others had some kind of baggage but me going to church is a problem for him.

For me i find the rejction just painful because I know for a fact I was going to love him unconditionally, I have no baggage because I never had a relationship but he only wants women who militant atheist like him.

I admit I am depressed because he rejected me. He even once complained to me women are not interested in him.

I can't win anymore because I really wanted him and doesn't want me for being a church goer.

You will definitely find love just believe in yourself u are still young

@Peace2peace I have gone through so much rejection my entire life and never ever had a guy who really wanted me the way they wanted other women.

I no longer believe there is someone for me. The last guy who rejected me honestly made me lose all hope. I made all the effort in the world to show my genuine interest in him as a person. I was the one who asked for his number and asked him to go on a walk with me when he finished work. The area we walked in had a lots of markets and a beautiful canal. We had fun summer.

I asked him to go with me to have coffee and told him I liked him. He agrees to go with me and 2 days before we were scheduled to have coffee he decides to reject me. He gave me a half a page long reply on why he is rejecting me and telling me why I am not good enough for him. It's was painful to read.

His main reason was he can't be with a woman who is religious because he is a militant atheist. I already made clear to him that I accept him for who he is but still goes ahead a dumps me anyway.

After being rejected by him it just broke me completely because no matter what I do I just can't win anymore it's either man wants another woman and now man doesn't want me because I go church.

No one ever sees me as good enough for them.

Spreading love to you and yours this new years

@LifesLife100 Sending love to you and Happy New Year to you

I agree I am so so lonely. Just earlier I saw some normie complaining about his gf and happy accident kids on reddit and how he can't party like he used to because of them. Normies finely tuned social skills and endless social dramas are something that they take for granted.

@blacksand Social media has allowed people turn their boring relationship problems into drama for the whole world to see.

So many people don't know how lucky they are to have someone who really loves them or is geniuely interested in them.

I would give anything to have what they have. Being single for so long mentally I feel like I am unlovable because I never got to experience being wanted by a man.

Not everyone in relationships are happy they just appear that way on that way outside. I remember back in my 20s looking at what I thought were all these happy couples then finding out some were cheating on each other and getting divorces in their 30s. You still have plenty of time to find someone . People find love in their 30s, 40s, and older

@divinemistress36 It doesn't feel that way anymore. I asked men out and they always reject me at he last minute close to when our scheduled outing was talkng place.

After a the atheist guy I met over the summer didn't want me i just feel like no matter what I do its never enough. After he agreed to go with me for a coffee 1 day when we were scheduled he rejects me via text message and gives half a page long reply on why he is rejecting me. He cites me being a Catholic as the main reason.

I am never asking guys out again all they do is dump me . After being rejected by him my confidence just went down even more I really wanted him and accepted him for who he is but he can't accept me for who I am just 1 part of myself.

I can't win anymore. I do cry because he didn't want me. I feel like I am never going to meet someone fun, funny, intelligent and interesting like him. He had other traits I wanted in a man and was close to my ideal man.

I wish I was someone else because no man wants me as i am sometimes I was another woman who is more prettier, smarter and Just something special a man can see. No man sees anything special in me the way they want other women.

 

[divinemistress36]

@jellymomo Virtual hug Majority of society will never understand the real pain of going through your entire life being rejected by men while men always want other women and sometimes the women they want so badly don't even treat their partners well.

The last rejection i experienced was over the summer holidays last year was the most painful because I thought things were going to be different and I really wanted him. I am in love with a retail store worker who works at a CBD wellness store i used to shop in. He is in his 30s.

This man didn't want to be with me because I am a Catholic. He is a militant atheist. I told him I accept him for who he is and respet everyone's right to believe in whatever they want but he can't accept me for who I am .

I told him I will never force my beliefs on him and respect his right to be anti religion but for him he can never be with a woman who goes to chruch.

I try to act like I am ok with the rejection and say I am just fine but I am not.

He ex gfs didnt even treat him well and had enormous issues one of them was a drug addict and the others had some kind of baggage but me going to church is a problem for him.

For me i find the rejction just painful because I know for a fact I was going to love him unconditionally, I have no baggage because I never had a relationship but he only wants women who militant atheist like him.

I admit I am depressed because he rejected me. He even once complained to me women are not interested in him.

I can't win anymore because I really wanted him and doesn't want me for being a church goer.

@Peace2peace I have gone through so much rejection my entire life and never ever had a guy who really wanted me the way they wanted other women.

I no longer believe there is someone for me. The last guy who rejected me honestly made me lose all hope. I made all the effort in the world to show my genuine interest in him as a person. I was the one who asked for his number and asked him to go on a walk with me when he finished work. The area we walked in had a lots of markets and a beautiful canal. We had fun summer.

I asked him to go with me to have coffee and told him I liked him. He agrees to go with me and 2 days before we were scheduled to have coffee he decides to reject me. He gave me a half a page long reply on why he is rejecting me and telling me why I am not good enough for him. It's was painful to read.

His main reason was he can't be with a woman who is religious because he is a militant atheist. I already made clear to him that I accept him for who he is but still goes ahead a dumps me anyway.

After being rejected by him it just broke me completely because no matter what I do I just can't win anymore it's either man wants another woman and now man doesn't want me because I go church.

No one ever sees me as good enough for them.

@LifesLife100 Sending love to you and Happy New Year to you

@blacksand Social media has allowed people turn their boring relationship problems into drama for the whole world to see.

So many people don't know how lucky they are to have someone who really loves them or is geniuely interested in them.

I would give anything to have what they have. Being single for so long mentally I feel like I am unlovable because I never got to experience being wanted by a man.

@divinemistress36 It doesn't feel that way anymore. I asked men out and they always reject me at he last minute close to when our scheduled outing was talkng place.

After a the atheist guy I met over the summer didn't want me i just feel like no matter what I do its never enough. After he agreed to go with me for a coffee 1 day when we were scheduled he rejects me via text message and gives half a page long reply on why he is rejecting me. He cites me being a Catholic as the main reason.

I am never asking guys out again all they do is dump me . After being rejected by him my confidence just went down even more I really wanted him and accepted him for who he is but he can't accept me for who I am just 1 part of myself.

I can't win anymore. I do cry because he didn't want me. I feel like I am never going to meet someone fun, funny, intelligent and interesting like him. He had other traits I wanted in a man and was close to my ideal man.

I wish I was someone else because no man wants me as i am sometimes I was another woman who is more prettier, smarter and Just something special a man can see. No man sees anything special in me the way they want other women.

You are religious arent you ? An Atheist wouldnt vibe with you well

 

[FireFox]

You are religious arent you ? An Atheist wouldnt vibe with you well

@divinemistress36 I am a practicing Catholic but I am very respectful of other people's beliefs and will never force my beliefs on anyone. I go to church but I still live my life.

I really liked the guy for who he is so it did not bother me that he is a militant atheist. He told me is an anti thiest which is a belief religion and the idea of being in God is harmful. I told him that I like him for the person he is and I will always respect his right to believe whatever he wants.

Being rejected by him I was never expecting this. If he wanted another woman I would have coped better because that is what I always experience but now being rejected because I have a religion is just the worst and way he rejected me as well didn't help either.

It was not fun waking up 1 day before our scheduled coffee meet up and receiving half a page long text message reading his reasons why he is rejecting me.

I really wanted him and really did like him. I am sick of always never being good enough for men. No matter what I do I am never good enough and his rejection just pushed me over the edge.

I am never asking men out again because they always dump me so close to our scheduled planned meetings. I admit after being rejected him I just lost all faith in ever meeting anyone.

His other behaviours were problematic at times he made very hurtful comments picking at my small height. He is a very tall male and I am very small. He has insecurities even when I complimented him he questioned my attraction for him
I tell him I like him he complains I am difficult to read. There were so many things about him and his behaviour that was not OK.

Still i feel like I can never win and honestly there is so much rejection a person can take humans were never made to cope with rejection. It's human to want to be loved and accepted. Despite everything I really liked him

 

[PI3.14]

Being alone, never been in a relationship, has destroyed my mental health completely.

That and ofc me being a short guy, about 5'5.

At this point, I only think of ctbing and nothing else.

 

[theshund]

I'm 50. Trust me, at 27 you have no idea what weird, unpredictable and out of the blue things will happen in your life.

I know it all seems like what has been your experience will continue to be the same forever but it doesn't work that way.

I'm not saying true love is out there or it will happen when you least expect it or any of that bs, just that thinking you know what the future holds isn't just wrong, it's naive (no offence).

At 27 I was suicidal, alone and saw no future or hope. At 30 I was in love. At 34 I had a kid. Back then I was a construction worker. At 45 I was the editor for an online news service. At 50 I lost my job, home, wife and child. Now I'm suicidal again. Certainly life sucks, but predictable? Nah.

 

[Redacted24]

I'll chime in.. from the male perspective.
I'm nothing special, skinny nerdy awkward guy.
No females would give me the time of day.
I'm also really bad at picking up signs that someone might be interested in me...to be fair. And it's possibly likely that some were sending me signals that I wasn't picking up.

I was 27 before I had a romantic relationship.
It lasted a few years then faded when my work moved me away.

For the next seven years I had a few relationships. They were great, but then one or the other took work elsewhere...and long-distance relationships don't work.

After the last one I gave up and decided to just be that weird old bachelor in the neighborhood that everyone knows is a little "off" but nice.

Gave up on trying to meet anyone. Stopped going out, trying to catch someone's eye.

And that's when the woman I married came into my life...when I was 35 and had given up.

Not sure if this helps. But sometimes chasing what you want doesn't work.

Peace.

 

[11April]

I understand you, because I am in a very similar situation, but on the other side - I am a man, and I am also 27. But I did not need any person, but one specific one. I gave her everything I could, but in the end I was refused many times.

In fact, we have a very difficult situation, from which I see no other way out except death. I think that after some time people will learn to defeat the most terrible diseases, such as cancer or Alzheimer's disease, they will learn to level out disabilities. I think that I will be able to eliminate poverty, hunger, etc. At least, I believe in scientific progress, everything is moving in this direction.
But how to help people like us? I really see no way out except death. This is incredibly offensive and unfair.

I convey to you my sincere support and sympathy

 

[FireFox]

I'm 50. Trust me, at 27 you have no idea what weird, unpredictable and out of the blue things will happen in your life.

I know it all seems like what has been your experience will continue to be the same forever but it doesn't work that way.

I'm not saying true love is out there or it will happen when you least expect it or any of that bs, just that thinking you know what the future holds isn't just wrong, it's naive (no offence).

At 27 I was suicidal, alone and saw no future or hope. At 30 I was in love. At 34 I had a kid. Back then I was a construction worker. At 45 I was the editor for an online news service. At 50 I lost my job, home, wife and child. Now I'm suicidal again. Certainly life sucks, but predictable? Nah.

@theshund it's been so hard I have been struggling to get over a really awesome guy I meet last year. He is a retail worker at a CBD wellness health store I used to shop in and at times the shop would be empty we would just talk amongst ourselves. He is in his 30s. I really wanted him and his rejection has been extremely painful. I feel like I will never meet another men better than him. He had qualities that I wanted in a man and he was close to my ideal. I am drawn to personality in a man.

He is such cool guy with an extraordinary life. He spent his childhood and teens living in different countries due to his parents work, he went college in Califonia before coming to the UK and he has been through a lot ie he developed cancer in the brain in his 20s and now cancer free. He has an enormous tumour on head and its inoperable. We the had most interesting conversations about politics, travel and yeah CBD .

I one day when he was work I asked him for his number and asked him to go on a walk with me after his work finished. He agreed and we had such a great time. Summer with him was so much fun.

He didn't want to be with me because I am Catholic, he is militant atheist.
I told him I will never force my beliefs on him and respect his right to be anti religion but for him he can never be with a woman who goes to chruch. I liked him and embraced him for he is entirely but he can't accept 1 part of me.The way he rejected me was just disrespectful didn't help either .

I try to act like I am ok with the rejection and say I am just fine but I am not.. it's like no matter what I do I am never enough for any man. Its always the man wants another woman or I am just not good enough.. I even been the rebound girl too.

It's hurts so much because I really wanted him. This same man even told me he was upset women are not interested in him. I am the woman who really wanted him, accepted him for who he is but still he rejects me.

 

[theshund]

@theshund it's been so hard I have been struggling to get over a really awesome guy I meet last year. He is a retail worker at a CBD wellness health store I used to shop in and at times the shop would be empty we would just talk amongst ourselves. He is in his 30s. I really wanted him and his rejection has been extremely painful. I feel like I will never meet another men better than him. He had qualities that I wanted in a man and he was close to my ideal. I am drawn to personality in a man.

He is such cool guy with an extraordinary life. He spent his childhood and teens living in different countries due to his parents work, he went college in Califonia before coming to the UK and he has been through a lot ie he developed cancer in the brain in his 20s and now cancer free. He has an enormous tumour on head and its inoperable. We the had most interesting conversations about politics, travel and yeah CBD .

I one day when he was work I asked him for his number and asked him to go on a walk with me after his work finished. He agreed and we had such a great time. Summer with him was so much fun.

He didn't want to be with me because I am Catholic, he is militant atheist.
I told him I will never force my beliefs on him and respect his right to be anti religion but for him he can never be with a woman who goes to chruch. I liked him and embraced him for he is entirely but he can't accept 1 part of me.The way he rejected me was just disrespectful didn't help either .

I try to act like I am ok with the rejection and say I am just fine but I am not.. it's like no matter what I do I am never enough for any man. Its always the man wants another woman or I am just not good enough.. I even been the rebound girl too.

It's hurts so much because I really wanted him. This same man even told me he was upset women are not interested in him. I am the woman who really wanted him, accepted him for who he is but still he rejects me.

Its all about framing and time. Framing: you wanted that, you didn't get it, it's gone, move on. Time is the moving on part. As you're young there's lots of time. Just try to stop equating one event with all past and future events.

Fact: this relationship didn't work out.
Opinion: so all relationships won't work out.

How reliable is your opinion when high emotion and a whole bunch of I wish, I want is in the mix? Not at all.

Anyway that would be my advice fwiw. Time doesn't heal, it changes things that's all. In time your framing will change. But ctb is an option for instant relief. It just wipes out all those weird and wonderful experiences you haven't had yet. I guarantee you'll have them, yeah some will suck some won't. You probably won't get what you want but you certainly will get what you need. Ime it's the holding on to opportunities, not finding them, that's the hard part.

 

[FireFox]

Being alone, never been in a relationship, has destroyed my mental health completely.

That and ofc me being a short guy, about 5'5.

At this point, I only think of ctbing and nothing else.

@PI3.14 Society worst of all never takes this issue seriously everything is about couples and their problems. If a person has been dumped by their partner they get all the support and helpful advice to cope but people like us we get nothing but meaningless platitudes ie " "being single is not bad" , " love yourself" "just get over them"

It's human to want love and to be desired by someone. Humans were never made to be constantly rejected.

 

[FireFox]

Its all about framing and time. Framing: you wanted that, you didn't get it, it's gone, move on. Time is the moving on part. As you're young there's lots of time. Just try to stop equating one event with all past and future events.

Fact: this relationship didn't work out.
Opinion: so all relationships won't work out.

How reliable is your opinion when high emotion and a whole bunch of I wish, I want is in the mix? Not at all.

Anyway that would be my advice fwiw. Time doesn't heal, it changes things that's all. In time your framing will change. But ctb is an option for instant relief. It just wipes out all those weird and wonderful experiences you haven't had yet. I guarantee you'll have them, yeah some will suck some won't. You probably won't get what you want but you certainly will get what you need. Ime it's the holding on to opportunities, not finding them, that's the hard part.

@theshund Thanks I just can't think properly anymore. I really thought by now i would be with someone. I can't enjoy anything anymore, I am constantly crying all the time and I have no energy anymore.
Mentally and emotionally I am just broken

 

[Regen]

@divinemistress36 I am a practicing Catholic but I am very respectful of other people's beliefs and will never force my beliefs on anyone. I go to church but I still live my life.

I really liked the guy for who he is so it did not bother me that he is a militant atheist. He told me is an anti thiest which is a belief religion and the idea of being in God is harmful. I told him that I like him for the person he is and I will always respect his right to believe whatever he wants.

Being rejected by him I was never expecting this. If he wanted another woman I would have coped better because that is what I always experience but now being rejected because I have a religion is just the worst and way he rejected me as well didn't help either.

It was not fun waking up 1 day before our scheduled coffee meet up and receiving half a page long text message reading his reasons why he is rejecting me.

I really wanted him and really did like him. I am sick of always never being good enough for men. No matter what I do I am never good enough and his rejection just pushed me over the edge.

I am never asking men out again because they always dump me so close to our scheduled planned meetings. I admit after being rejected him I just lost all faith in ever meeting anyone.

His other behaviours were problematic at times he made very hurtful comments picking at my small height. He is a very tall male and I am very small. He has insecurities even when I complimented him he questioned my attraction for him
I tell him I like him he complains I am difficult to read. There were so many things about him and his behaviour that was not OK.

Still i feel like I can never win and honestly there is so much rejection a person can take humans were never made to cope with rejection. It's human to want to be loved and accepted. Despite everything I really liked him

Phew... Well first of all: I understand that the rejection makes you feel bad! That hurts so bad!!

I was with a narcissist for 17 years. And I can tell you that your higher power took good care of you when this man rejected you... What you describe doesn't sound good, several red warning lights are going on for me. Yes, I understand very well that the red flags for you are covered by his good qualities. But I'm not in love and I see what really doesn't sound good about the man.

I wish you can develop enough self-love to attract the good men and that one day you can give your heart to someone who won't destroy it.

 

[FireFox]

Phew... Well first of all: I understand that the rejection makes you feel bad! That hurts so bad!!

I was with a narcissist for 17 years. And I can tell you that your higher power took good care of you when this man rejected you... What you describe doesn't sound good, several red warning lights are going on for me. Yes, I understand very well that the red flags for you are covered by his good qualities. But I'm not in love and I see what really doesn't sound good about the man.

I wish you can develop enough self-love to attract the good men and that one day you can give your heart to someone who won't destroy it.

@Regen When I saw his text I was so upset because I have been rejected again i really thought things would be different this time.

I was so shocked reading the nearly half a page text message he sent I had to read it twice because I couldn't believe what i was seeing.

I even questioned myself asking did I do something wrong. He did agree to my request for a schedule coffee meeting on Sunday and decides to reject me 1 day before we were going to have coffee and gave me his reasons why he his rejecting me and can't be with me.

I thought I had a chance with him. He hasn't had a relationship in over 6 years and wishes he had a relationship. I am a woman who really wanted him, accepted him for who he is and have zero baggage compared to his exes making dating less stressful but he still he didn't want me.

My grandmother thinks he is an entilted piece of shit and she even said to me " so ALL these women he dated are in the wrong and he is the right?"

 

[F@#$]

Love is a lie,nothing will hurt you more.