I feel guilty

[Rachel74]

I am not a hateful person but right now I feel I am. I have grassed up a colleague at work who really is a horrible person, his actions last year caused a volunteer to attempt to take his own life, I had evidence of the bullying and showed this to the directors who did nothing. Anyway last week he did something and asked me and my tea-room manager not to say anything, its played on my mind so I told my boss as we both feared we could be suspended over his actions. My boss is here tomorrow to see him and he does not know I grassed him up but now I feel guilty. I feel I can't do this even though hes a nasty human being. He will know tomorrow it was me and then his campaign of bullying will start. I am a pretty resistant person but I am afraid of him. My boss knows of my recent suicide attempt but as shown no support.
What shall i do?

 

[Jolene40]

I am not a hateful person but right now I feel I am. I have grassed up a colleague at work who really is a horrible person, his actions last year caused a volunteer to attempt to take his own life, I had evidence of the bullying and showed this to the directors who did nothing. Anyway last week he did something and asked me and my tea-room manager not to say anything, its played on my mind so I told my boss as we both feared we could be suspended over his actions. My boss is here tomorrow to see him and he does not know I grassed him up but now I feel guilty. I feel I can't do this even though hes a nasty human being. He will know tomorrow it was me and then his campaign of bullying will start. I am a pretty resistant person but I am afraid of him. My boss knows of my recent suicide attempt but as shown no support.
What shall i do?

If you have to grass to protect yourself then do it. YOU COME FIRST always. You are not intentionally hurting this person it seems. You are trying to protect yourself and others. Don't feel guilty ever in this situation. Just be as decent a human as you can to this person when necessary.
Most companies will be in shit if they allow bullying. I know it happens all the time though.

 

[Stan]

Whistleblowing is a brave thing even though some parties who be negatively impacted would say otherwise. Bullying is often covered up by firms and downplayed as they can be liable for being sued. Human Resources is there to protect the company, not the individual. Keep a diary of what happened and going onwards for part of your protection. Keep copies of any correspondence, emails or record conversations. Do as much as possible not to be alone with the individual in question and if he does confront you or act in a bullying way, say that you will report him to HR. If they do nothing then threaten that you will contact the police regarding harassment, that should wake them up. I would not class this as 'grassing'

 

[BPD_LE]

I wouldn't say you were a hateful person at all. He sounds like a dickhead and deserves all he gets. Like you said, you're a resilient person, as many of us on here are. If he starts on you, tell him to F off! That's how I'd deal with it! Although I feel @Stan suggestions would probably be a better idea!

 

[Stan]

Bullies only work if you let them. Give him a nickname that won't get you fired but bad enough he won't like it. Take away his power