I don’t understand why people like living so much

[BlueButterfly111]

I never understood it, I personally have never felt overly attached to life, I actually have always felt like I didn't really belong here. It's just so bizarre to me seeing people cling to life so much.

It would be one thing if our quality of lives were better, but most people have to work a lot or face homelessness/ other things. Don't get me wrong, I've seen beautiful things in life, but none of them have made me feel overly attached to living in this world. I don't see how people stay on this Earth willingly for dozens of years, I will just go crazy if I have to stay here for like 80 years.

I'm only 22 and feel very weary physically and mentally, maybe I'm an old soul or something. Or maybe all of this is just because of the life I've lived, idk.

And then I just hate how people assume you're the same way as them. Like I just had someone tell me that I should be grateful for being alive another year, and I'm just like, I don't want to be alive. Hopefully I didn't come across as offensive to anyone, I just wanted to express my feelings where I can't anywhere else. Anyone else feel this way?

 

[SadRatQueen]

Sometimes I get glimpses, moments in time that I think, "Wow, life can be this fun?"
It tends to not last that long as reality starts to seep in and I'm back to where I always have been.

The 'light' was never for people like us. 'Normal' people can never truly understand our struggles.

 

[Alice.]

for a lot of people I think it's more of a fear of death rather than the love of life. you ultimately only get one chance at life, and when people can comprehend that it usually makes people want to live more, like for the fear of missing out or something.

but yea for some people i can't understand it, like when they're homeless and have nowhere to go, or people who are stuck in a dead end 9-5. then i would think it's time to go. but people are different and it's hard to understand other people for certain topics, such as this one.

 

[LukaParrot]

My opinion is when you have a objectives in life, it's something that keeps you trying as hard as it may gets. Having the right person by your side makes you even more stronger.

People give up on life when they fail, when see their dreams shattered, a very broken heart..... these are some ways that depression sneaks in your life and takes all your energy.

If I meet myself younger (20-30 yo), i would like to tell myself to try harder, to not close yourself in a shell, my main failure in life was love. Lonely really is a daily pain for me.

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

I think it's just a perspective thing. Besides, all of life is living for fleeting moments of happiness. Life sucks a lot of the time. Hell, life sucks most of the time. I think my perspective, currently, is to cherish the happy moments. Beyond that, I can't lie, I don't particularly enjoy life. I'm chugging along, trying to finish a degree and decide where to go from there.

 

[lnlybnny]

I think it's their brains that are wired "correctly" or something, whereas me for example feel like I don't fit in and don't belong. Most people find meaning here in this world and think that they belong, so life is just something quite natural to them I guess

 

[ShatteredSerenity]

I was one of those people. I really enjoyed my life before it was destroyed last year. I had a great career and I looked forward to climbing the ladder and eventually retiring. I looked forward to seeing my children continue to grow up, and spending time with my wife through old age. I was doing a number of activities I enjoyed. There were challenges that caused stress, but it was all things I could overcome. It felt great to be alive most of the time.

Now that I've lost all my reasons for living, life has become torture. I never in my wildest dreams expected to fall this far so quickly and unexpectedly, it's a living nightmare. I feel so sad constantly remembering everything I've lost.

The hard part is that people in my life still have great lives, so they don't understand the agony I'm going through. It's like I've crossed from one universe to another, from the haves to the have-nots.

 

[BlueButterfly111]

I was one of those people. I really enjoyed my life before it was destroyed last year. I had a great career and I looked forward to climbing the ladder and eventually retiring. I looked forward to seeing my children continue to grow up, and spending time with my wife through old age. I was doing a number of activities I enjoyed. There were challenges that caused stress, but it was all things I could overcome. It felt great to be alive most of the time.

Now that I've lost all my reasons for living, life has become torture. I never in my wildest dreams expected to fall this far so quickly and unexpectedly, it's a living nightmare. I feel so sad constantly remembering everything I've lost.

The hard part is that people in my life still have great lives, so they don't understand the agony I'm going through. It's like I've crossed from one universe to another, from the haves to the have-nots.

I've also experienced loss. I lost my boyfriend, my soulmate 6 months ago. He made me really happy, but even then I still cannot imagine clinging to life, even if he was still here. Idk, maybe my brain is wired differently from most people, I am on the spectrum so that would make since…

 

[crocune]

I've also experienced loss. I lost my boyfriend, my soulmate 6 months ago. He made me really happy, but even then I still cannot imagine clinging to life, even if he was still here. Idk, maybe my brain is wired differently from most people, I am on the spectrum so that would make since…

I've been a fuckup for the past decade. Never bothered me, I was happy, and content with who I was.

A few months ago my grandma passed away and now I've gone a full 180. Anxiety about the future, regrets about the past, the time and opportunities I've wasted, what and who I could have been, everything basically crashing down on me all at once. Feel lost and that ctb is an easier option than anything in front of me

 

[CogitoMori]

The people that want to live have people that support them in their endeavors rather than people that pretend to support them only to tear them down.

 

[FuneralCry]

I really understand, I've personally never wished to exist and never would do, I just don't have any interest in existing, I just don't see it as desirable to exist at all and I'd never wish to be conscious of anything at all. I find existence to be such a futile and unnecessary burden that I wish was never imposed, I just don't see myself as meant for any of this and the thought of suffering until old age is horrific to me, I'd never wish for that but rather I just want to permanently cease existing, I could personally just never see any value and benefit to existence and I find it tiring to exist as well, just simply existing is enough to make me feel tired.

 

[fkyou]

People give up on life when they fail, when see their dreams shattered, a very broken heart..... these are some ways that depression sneaks in your life and takes all your energy.

If people give up on life when they fail or see their dreams shattered then you'd be hearing about suicide every few hours

I've been a fuckup for the past decade. Never bothered me, I was happy, and content with who I was.

A few months ago my grandma passed away and now I've gone a full 180. Anxiety about the future, regrets about the past, the time and opportunities I've wasted, what and who I could have been, everything basically crashing down on me all at once. Feel lost and that ctb is an easier option than anything in front of me

Sorry if you don't mind asking..but how do you think your grandma passing caused a 180 turn

 

[depthss]

I don't understand it either. I don't like to use the word "nihilist" to describe myself, but I really just can't see the point to anything, no matter how hard I used to try and force myself to

 

[Unrequitedlife]

I never understood it, I personally have never felt overly attached to life, I actually have always felt like I didn't really belong here. It's just so bizarre to me seeing people cling to life so much.

It would be one thing if our quality of lives were better, but most people have to work a lot or face homelessness/ other things. Don't get me wrong, I've seen beautiful things in life, but none of them have made me feel overly attached to living in this world. I don't see how people stay on this Earth willingly for dozens of years, I will just go crazy if I have to stay here for like 80 years.

I'm only 22 and feel very weary physically and mentally, maybe I'm an old soul or something. Or maybe all of this is just because of the life I've lived, idk.

And then I just hate how people assume you're the same way as them. Like I just had someone tell me that I should be grateful for being alive another year, and I'm just like, I don't want to be alive. Hopefully I didn't come across as offensive to anyone, I just wanted to express my feelings where I can't anywhere else. Anyone else feel this way?

I have a general apathy when it comes to life. I love watching my children grow, but beyond that i find life to be a constant struggle. I think this manifests with me in the form of my ideation, the strength of which varies day to day.

 

[sinnovator]

I absolutely never understood the 'joy of living'. Yes, there are momentary dopamine rushes: seeing beautiful scenery, laughing with a friend, a delicious meal. But they are all temporary distractions to the truth that life = suffering. All religions and philosophies boil down to this core truth. To be alive is to be inherently lost, searching, in mental and physical discomfort as a default state.

I look around at people having children and think 'What about your own life experience was so wonderful? Why are you knowingly subjecting another to pain and suffering?'

Even as a young child, I have always felt enlightened with the truth, that nothing about this life is worth it. We're all just hurtling through time and space, (over)consuming, desperately seeking companionship, money, things, status, any possible means to mask ourselves from the truth. I just can't wait to be liberated from this existence.

 

[whyidon'tknow]

Loving life and hating life are too sides of the same coin. Both mean you hyperfocus on either positive or negative thoughts and ignore the opposite

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I don't understand it either especially when it's people who are suffering significantly worse than me that are giving out the pro life platitudes. My own pain as well as looking at the pain that other people as well as animals have to go through makes me want to leave existence earlier yet there are people who want to live despite having worse issues than me? I don't understand this phenomenon at all honestly but I don't really envy them for it as I don't consider myself to be in the wrong

 

[human909]

I agree, what are we supposed to be grateful for about life? That we live in suffering pain? I mean come on. The fact that they are forcing us to be here is just also insane. We should have the freedom to leave is our life isn't it? I hope and wish that at some point time these people well understand us.

 

[pthnrdnojvsc]

There is no objective reason for why I have to love life or anything in it.

I hate living life existence consciousness and the pleasurable addictions . It's these things that lead to the worst pain.

 

[Valhala]

It's hard to understand for me too.

 

[Daxter777]

I understand that there are nice things like good food, sex, art, music etc etc... But sometimes the beauty of those things just don't outweigh the negatives like trauma illness disease poverty slavery etc...

People are so afraid to acknowledge that because it goes against their world views.

 

[Kadri.eser]

I never understood it, I personally have never felt overly attached to life, I actually have always felt like I didn't really belong here. It's just so bizarre to me seeing people cling to life so much.

It would be one thing if our quality of lives were better, but most people have to work a lot or face homelessness/ other things. Don't get me wrong, I've seen beautiful things in life, but none of them have made me feel overly attached to living in this world. I don't see how people stay on this Earth willingly for dozens of years, I will just go crazy if I have to stay here for like 80 years.

I'm only 22 and feel very weary physically and mentally, maybe I'm an old soul or something. Or maybe all of this is just because of the life I've lived, idk.

And then I just hate how people assume you're the same way as them. Like I just had someone tell me that I should be grateful for being alive another year, and I'm just like, I don't want to be alive. Hopefully I didn't come across as offensive to anyone, I just wanted to express my feelings where I can't anywhere else. Anyone else feel this way?

I feel like I do want to enjoy life and do the things that I enjoy, but I always have something interfering with that. Sometimes it's money, sometimes it's being rejected, sometimes it's against the law, sometimes I have nasty people creating roadblocks for me, sometimes it's someone telling me lies and fear porn to prevent me from doing something, and usually it's poor health that stops me from functioning at all. So I just have longing for a better life, but it never happens. I think the supernatural forces hate me and want to destroy my entire life. Whomever they may be even if it's just fate.

 

[Ashes of a Dreamer]

Anyone else feel this way?

For sure. With your age, I thought I lived too much; now, above 30, Idk what I'm still doing here.

Just to mention, I either don't understand why ppl defend life at all cost, and then I remember that maybe their lives are indeed great, or they have principles - mainly religious - that give a sense of duty to them in order to live no matter the circumstances.

 

[Ijustcantanymore]

I have found that people that like living are usually people who are mostly insulated from most of life's horrors. They haven't been truly harmed by it, are usually well enough off to not constantly worry about their food, shelter or needs. And are generally brainwashed by prolife crap.

 

[Sutter]

Wander.

The pouncing surprise of a bright woman who gave me a good hug. Long nights rumbling songs to my infant daughter and paid in kind with light sleeping breaths. What I thought was small love but was one of the greatest with a dog in the snow late at night playing and running all over in pajamas. The shared experience of dual sexual heights with my first love. A well made blueberry pie. The snap of a bone when I wasnt losing anymore. The satisfaction at working a garden with my grandfather. A day with no pressures, listening to the breeze drag and scamper through heavy late summer leaves. A good fire burned till late evening seeing the stars and more in the coals, finishing off a dram of scotch. My daughters eyes at 7 years old swing dancing with an open smile flying through the air.

Was those moments and more. They were not every second but layered in my time. Had my own reasons with those moments that made a life wanted. Paid heavy in bad things to see some of the best, was worth it even now for me. Still wandering for my daughters but the rest has come and gone.

Just moments that meant something to me, not always profound. Akin to laying on the grass, stretched and easy enjoying clouds rolling across an ocean with no water and being visited with the lightest handshake of a blue butterfly . Caused a wonder when wandering a life, not so much now but there was.

 

[d3j3ct3dl0s3r05]

Sometimes I get the will to live whenever I occasionally feel happy but most times I either feel numbed, sad or bitter. I have a bit of a special brain that makes it harder for me to adapt to minimum wage work environments (have been basically bullied/mistreated in two jobs already). I'm too quiet and socially awkward, I don't pick up things immediately, I have strange mannerisms, my personality gets more avoidant with each passing day etc. I used to embrace being different but it's tiring at this point. I think life could be enjoyable but not with this damaged brain of mine tbh. I can't wait to go anyways, never wanted to be alive in the first place and truly think my parents were selfish for having me whilst not being in a stable situation at all tbh

 

[Kornous]

I was one of those people. I really enjoyed my life before it was destroyed last year. I had a great career and I looked forward to climbing the ladder and eventually retiring. I looked forward to seeing my children continue to grow up, and spending time with my wife through old age. I was doing a number of activities I enjoyed. There were challenges that caused stress, but it was all things I could overcome. It felt great to be alive most of the time.

Now that I've lost all my reasons for living, life has become torture. I never in my wildest dreams expected to fall this far so quickly and unexpectedly, it's a living nightmare. I feel so sad constantly remembering everything I've lost.

The hard part is that people in my life still have great lives, so they don't understand the agony I'm going through. It's like I've crossed from one universe to another, from the haves to the have-nots.

What happened to you? You seem to be successful, and retirement is coming soon. What exactly collapsed? Did something happen to your family? Or were you fired from your job?