I don't understand people who want to be old.

[IWishToDie]

I don't know, is it just me who doesn't want to get old? Old, as in older than something around 25. It's just such a crazy idea to me. Could you imagine yourself as a 60 year old? 70? 80? I definitely could not. I don't understand how people would want to live to such age. Why have we, as a society, accepted that the greatest thing that could happen to you is living for as long as possible? It feels so unreal to me. Maybe I'm really too immature to understand.

If I could have a strong healthy body, a fulfilling job, the chance to own a home and raise a family with a loyal woman, I wouldn't mind dying old. All that sounds like a fairytale to me at this point in time.

 

[Slow_Farewell]

As someone in their fourth decade of life…. "Old" is relative.

As a teenager I thought 30 was ancient, but as a teenager who used self harm as a coping mechanism and was prone to impulsive uninformed ctb attempts, I figured it'd be a miracle if I got to 21 anyway.

In my mid 20s I tried to get my shit together and give life a go without the unhealthy coping mechanisms. Then 40 seemed ancient and I still figured I'd be dead before then.

But life has a way of ticking on, and even when you're stuck in a situation that makes each second feel like eternity, when you look back you often wonder: where the hell did all the time go?!

I don't want to live to see retirement because with retirement given how much I've abused my body over the years I'll probably end up with multiple health issues and also be broke. I don't want to end up in a care facility. I don't want to lose my faculties, physically or mentally, and be reliant on others for basic care.

But truthfully, when you're younger you can't ever imagine yourself as "old". And when you do get "old", you don't know how you got there and still feel like you did when you were much younger. My mum is in her 70s and says often she looks in the mirror and can't understand who she sees there as she still feels about 30.

- This. It really is relative.

I always wanted to become old, even as a child. It never came to my mind to end my life in early ages. But life has to meet certain conditions for me, that include good health (until old age ofc!) and a good life that I want to live (that is pretty much subjective for everyone what "a good life" is). Luckily those conditions were met for most of my life.

I still would want to become old but not under my current conditions with a declining life quality due to unsolvable financial issues. That's not a life I want to live. No health issues - at least that is still good.

If my life wasn't so fucked up currently I'd really be happy to remember how good my life was and what I could experience during my life. Becoming old isn't that bad when life (incl. health) is good.

-Perfectly said.

Personally, not all of us have the same stories and life experiences. Some have better relationships, some have better finances, some have both the financial aspect and the relationship aspect worked out. Heck, some have deluded themselves into thinking that their life is good and they don't want to change regardless of the facts. So why wouldn't some people want to get old?

I like seeing old couples in the park, or at the mall, walking around and acting like they were still young, even if their hairs are all grey. True, I don't know the whole story, maybe they have some really messed up skeletons in their closet. But at that moment, in that time that I saw them, i liked knowing the variation that life offered.

This world may not be for me, but it doesn't mean it's not for other people. If they want to grow old and are capable of doing so in a fiscal sense, more power to them.

 

[Tears in Rain]

I am very afraid of old age - I am now 35 years old and my work as an escort depends on my appearance. I can already see the first few gray hairs and it's making me panic. I definitely won't live after 40 - I don't want to be old))

. There's always a man that will pay.. what I've learned it's not always about your appearance they want you to make them feel good about their appearance.

There's always a place for mature escorts, some men get turned on by a lady of a certain age!(not that I'd know anything about that world).

 

[ScubaCTB]

If I could have a strong healthy body, a fulfilling job, the chance to own a home and raise a family with a loyal woman, I wouldn't mind dying old. All that sounds like a fairytale to me at this point in time.

Growing old is only a good thing if you have a loving, caring, loyal, beautiful wife, kids, grandkids, friends, pets, good health, hobbies, and you own a home that you only pay property taxes on (or live in a state with no property tax). You also need at least $1.5 million in the bank by age 60 to live a good life in your late years. Yes, very much a fairytale. Social security won't even exist in five years.

I'm in my 40s and have about $700 in the bank, no wife/girlfriend, no kids, no home, no nothing. I should have CTB when I was 25. I knew my life was over at that point when I drove away three great women in three years; one of them would/could have been my wife today; could easily be celebrating 25+ years of marriage today if my head wasn't so messed up.

The last 20 years I could have done without. Nothing but pain, heartache, disease, loneliness, no home, few friends, lots of deaths, etc. At least if I died at 25, all my childhood memories would still be fairly recent and I could die with a smile. Now I'll die as perhaps the loneliest, most depressed and defeated man in the U.S. After age 25, your prime dating years are over. By age 35, it's way harder for women, and impossible for men unless they make $250,000 per year. If you don't have your life together by age 25, in 90% of the cases, its too late.

I truly cannot wait to die.

@Slow_Farewell said: "I like seeing old couples in the park, or at the mall, walking around and acting like they were still young, even if their hairs are all grey. True, I don't know the whole story, maybe they have some really messed up skeletons in their closet. But at that moment, in that time that I saw them, i liked knowing the variation that life offered."

Marriage is work. Granted I've never been married. But if a man and woman are married for 40 years, they have gone through a lot together, good and bad, including likely infidelity, which is the one ultimate deal breaker for me. It'd just be too hard to look her in the eyes ever again, and trust her. Happened to me in my early 20s, and made me irrationally distrust all women. Never got over that. When you see those happy old couples, they are a sign of perseverance and loyalty towards one another. It's rare for a marriage to last 10 years these days. 40 years - wow.

 

[jbear824]

I don't ever want to get old. Fuck that. Society basically considers the old as living trash. Same as homeless people. They stick you in poorly run, and poorly funded homes where you can comfortably forget that they exist. Your body just starts rotting and everything breaks down.

I don't want to make it past 40. I really fucking don't

 

[Ligottian]

One day you wake up and consider yourself "old". Whether it be 25 or 80. I'm 63 and still feel like I should be in my 30's.