Venting I don't know what to do

[Kadaver]

I don't know what to do. My roommate had me go back to live with my dad in Texas for about a month. The month is coming to an end so I decided to message him about if he still wanted me to come back. He told me I could come back but I couldn't bring my cat. The reason for this decision is that my cat doesn't get along with his at all.

I offered to buy a tall gate so my cat would be confined to my area and he didn't like this idea. He told me he's firm on it and that his cat has been very happy since mine left.

I feel like I'm being made to choose between the two things that mean the most to me. Its either I stay here where my dad doesn't want me and get to keep my pet or leave behind my pet whom I love very much for a roommate who might want me there but wants to be left alone more often than not.

My plan either way is to go on disability because of my mental health but that can take years from what I read and the idea of being apart from my cat for so long is devastating me. But I don't want to live in Texas at all and would much rather live in PA with my roommate even if I was living on my own.

I know that the obvious choice is leaving my cat behind so I can get my life set up but its just so devastating to me. I feel like I'm abandoning him. I'd come back for him eventually but being without him hurts as he's a huge form of emotional support for me.

I've just been off and on crying at the idea of having to leave him behind.

Any advice for getting on disability in PA would be appropriated

 

[wannabesoftware]

wtf that's awful that your roommate would put you in this position... what's his issue with keeping the cats in separate areas?? is he willing to compromise with you at all on this? if not, do you have any friends in the area that would be willing to house the cat for you? or is there any other potential living situation not with this person, where you could have your cat?

 

[Kadaver]

wtf that's awful that your roommate would put you in this position... what's his issue with keeping the cats in separate areas?? is he willing to compromise with you at all on this? if not, do you have any friends in the area that would be willing to house the cat for you? or is there any other potential living situation not with this person, where you could have your cat?

I'm not entirely sure. When I asked him what his objections were with keeping the cats separate he told me that I "had a hard time accepting the word no" and got upset. I think my dad would keep him while I'm gone, but being alone without my cat sounds miserable... I don't have any other living options; just him and my dad and both have their own pretty big cons.