Venting I do not like my mother.

[CFLoser]

She likes me but she's a bad person

 

[chrijo]

My mother is dead and I still hate her.

Maybe I'm a bad person?

 

[anelakapu]

I've felt this too. I remember as a kid, friends would always be like, 'but she's so nice how can you hate your mom'. well! number one i'm mentally ill as fuck and number two she just doesn't give a fuck lol. Growing up with one absent parent and one physically present, but indifferent parent is.. I mean its nice that i had all the obligatory roof over my head etc. but I might as well be an emotional orphan.

 

[GeorgeJL]

My mother is dead and I still hate her.

Maybe I'm a bad person?

You should forgive your mom. If not for her for your own mental health.

 

[Dead beat dad]

She likes me but she's a bad person

What don't you like about your mother?

 

[noonetoo]

You owe her nothing, especially if she was a bad mom. She didn't do her duty. Mine didn't either. Just wish before I died she would apologize for bringing me into this world.

 

[GeorgeJL]

You owe her nothing, especially if she was a bad mom. She didn't do her duty. Mine didn't either. Just wish before I died she would apologize for bringing me into this world.

Unforgivingness is the law of animals. We are humans and as a human you can come to realize that many people are just animals too and that liberates our minds because now we no longer has moralize, and be unforgiving for others actions. Being unforgiving is a low state for a mind to be in because that means that the person that is unforgiving doesn't understand the true nature of consciousness and mind and how powerful a role genes and neurochemistry play in our actions and thoughts. I hope I am not giving you too much meat to chew on, or can you understand this?

 

[noonetoo]

Unforgivingness is the law of animals. We are humans and as a human you can come to realize that many people are just animals too and that liberates our minds because now we no longer has moralize, and be unforgiving for others actions. Being unforgiving is a low state for a mind to be in because that means that the person that is unforgiving doesn't understand the true nature of consciousness and mind and how powerful a role genes and neurochemistry play in our actions and thoughts. I hope I am not giving you too much meat to chew on, or can you understand this?

Forgiveness is accepting their actions. No thanks.

 

[GeorgeJL]

Forgiveness is accepting their actions. No thanks.

Well my definition for forgiveness is - accepting their core humanity, while one can still disagree with their actions.

Because when you get more mature you realize that many adults never grew up to begin with fully, or they were lead astray by others a long time ago. The causes could be as wide as gene's, nature, nurture, or experiences.

 

[BlackDragonof1989]

I know the feeling, it's complicated I don't know what else to say, mine doted on me but treated my father well, not so well I feel, but he had his choices as well. I was lucky they didn't divorce, though she never really got over her first husband it seems, I am kind of the same myself, I end up clinging to the distant, or narcissistic, and being rather bored by the clingy or submissive, but I'm a male so I don't know I'm a mess ah <3 So silly <3

 

[noonetoo]

Well my definition for forgiveness is - accepting their core humanity, while one can still disagree with their actions.

Because when you get more mature you realize that many adults never grew up to begin with fully, or they were lead astray by others a long time ago. The causes could be as wide as gene's, nature, nurture, or experiences.

We shouldn't be forced to "grow up" (or be the bigger person) because our parents didn't. Some actions have No Excuse, especially when they knew what they were doing was wrong.

 

[GeorgeJL]

We shouldn't be forced to "grow up" (or be the bigger person) because our parents didn't. Some actions have No Excuse, especially when they knew what they were doing was wrong.

If you don't mind me asking, what did she do that was an unpardonable sin?

 

[noonetoo]

A mother's duty is to protect her children. In any circumstance, it is never okay to prostitute your disabled daughter and youngest daughter to your husband for a roof over your head as a housewife. Then force them to lie it never happened so he could be free from prison and they could never be believed or receive any sort of justice. And try to live the rest of your life in denial, free from any guilt. So many mothers like that today and worse. "A Child Called It" There's literally no excuse, zero, none.

Didn't mention we got beat for not listening to him. Now that I'm mentally scarred as an adult, wish I would have preferred the beatings.

 

[GeorgeJL]

A mother's duty is to protect her children. In any circumstance, it is never okay to prostitute your disabled daughter and youngest daughter to your husband for a roof over your head as a housewife. Then force them to lie it never happened so he could be free from prison and they could never be believed or receive any sort of justice. And try to live the rest of your life in denial, free from any guilt. So many mothers like that today and worse. "A Child Called It" There's literally no excuse, zero, none.

Didn't mention we got beat for not listening to him. Now that I'm mentally scarred as an adult, wish I would have preferred the beatings.

Sounds like some serious shit.
Now let me tell you a little story. My dad wasn't there for me when I was a child. He was physically there for me but emotionally he wasn't and he use to beat me and my brothers and my sister for minor things that children do. He thought corporal punishment was good because in the bible it says "spare the rod spoil the child." I knew that my dad didn't hang out with his father very much at all when he was a child. And I still held that against my dad for him not being there for me emotionally and being so hard one me and my siblings. My father didn't have a sense of humor for the early part of my life, he hardly never told jokes. And even later on when I found out that my dad was raped by his dad when he was a child I didn't fully forgive him and now that he's dead I have so many regrets for not telling him I loved him. So I guess what I am trying to say is that yes what your mother did was wrong. But maybe there are secrets in her past that tell a story of how she was hurt, which caused her to act out the way she did later on. I am not justifying what she did. Just like I wouldn't justify what Hitler did. But even in the case of Hitler, he did what he did because his environment supported that. Many Germans already hated the Jews. And the Germans consistently lied about their experience which lead to the rise of Hitler and WWII. Think about that.

 

[Mr. Hang Man]

My mother is dead and I still hate her.

Maybe I'm a bad person?

Same, except for me it's my father.

 

[Pepega]

I want to hate my parents because they are so basic and can't understand shit, I wanna leave as far from them but they only one that give me money and i'm to incompetent to earn any...

 

[Gray Wounds]

I don't like anyone aside from my cats. I hate my parents (biological and not) to the point where if my sanity breaks, they better get out of my sight or I'll kill them (no doubt)

 

[YukiFox]

Besides that my mom is transphobic, or manipulated me to take another course that I don 't want it at college, despite her strict moral code based on old school catholicism, I still respect her. I don't hate her, only I disagree in almost that she thinks about the life and myself. She isn't a factor to not die by suicide, I try not to imagine how can she will handle the grief about me, and no, my death will not a blackmail for her to not accept me as trans.

 

[Final Escape]

I've felt this too. I remember as a kid, friends would always be like, 'but she's so nice how can you hate your mom'. well! number one i'm mentally ill as fuck and number two she just doesn't give a fuck lol. Growing up with one absent parent and one physically present, but indifferent parent is.. I mean its nice that i had all the obligatory roof over my head etc. but I might as well be an emotional orphan.

I can really relate to this. Took the words right out of my mouth. My childhood friends did know something was up, especially when I tried to run away or called them crying.

I don't like anyone aside from my cats. I hate my parents (biological and not) to the point where if my sanity breaks, they better get out of my sight or I'll kill them (no doubt)

Lol! Thank God for the feline. They really help isolation and loneliness.

 

[noonetoo]

Sounds like some serious shit.
Now let me tell you a little story. My dad wasn't there for me when I was a child. He was physically there for me but emotionally he wasn't and he use to beat me and my brothers and my sister for minor things that children do. He thought corporal punishment was good because in the bible it says "spare the rod spoil the child." I knew that my dad didn't hang out with his father very much at all when he was a child. And I still held that against my dad for him not being there for me emotionally and being so hard one me and my siblings. My father didn't have a sense of humor for the early part of my life, he hardly never told jokes. And even later on when I found out that my dad was raped by his dad when he was a child I didn't fully forgive him and now that he's dead I have so many regrets for not telling him I loved him. So I guess what I am trying to say is that yes what your mother did was wrong. But maybe there are secrets in her past that tell a story of how she was hurt, which caused her to act out the way she did later on. I am not justifying what she did. Just like I wouldn't justify what Hitler did. But even in the case of Hitler, he did what he did because his environment supported that. Many Germans already hated the Jews. And the Germans consistently lied about their experience which lead to the rise of Hitler and WWII. Think about that.

Except she had a better childhood. Despite her father being abusive, he could never "touch his own children". He did give them a good whooping however. She was never a target since she was the favorite. And she's aware of the burning rage I feel within, that made me lose hope in religion and hate my dead grandfather. People need to be held liable for the wrong things they do, there's no cop out. If we can hold morals, know right from wrong, pain from pleasure, and common sense, if my dog can love me more than my own mother, then what does that say about humans?
That some animals can behave better than humans?

And sorry about your dad. It's really sad, sometimes their own kids are outlets for their built-up anger. Except many don't stop the abusive cycle, it's a choice. Blaming what someone goes through as a child tells the world the rest of survivors are more likely to do it, which is not true. It may be hard, but it's possible to be better than our own parents.

 

[EmotionlessWanderer]

Mine is an narcissistic freak and so is my judgmental as fuck stepdad. They're both why I'm insecure and on the verge of snapping nowadays.