I can’t forget my ex girlfriend

[tothemoon]

Sure am mate, and I'm a huge EPL fan, you won't like this though - I support the other mob on the opposite end of Stanley Park to you :P finally about to see my team win the league for the first time as an adult, and bam, Covid. Only a game though, everyone will get over it.

Man, you got greencard stung, that sucks. Where was she from? I think my ex step-dad is going though the same now, he married a Russian last year, ever since she's been distant with him.

I'm OK with being alone, I'm an only child so I often prefer it. I ended two promising looking relationships in the past few years purely because I realised I was happier being single, as soon as I start having to constantly text someone or speak to them every night or see them every few days, I get cold feet. I know others are different though, they crave companionship and security more than anything.

I think Liverpool winning isn't the worst thing ever:) I'm more of a "I like Everton and other teams are cool too" fan. Although I genuinely dislike Chelsea...they can pretend all they want but they're not blue blood, no history man. She was from Guatemala. I actually knew her a few years before we got married so it wasn't a mail order bride or anything, but the signs were there. Like I mentioned, we had some legit issues, if we didn't have those would she have left anyways? Honestly, probably. The counselor told her "You solution to every problem is to get a divorce". Could've been exacerbated by being in it for the greencard but...she's a runner, that's just her nature. BUT, can't be a victim. No kids, only 5 years, not the worst divorce by far. A guy that can realize he can be happy single is a great thing! I love to hear it. It's a bright light for guys that struggle being alone.

 

[SpareWheel]

Man United is my hated team of course, I can't stand Chelsea either, bunch of plastic racists. I have respect for Toffees, they're a real club with real fans, having had a few Scouse ex girlfriends too I've known a lot of blues, most Liverpool families are half and half so the rivalry is a friendly one.

Guatemalan eh, I have a vision of her being a stunner now, I've always liked dark skinned and haired women. Women come and go mate, you're never to know if the next one isn't the actual "one". But it is possible to be content without being with someone, having female friends helps cos you then get a bit of the affection and the female advice, my two oldest mates are both women, got ribbed mercilessly growing up I had two girl mates and I wasn't sleeping with either. Sex can be a big miss but that's easily accessible if you're one that can sleep around, I can't, got a weird flaw that means I have to care about someone before I'll sleep with them, bain of my life in my 20s when women were on tap and I was going home alone. I'm sorry how your marriage ended, if it's any consolation there's fellas out there that'd give their right arm just to spend a week with a woman, I know a few that have never had a relationship, not even bad or unattractive men, it's just never happened for them although I do think one of the lads is asexual, he's never shown interest in women or men, right from being a kid. Just smokes weed and play games all day.

 

[tothemoon]

I miss my ex wife like crazy and its been 1,5 years since we divorced... I feel this regret of being an asshole and treating her like crap and cheating will never go away... Every minute i think about what ive lost...

Well, think of it this way. The divorce is over, she's gone, the only question left is how much you're going to suffer now. Maybe you did do things wrong, but I'm sure she did too. My roommate told me "Your ex doesn't give a shit, wallow in sadness for the next decade, blow your brains out, she doesn't care either way". And it's true.

 

[EndlessCycle]

All I know she ruined my life lefting me all by myself. That hurts so badly. Sorry I had to vent this again, you guys may be tired of hearing this but I don't have anyone else I can share with.

I resonate with this as my ex is the main trigger I want to ctb.
whole thing came surprisingly and I honestly believe that she was "the one" as I cant imagine another person matching all these traits, preferences and sometimes opposite things..I often get met when I read through the internet and see "if it didnt work out it wasnt meant to be " comments. I think this was really it and its just now gone. Also, after the breakup she scorched me in some cruel ways with stuff that haunts me besides missing her...often had the laugh-and cry combo in the last time. I know that there will be other relationsships and every one is different, has is own dynamics and you love for what it is..still I cant get her out of my head. I was so happy to look into the future..what it holds for us, and walk with her through it side by side..life was so joyful back then. Even tho I faced lots of neglect, abuse, violence in different forms and other fucked up shit this is the thing that seems to break me..