Busticket

Busticket

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May 18, 2021
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I apologize for my last few threads.
I made them out of anger and frustration for not receiving any attention from women and not being able to find a gf.
I realize that from anger and resentment no good things can come.

I think what I need to do right now is let go of my obsession with trying to get a gf and focus on myself and my improvent plan and exercise, eat healthy and abstain from sugar and processed foods, abstain from porn masturbation and read books.
 
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TooConscious

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Sep 16, 2020
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Is it wise to refrain from masturbation buddy? I know the couple of white lilies lurking here would like to see you struggle. Abstinence may have its benefits but you're going to become very repressed very quickly, I'd save that for when you're feeling mentally stronger.
 
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motel rooms

Survivor of incest. Gay. Please don't PM me.
Apr 13, 2021
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You know, you don't have to leave this forum. It's obviously hard for you to stay away from it. :))
As for denying yourself sexual release completely, it's bad both for your mental health & your prostate. You can masturbate without porn
 
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I respect your apology and your accountability for previous threads. Your frustration is understandable - loneliness is very painful and rejection hurts - but I am glad you can recognise how harmful resentment can be in this situation. I hope you take some time to re-evaluate your perspective on women and relationships going forward.

I agree with the above though: Is completely ceasing masturbation wise? There is a wealth of research illustrating the physical and psychological benefits of masturbation. If it is having a negative impact on your life or if it's excessive for you, I can understand wanting to cut back, but I question the benefit of stopping entirely. I have seen a lot of anecdotes about the life-changing impact of "NoFap", but very little scientific research that reliably backs it up. Of course, it is your decision regardless of what anyone says.

While your other goals for improving your life are admirable, it feels like you are putting a lot of pressure on yourself to suddenly adopt many new habits, such as exercising six times per week and exclusively eating healthy vegan foods. I truly hope you succeed and achieve your goals. I simply question if some of your previous habits - such as browsing YouTube, sugary drinks and unhealthy food - were also coping mechanisms, and whether abruptly changing these habits without adopting alternative methods of coping (that you find helpful) could contribute to higher stress levels, making these goals much harder to implement.

I recall that you also said several times that you would leave this forum, yet each time, you returned within days. I totally understand why - you have said before that you are isolated and that members here are the closest thing you have to friends. However, it once again makes me wonder whether you are being realistic, and if going from 0 to 100 is too much, too soon.

I just want to emphasize that you are making some massive changes, and that it's okay if you experience setbacks or slip up. It's also okay if some of these are not the right steps for you after all, to make more gradual changes or to re-evaluate which changes are needed as you go along. I wish you all the best.
 
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sadbadpsychogirl

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May 29, 2020
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your title says an apology to all women yet your entire post is about porn masturbating not eating sugar. it has nothing to do with apologizing to women. only what your plan of the day is lol
 
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GenesAndEnvironment

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Apology accepted, now subscribe to my onlyfans and premium snapchat while I take my 100th Chad-cock.
 
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Meditation guide

Always was, is, and always shall be.
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I apologize for my last few threads.
I made them out of anger and frustration for not receiving any attention from women and not being able to find a gf.
I realize that from anger and resentment no good things can come.

I think what I need to do right now is let go of my obsession with trying to get a gf and focus on myself and my improvent plan and exercise, eat healthy and abstain from sugar and processed foods, abstain from porn masturbation and read books.
It's a good idea to focus on being healthy physically and mentally. I hope you can do it. There would be a help if you could get some therapy of some kind probably. There's a lot going on beneath the surface that might have more to do with your own image of yourself and your coping mechanisms.
 
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However, it once again makes me wonder whether you are being realistic, and if going from 0 to 100 is too much, too soon.
I just want to emphasize that you are making some massive changes, and that it's okay if you experience setbacks or slip up.

Nobody can change anything significant about themselves overnight. Stop listening to mainstream inspirational speakers. They are shameless assholes who know absolutely nothing about psychology & who prey on the naive. Baby steps, boy...
 
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Anonymous_A

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Oct 4, 2020
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Why not just create a new account and start over?
it's the internet lol
 

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