I have a feeling that my life never happened. I didn't have in my life things regular people usually have. I never had a girlfriend. Never had sex due to body insecurity (I only had few times paid sex which is bad for self esteem). I never had job carrier. Never had children. Do you guys also feel that your life never happened ?
no 4mat
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- Oct 17, 2020
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I admire your survive instinct. i can never imagine passing +22 ill defo kms before it. but hey life is tricky. life could give you gold when ur homeless on a chair tying suicide rope, life is tricky.
I'm sorry you feel so bad. I don't blame you.
I'm 48, and though I've been down to the bottom of the barrel, yet I still want to live for as long as I can, despite unusual circumstances.
Why? I have no idea, because I despair of the nature of things, especially as I watch as the world moves on. However, I still find odd things of value and I still want to see what happens.
I'm 48, and though I've been down to the bottom of the barrel, yet I still want to live for as long as I can, despite unusual circumstances.
Why? I have no idea, because I despair of the nature of things, especially as I watch as the world moves on. However, I still find odd things of value and I still want to see what happens.
Squiddy
Here Lies My Hopes And Dreams
- Sep 4, 2019
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I feel like I might be asexual/aromantic and if so, I feel like that's one more reason I have to ctb because I don't want to be alone :(
Pookie
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- Oct 18, 2020
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Maybe you can find a fellow asexual partner.
I've had those things that you sadly haven't, yet here we both are.
Squiddy
Here Lies My Hopes And Dreams
- Sep 4, 2019
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Not sure it would work because I also feel I'm aromantic and I wouldn't be able to experience any romantic attraction either :(
Futile
Tired of being lonely
- Sep 3, 2020
- 499
Same but with half your age. Sorry for the question but would you say visiting escorts or paying for sex in general has made things better or worse? I'm currently a virgin and I was wondering if I should go see a prostitute before killing myself
FireFox
Enlightened
- Apr 8, 2020
- 1,603
Hello Regular John
Yes i do feel like my life never happened too. We kind of similar.
I feel like it too late for me to change my life and i dont feel young anyone. I feel 50 and my entire life has passed me by.
I am 23 year old female and i never had a boyfriend and i am still a virgin. It is very embarrassing because most people lose their virginity in their teens or early twenties . Sometimes i feel like the only one. Adult virginity is something that is not discussed in society
I used to be made fun of for being a virgin and been questioned why i am single by people.
I never had a job too.
I dont know what to say really..
It sucks because she doesn't want to have sex with you. Plus when you think that there are many boys who girls want to have sex with but you are not the one, it kills you. On one hand after sex with escort you know how it tastes to be close with a woman. On the other hand it kills you because you know if she had a choice she wouldn't touch you. The reason why she ' touches' you is because she wants earn money.
If you die early job is not a problem. If you are still alive at the age let's say 67 and have not earned pension you will die of hunger. At the age of 50 people have 30 years employment history. I don't belong to this group. I think : what is the reason to live when at the age of 67 when I can't work anymore I will have zero pension money earned ?
Yes. Even though I did have some nice times I really missed out on life. In many ways. I lived my life very wrongly.
clownangel
Student
- Sep 25, 2019
- 122
This is how I feel watching people I know getting degrees, enjoying their work/careers, starting families, engagement announcements & weddings. Things move forward elsewhere but I feel like I've been just treading water for a decade.
Teal_Blue_Dreams
Arcanist
- Sep 15, 2020
- 401
This part! I hate to hear it and I have to fake being happy ab it. Sometimes news of these things is enough to ruin my day.
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clownangel
Student
- Sep 25, 2019
- 122
I always feel like such a jerk because I'm the same way sometimes. Luckily all of those things aren't the only things in life that matter or to accomplish but....feeling stuck and watching others go forward is so rough.
epic
Enlightened
- Aug 9, 2019
- 1,813
You can do all of the things you mentioned at your age(except maybe for having children, that also maybe) . You have anxiety because you think that society expects you to complete these things earlier . On the contrary, I think most people would appreciate you if you get a job at 50 . The same goes for having a girlfriend, people would be happy for you . Having children , I am not sure how people would react.
In case you are surrounded by negative nancys , I wouldn't give crap to what they think and pursue what I wanted.
In case you are surrounded by negative nancys , I wouldn't give crap to what they think and pursue what I wanted.
I understand what you're saying, but I'd like to propose something else to you. It seems as if your definition of what "life" is relates to societal norms regarding what constitutes a meaningful life. Your life can have meaning even if you haven't had sex, or a relationship, or children. May I ask, what are some things in your 50 years that brought you joy or brought you meaning? Even if they aren't things the world-at-large generally prizes, they can still be important.
Bärchen
Distracting myself through Life
- Apr 7, 2019
- 202
You are my older self, i am 35. But my job pays good and i never wanted kids
Amumu
Ctb - temporary solution for a permanent problem
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Having children after 55 is not recommended for men because there are often complications at birth.
Cherrypea
I remember when all this will be again
- May 3, 2020
- 414
I'm also 50 and feel it's a good age to go. We tried and we failed.
In the place I am formerly from, a woman should be a virgin (and tick all other XYZ boxes) when she marries a man to be considered a human. Not a virgin or date another nation and you are labelled a "slut", don't have children and you are labelled broken, being a divorcee means broken, marrying second time means grooms is doing you a favour and so on.
I am 31, not in a relationship, haven't had sex in 10 years and don't have children. Personally I don't consider having sex, family and children to be a standard of success. Of course it is nice to have all of those things if those what you really want and not being forced on you.
I am 31, not in a relationship, haven't had sex in 10 years and don't have children. Personally I don't consider having sex, family and children to be a standard of success. Of course it is nice to have all of those things if those what you really want and not being forced on you.
I'm with @Wisdom3_1-9
Do you rate those things such as a a partner, children, a job, sex etc, important to your life because they're important to YOU, or because you consider it to be what OTHER people use to measure your apparent success?
If these things are truly important to you, then I can imagine the hurt and loss you'll be feeling.
But life isn't just about our success. Do you have anything that brings you joy? Films, books, nature? Life is to be ENJOYED. and enjoyed in YOUR way, so if you have anything, however seemingly small, that brings you joy then perhaps focus on those things?
If a job and relationship, is important to you, then I'm not convinced it is necessarily too late for you. Are there reasons you think this might not have happened for you in the past?
As a bit of hope, I went to a wedding last year and the bride was 56, never previously married or with children. Of course its just anecdotal, but your age isn't necessarily going to stop you right now .
Perhaps consider practical reasons youve struggled with finding a relationship, or a job, previously and start from there.
The forum might have people who can help give advice on practical things to help. Or just a bit of support and encouragement when it's needed.
Its worth trying, surely, before you decide to end your life?
Sending you lots of well wishes!
Do you rate those things such as a a partner, children, a job, sex etc, important to your life because they're important to YOU, or because you consider it to be what OTHER people use to measure your apparent success?
If these things are truly important to you, then I can imagine the hurt and loss you'll be feeling.
But life isn't just about our success. Do you have anything that brings you joy? Films, books, nature? Life is to be ENJOYED. and enjoyed in YOUR way, so if you have anything, however seemingly small, that brings you joy then perhaps focus on those things?
If a job and relationship, is important to you, then I'm not convinced it is necessarily too late for you. Are there reasons you think this might not have happened for you in the past?
As a bit of hope, I went to a wedding last year and the bride was 56, never previously married or with children. Of course its just anecdotal, but your age isn't necessarily going to stop you right now .
Perhaps consider practical reasons youve struggled with finding a relationship, or a job, previously and start from there.
The forum might have people who can help give advice on practical things to help. Or just a bit of support and encouragement when it's needed.
Its worth trying, surely, before you decide to end your life?
Sending you lots of well wishes!
Don't get too attached to this boyfriendthing. Having a partner doesn't necessarily mean to be happy. Its more the other way, once you got one you wish sometimes to be single. I wouldn't define happiness from having another person.
Amumu
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Please understand that for some of us we're so miserable while being single that we imagine a romantic relationship could save us.
If I were 100% sure that I wouldn't be happier with a romantic partner I would have jumped out of the window long long ago.
Its a misconception that once you have a partner your problems are gone. What if she or he dumpes you?
Amumu
Ctb - temporary solution for a permanent problem
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It's a misconception, but that's what keeps us going. Sometimes we need hope.
Is they dump me I probably wait and then ctb. If I'm strong enough, I don't.
May even complicate problems too. Your future partner should not have to be your caretaker as well. That gets mentally draining.
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