I am a gay incel

[come to dust]

Some people here will probably take badly to me using the word "incel" but there is simply no other way to describe my state of being other than as someone who is incel i.e. involuntarily celibate.

Over the last week i tried to get sex by goimg on grindr and many other apps to look for men in my city. Any man I messaged, ignored rejected or blocked me once I sent a picture of me. Without fail. As my desperation increased, I went on more and more extreme websites to see if maybe I agreed to someone's weird fetish they would let me have sex with them. But no dice. Coprophages, gerontophiles, and self described sluts and slaves all turned me down.

There's no one left to message or reach out to. I scroll along the apps and see the same profiles who I have messaged to no avail. I must have messaged hundreds of men in the last week. Yet none of this led to any kind of sexual interest. Therefore I am involuntary celibate. I have to come to terms with this, and mourn my fantasy of being someone with physical appeal.

It is something very fundamental about me that people find ugly. I am slim fit, exercise daily, have a degree and a job, and various hobbies. I am doing everything "right" as society would want it. But something in my body is completely repulsive to everyone and I will never be able to change that.

 

[LifeIsAChore11]

I'm one too. And what sucks is we have no forums to congregate in to share our frustrations. Pretty much all the straight ones don't allow us on there.

But yea, I've given up.

 

[Tyrone Slothrop]

>cant even get gay laid
epik fail

 

[Heavenbound]

I'm in the same boat.

 

[BruhXDDDDD]

I don't have much experience with those apps, but I wonder how much of it just consists mildly bisexual/heteroflexible dudes who only really like the idea of fucking a guy. there are lots of people i've VC'd with who just don't want to show their face because they're 'gay' but not THAT gay (myself included).

 

[come to dust]

I don't have much experience with those apps, but I wonder how much of it just consists mildly bisexual/heteroflexible dudes who only really like the idea of fucking a guy. there are lots of people i've VC'd with who just don't want to show their face because they're 'gay' but not THAT gay (myself included).

Well I would say the majority there are still fully gay and show their face and expect that you do the same. When they see my ugly face it's over.

 

[Deo volente]

Some people here will probably take badly to me using the word "incel" but there is simply no other way to describe my state of being other than as someone who is incel i.e. involuntarily celibate.

Over the last week i tried to get sex by goimg on grindr and many other apps to look for men in my city. Any man I messaged, ignored rejected or blocked me once I sent a picture of me. Without fail. As my desperation increased, I went on more and more extreme websites to see if maybe I agreed to someone's weird fetish they would let me have sex with them. But no dice. Coprophages, gerontophiles, and self described sluts and slaves all turned me down.

There's no one left to message or reach out to. I scroll along the apps and see the same profiles who I have messaged to no avail. I must have messaged hundreds of men in the last week. Yet none of this led to any kind of sexual interest. Therefore I am involuntary celibate. I have to come to terms with this, and mourn my fantasy of being someone with physical appeal.

It is something very fundamental about me that people find ugly. I am slim fit, exercise daily, have a degree and a job, and various hobbies. I am doing everything "right" as society would want it. But something in my body is completely repulsive to everyone and I will never be able to change that.

It is called gaycel and it's a thing but, just like straight incels you can either rationalize your catastrophizing and rot or try to do something about it. Being gay comes with some advantages and many disadvantages. If you wish to discuss this further PM me.

 

[come to dust]

It is called gaycel and it's a thing but, just like straight incels you can either rationalize your catastrophizing and rot or try to do something about it. Being gay comes with some advantages and many disadvantages. If you wish to discuss this further PM me.

As you can see from my original post I have already done lots to try and fix it. Are you gay?

 

[Deo volente]

As you can see from my original post I have already done lots to try and fix it. Are you gay?

Ya I am and I used to think it was hopeless for me too but it wasn't.

 

[come to dust]

Ya I am and I used to think it was hopeless for me too but it wasn't.

Maybe you're attractive unlike me.

 

[Georg]

So you only tried online texting?
Are there no gay clubs/bars you can go?

 

[come to dust]

So you only tried online texting?
Are there no gay clubs/bars you can go?

I have tried both. In fact I was at a gay club on Thursday

 

[Disappointered]

I was surprised some years ago to learn that even though many homosexual men are extremely active with multiple partners, they are also just as demanding as heteros when it comes to dating.

Sucks but then again, if the infamous "bathouses" still exist then that might be the way to go. of course, they won't want to go out with you afterwards...in fact they might not even be able to see your face. it's probably not as good as normal dating + sex but i guess it's still something.

 

[Georg]

I have tried both. In fact I was at a gay club on Thursday

Sorry man. I am also an Incel, but not gay. So I know how you feel. And for me, it is not about being sexless, what hurts me more is the feeling of getting rejected. This feeling of not being good enough. I can't cope with this much longer.

The only two options we have is getting surgery or ctb.

I wish you the best!

 

[come to dust]

I was surprised some years ago to learn that even though many homosexual men are extremely active with multiple partners, they are also just as demanding as heteros when it comes to dating.

Sucks but then again, if the infamous "bathouses" still exist then that might be the way to go. of course, they won't want to go out with you afterwards...in fact they might not even be able to see your face. it's probably not as good as normal dating + sex but i guess it's still something.

I have tried bathhouses and get no attention there either. Except for men who might be my grandparents age maybe. But that's not something I would feel comfortable with

 

[H.O.Xan]

Sorry man. I am also an Incel, but not gay. So I know how you feel. And for me, it is not about being sexless, what hurts me more is the feeling of getting rejected. This feeling of not being good enough. I can't cope with this much longer.

The only two options we have is getting surgery or ctb.

I wish you the best!

not meaning to offend the girls on here or anything, but sometimes it feels like they use their "power to say no" a lil too much. Whereas men will literally go for any half-decent chick. Instills some serious self-doubts within u, no lie

 

[Myforevercharlie]

men will literally go for any half-decent chick. Instills some serious self-doubts within u, no lie

You've got to be kidding me.

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

Some people here will probably take badly to me using the word "incel" but there is simply no other way to describe my state of being other than as someone who is incel i.e. involuntarily celibate.

Over the last week i tried to get sex by goimg on grindr and many other apps to look for men in my city. Any man I messaged, ignored rejected or blocked me once I sent a picture of me. Without fail. As my desperation increased, I went on more and more extreme websites to see if maybe I agreed to someone's weird fetish they would let me have sex with them. But no dice. Coprophages, gerontophiles, and self described sluts and slaves all turned me down.

There's no one left to message or reach out to. I scroll along the apps and see the same profiles who I have messaged to no avail. I must have messaged hundreds of men in the last week. Yet none of this led to any kind of sexual interest. Therefore I am involuntary celibate. I have to come to terms with this, and mourn my fantasy of being someone with physical appeal.

It is something very fundamental about me that people find ugly. I am slim fit, exercise daily, have a degree and a job, and various hobbies. I am doing everything "right" as society would want it. But something in my body is completely repulsive to everyone and I will never be able to change that.

Sorry this is happening to you. Shows how little I know. We have stereotypes in society. I didn't think gay men had a problem getting laid if they wanted to. Especially someone who is fit.
I'm repulsive to women and I'm sure men. So I strike out twice.
I know that doesn't mean much. I'm not trying to get laid. If I were in a better place, I might consider dating.
I wish you could find someone special, if that is what you want.

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

I just noticed this thread is older. Have things improved?