Hygiene/Self care

[Jen0804]

Also loving the honesty, there's nothing to be ashamed of
At my worst I think I went a three full weeks without showering

If you struggle to shower baby wipes can help and if you have some change to spare you can buy self cleaning hair caps on eBay or Amazon , they were originally designed for bed bound patients but they do a great job

Using mouth wash is better than nothing

I still go for days with greasy hair and only do my teeth once
A day, in the psych ward I didn't bother for like four days because I just wanted to die and shut down I didn't eat or anything.

I'm doing better now with it because I have no choice but to interact with other peopl but if I didn't I know I'd probably just stay in bed or indoors and let myself go again

Cavities that are bad are enough to make someone wanna die, I had a real toothache last year and not even morphine could take it away so if you can use listerine and definitely do, even salt water helps, or some hydrogen peroxide


dont feel ashamed, is a real problem.. My best friend ctb and hadn't showered ft about six weeks prior, I really do understand how we can stop caring and shut down especially with self care

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[sadgirl2002]

I was like that aswell. I wouldn't bathe for days or take care of my hair. Since my hair was long and curly, if I don't detangle it, it looks like a big mop. My mother had to tell me that my neck had brown patches from all the dirt that appeared but I didn't even notice it even though I looked in the mirror whilst brushing my teeth everyday. I looked like a troll because I just didn't care anymore, I was filthy on the inside so I became filthy on the outside.

 

[Return2Dust]

The thought of taking a shower is overwhelming. Every three days, I force myself to get in. Standing under the water isn't bad. I stay for 30 minutes once I actually get there. The mental gymnastics required to take a shower in the first place is ridiculous. I remember a time when I loved showering every day and spent a bunch of money on expensive soap and shampoos. What's the point now?

 

[Kingkelly]

I've been there. I'm disgusted by what I paid a surgeon to do to my face I didnt leave my bed for months. Had to pee with light off. I hate life and mirrors now fuck everything fuck makeup showering nothing will help my ruined face now

 

[Deleted member 1465]

I'm the complete opposite and I think that's because of my OCD.
Shower twice a day, change PJs every day and bedding every 2 days. Constantly changing my knickers and wash my hands all the time.

The dad thing with me is I am like that too I just don't have the strength anymore.

 

[Bpdboii]

I shower every day because it's one of the only comforts I have so I spend like 40 mins just standing under the water. I brush my teeth every day and I have no choice but to brush my hair after a shower cause it's quite Curly naturally. I have a lavender lotion routine before bed too. Its literally the only things that break up my day and feeling like I have something to do tbh.

It's a good sign and seems like you are improving from the conditions you were suffering from.

 

[RedBuns]

I also used to shower every single night and buy expensive shampoos and conditioners up until a few years ago and it's gotten worse the past month. I just took a shower for the first time in I think 2 weeks? And brushed my teeth finally lol and I also brush my hair every like 2 days? fuck it fucking sucks so bad but I can't bring myself to do shit except take care of my kids and literally that's it

 

[kappa]

Brushing teeth is more important. You don't need a shower, but you need to brush your teeth.

I can slack some nights but I will do that over showering. I have a lot of dentist work done, teeth pulled,yada yada. So that's my motivation because I hate getting work done in my mouth.

 

[tomz323]

Surprisingly this is one thing I keep up at, I keep trying to make myself feel better by staying well-groomed.

 

[Quinlor]

At least you aren't fat yet... until july i think I had stop to do physics exercise and I had shame of wake up every day. Same thing in relation to shave, cut hair and etc.
And i am sorry i am obsessed in clear my teeths. I have 4 different types of toothbrushes.

 

[bigj75]

yae i understand. it's hard to self maintain when extremely depressed. I just think to myself gotta try not to offend anyone so I gotta keep myself fresh.

I really struggle sometimes to shower or even shave. on some days every little move is too much. sometimes even brushing my teeth, but I have to take care of them as I am bulimic and they are already fcked up enough.

Same. I used to be bulimic and remember the teeth issues. I brush once a day almost.

 

[Life sucks]

I think its troublesome and tiring to care about that. I already don't go and see others, also I don't care about them. But you know what's the most annoying thing? You cared or cleaned but then in the same day you get dirty again and you must repeat the process. So even if someone cares, it takes too much time and resources

 

[Guizin239]

I only shower to see my therapist and my shrink.

 

[Dreamwithinadream]

I used to take much better care of myself. It takes a lot of energy to shower.

 

[MeltingHeart]

Does anyone else have a problem taking care of themselves? My hair is one giant matted ball. I showered today for the first time in weeks. I don't brush my teeth. I don't even get dressed anymore cause all I do is lay in my own filth. I confined myself inside because I feel too digusting for anyone to see me. Especially cause I looked completely different 5 months ago. I wish I could crawl out of my skin. I know I'll never feel clean like I used to. Wondering if anyone else is or has been in this state? I doubt it. I think I'm one of the worst cases of this. It's surreal how gross I let myself get. My humanity is gone. Can't wait until I can finally free myself from this nightmare.

I can relate a lot - and weird cos I used to take a lot of care / pride in myself - not in a super vain way - but you know - enough to feel human - and well- nice

 

[Jean4]

I shower once a week maybe, can't tell you when I brushed my teeth and can't tell you when I got out of my pajamas and put on real clothes.
In actuality, I don't own any street clothes that fit!

 

[LonelyLight]

It's a good sign and seems like you are improving from the conditions you were suffering from.

Sure don't feel like it

 

[Crushed_Innocence]

When my aftermath syndrome started..... I went thru this. I could not believe it. I stopped showering brushing teeth I put on pajamas or whatever and I slept in it and went out in it and came home in the same thing and slept in it again. This part of the trauma passed, but wow. Its so crazy when one gets to the point where you have no care, energy -- I will say that I havent gotten back to my full beauty routine. i no longer wear makeup, my jewelry---- I used to be a fashionitsa..... Now I'm just a plain Jane- I shower most days.... But where I am now is nothing compared to before the fallout------- I never thought the day would come when I didnt give a shit about that stuff------ but it happens

 

[Bpdboii]

When my aftermath syndrome started..... I went thru this. I could not believe it. I stopped showering brushing teeth I put on pajamas or whatever and I slept in it and went out in it and came home in the same thing and slept in it again. This part of the trauma passed, but wow. Its so crazy when one gets to the point where you have no care, energy -- I will say that I havent gotten back to my full beauty routine. i no longer wear makeup, my jewelry---- I used to be a fashionitsa..... Now I'm just a plain Jane- I shower most days.... But where I am now is nothing compared to before the fallout------- I never thought the day would come when I didnt give a shit about that stuff------ but it happens

What was the cause of this downfall?

 

[Crushed_Innocence]

What was the cause of this downfall?

Its hard to type about..If you go into my old posts from the beginning I share it. The short version, breifly dated a pathological emotioanl con-man who triggered an "Aftermath Syndrome" and i ended up wth PTSD and a total collapse of my emotioanl world and now I still miss him and want to die from the emptiness and humiliation. Its been a long road, he was just the straw that broke the camels back but it was a big straw...

 

[letmeseethedeath]

Does anyone else have a problem taking care of themselves? My hair is one giant matted ball. I showered today for the first time in weeks. I don't brush my teeth. I don't even get dressed anymore cause all I do is lay in my own filth. I confined myself inside because I feel too digusting for anyone to see me. Especially cause I looked completely different 5 months ago. I wish I could crawl out of my skin. I know I'll never feel clean like I used to. Wondering if anyone else is or has been in this state? I doubt it. I think I'm one of the worst cases of this. It's surreal how gross I let myself get. My humanity is gone. Can't wait until I can finally free myself from this nightmare.

i am in this state. i have a bath every 2 weeks if i feel a lil bit better. i have a giant dysphoria and i hate myself with all my stupid heart. please text me if you wanna talk, you're not alone

 

[melancholy]

Live in filth myself but during periods I feel positive for certain reasons I clean my area up a little.
best to keep clean but can be hard to do so but you will feel better after being productive and cleaning
yourself or where you spend most of your time.

 

[bigj75]

Live in filth myself but during periods I feel positive for certain reasons I clean my area up a little.
best to keep clean but can be hard to do so but you will feel better after being productive and cleaning
yourself or where you spend most of your time.

I agree. be as clean as possible. for your own and others well being.

 

[Jean4]

Due to this post, I just showered and brushed my teeth. I can't tell you the last time I did it.

 

[JimFord99]

I'm currently nursing a broken foot in a cast and on crutches and still managed to vacuum the whole house. Bloody nutter!

Bye the way, if you do house cleaning by appointment, ... uhm, ... , just kidding. Still, great attitude.

 

[Morphinekiss]

I wish I could shower more, I love showers. But trigeminal neuralgia and allodynia make it excruciating at times. Brushing my hair can even set my head on fire; same for brushing my teeth. I still do my teeth every day though and just cry through it.

 

[V0latile]

I brush my teeth and shower once a week. No cavities in years. I don't eat sweets.

 

[khw777]

Does anyone else have a problem taking care of themselves? My hair is one giant matted ball. I showered today for the first time in weeks. I don't brush my teeth. I don't even get dressed anymore cause all I do is lay in my own filth. I confined myself inside because I feel too digusting for anyone to see me. Especially cause I looked completely different 5 months ago. I wish I could crawl out of my skin. I know I'll never feel clean like I used to. Wondering if anyone else is or has been in this state? I doubt it. I think I'm one of the worst cases of this. It's surreal how gross I let myself get. My humanity is gone. Can't wait until I can finally free myself from this nightmare.

You're definitely not alone. I haven't taken a bath or shower in months. Haven't brushed my teeth. Wearing the same clothes for months. Haven't shaved in months. Haven't wash my clothes in months. They stink. My sheets are disgusting. They smell horrible!
I'm a walking pit of filth. I disgust myself. I have stopped eating to starve myself to death. I just want to die. So don't feel you're alone.

 

[Puddings]

I shower every morning, because I have to. My hair turns into an oil ball every night. I have to work as i have to earn a living. In my country there is no such thing as benefits or not working because of mental health. Bo public health either. I brush my teeth in the shower every morning, but actually a person really should do more. I have dental issues but cant afford to have it fixed. I'm glad that work forces me to upkeep some hygiene but honestly I have a little emotional cry every morning while I shower and wash my hair. My arms feel heavy and I cant believe its yet another day.

 

[LetMeSleep4Ever]

I brush my teeth after each meal and use listerine. I floss every other day, as gums need to be cared for also. But there are times when I don't shower 2 or even 3 weeks.