How would you get word out to your friends?

[ACALABJL]

Hey all,

Getting word out will not prevent me from being able to ctb, I'm just wondering how I would get word out AFTER I ctb.

Currently just trying to plan the aftermath of what happens when I CTB, such as funeral/service etc. I could say that I'm blessed to have friends that care about me and have many different friends groups, but even with that I can't do this anymore. My family doesn't really have anyway to contact my friends. I feel some sort of obligation to somehow get word out to my friends if there is a funeral or something for me. If anyone has any ideas or thoughts on how to do this, I would appreciate it. I do have a Facebook, which I was planning on passing on the information to a friend and probably have her stay in contact with my family and she could make a facebook event or whatever. Not sure how that'll go though.

Best,
ACALABJL

 

[Dreamcolleger]

I am leaving a list with contact details (numbers, facebook links, etc. I am not that worried if it doesn't work out though, doing this is enough for me.

 

[marcusuk63]

What are friends ?

 

[ACALABJL]

I am leaving a list with contact details (numbers, facebook links, etc. I am not that worried if it doesn't work out though, doing this is enough for me.

Yeah, I was thinking a list, but that might just be so many things... So I was thinking of leaving my FB account with a friend. Cause my friend's list there is pretty much a list... Might have to clear out some people that just added me to add me.

 

[TheBlackSwordsman]

Why do you want a service?

 

[k75]

I just found this site: http://ifidie.org/

I'm wondering if you could use it somehow for this sort of thing?

 

[Empty Smile]

I rather just be left where I'm found. If that's not possible, a dumpster will be just fine.

 

[Livinginhell]

I don't think any of my "friends" would care tbh, and the one or two would just know. I'm not going to be missed.

 

[TAW122]

Delayed emails would be the way to go. LetterMeLater is a recommended service to do so. Do NOT use Timecave (@TiredHorse can attest to this), Google Mail (Gmail), Yahoo Mail, or Facebook as they all have the potential to scan and track emails.

 

[21Neberg]

I agree with the others that you could use delayed e-mail services, but you could also write letters to yours friends and ask your family in your note to post them when you're gone. Completely letters in addressed envelopes, I don't think you'll have to worry about those not being sent.

 

[Dawn0071111]

Time delayed text messages. You can pre set a text to go out up to a few weeks.... thing is... if police get your phone... so pre set texts to go out soon after you die

 

[Oblivion]

im gonna use buffer.com to post a delayed status on fb

 

[eve2004]

Would it be presumptuous of me to prepay for a funeral assuming there would be people who'd care to go?

I'm debating that, but I'm prepaying my cremation and handling of the body and final resting place.

Other than that, I have no intentions of advising any friends, in fact if they didn't find out till months later I'd rather it that way. I just want to disappear. I'm sorry in advance for whoever will settle my estate and the paperwork and stress that may need to be done by my psych and therapist. But at least they won't need to deal with me again! I assume they will find out when I stop showing up to appointments...

Time delayed text messages. You can pre set a text to go out up to a few weeks.... thing is... if police get your phone... so pre set texts to go out soon after you die

I'm destroying my phone and throwing out the sim card before going. I've already switched email addresses and plan on deleting the one I've used for over 15 years now. If people have pictures they are free to use that, but they aren't getting anything from me, my phone, or my email account. They'll get over it soon enough. I don't even get any personal emails or calls anyway.

 

[Oblivion]

Delayed emails would be the way to go. LetterMeLater is a recommended service to do so. Do NOT use Timecave (@TiredHorse can attest to this), Google Mail (Gmail), Yahoo Mail, or Facebook as they all have the potential to scan and track emails.

what's wrong with Gmail?
what do you mean scan and track emails? they wont allow a suicide note to go through or what?

 

[Alchemist]

Beyond people here and my family, no one else will know. My "friends" have no connection with my family and they never speak to me unless they need something, so they won't even realize I'm gone. At most, my cowokers would know if I'm still working by then, but only that way.

 

[catharticEscapism]

I don't want my friends to know, but that's a personal preference. I'd prefer they just assumed we drifted or I ghosted them so that they didn't have to mourn for me after I was gone.

 

[nzdarkshark]

Irl friends would probably hear due to the close knit nature of this town. As for online friends, maybe they'll guess the truth, assume lies, or irl friends will tell them if they have contact. That or I'll just disappear - all my accounts deleted.

 

[clownangel]

I've been worrying about this a lot lately. I assume my (handful of) friends would find out via my mother (we're close, she's also a "positive mom figure" for them as well - even people I haven't spoken to in years reach out to her from time to time) but I don't want to put that pressure on her like it's her obligation somehow.

Once Facebook started implementing the "legacy contact" feature I've wondered who I'd put under it (if anyone) and don't think I would. When I was younger I assumed I'd just leave a packet with instructions and preaddressed/stamped shit and honestly I haven't been able to think of much better.

 

[woxihuanni]

My friends know I will die. They will understand it's happened when a couple calls go unanswered.

Larger circles would learn somehow, don't care when/how.

 

[SheJumped]

Part of my plan is to send out a number of letters to family and friends the day I CTB.
I wrestle with the thought of this causing some emotional damage to them.

 

[LegaliseIt!]

That ship sailed years ago.

 

[Farmmaa]

I really have no close friends so could care less how or when they find out.
I have no doubt that my older sister will post her usual self absorbed pity posts on FB for all to see, so word will spread that way soon enough.

The one thing that is bothering me is - who will police contact and how do they determine that ?
The only family I have locally is my dad and I don't want them calling him... his world fell apart when we lost my brother.
I also don't want my kids to find out with a call from police.

Do they go through the contacts on your cell to find next of kin??

 

[Moonicide]

I found someone that is willing to help me by sending out my goodbye letters after I ctb, so that's how I'm going to be doing it.
I also wrote a farewell letter to my mother that provides a list of contacts to call just in case.