Help How to Make CTB Easier On Family: Will, Passwords, Etc.

[WiltingFlowers]

I'd appreciate some help with making CTB easier for my loved ones. I want to make things as easy on them as I can. I know it won't be easy regardless, but easier is the keyword. My mom and sibling are my closest offline relationships, and online is mainly how I connect with my friends. There are a lot of people I'm considering.

I currently have a list of what accounts I want to give away and to who. I've also noted which ones will need authenticators removed. A Bitwarden account for my family is appealing, though I may write something physical because my mom is notoriously bad at remembering passwords. She would probably forget how to get into the account. I'm looking into how to use pCloud for sharing files too. I want to send art resources I've collected to my art friends, save my art for my mom to have, and see if there's any important documents to save.

The hardest part will be figuring out what accounts and physical stuff to destroy. Once I start destroying some of my most important stuff, I won't be able to go back. I just don't want my family to find anything afterward that'd make them cringe.

If it wouldn't be so exhausting, I'd sell a lot of my stuff to build funds for bills and any funeral services. I'd prefer no funeral and for my post-death to be as cheap as possible. I have a good feeling my mom's family will guilt her into hosting a service though. They're extremely judgemental and gossipy like that.

All of this is so overwhelming. I almost want to throw out all these plans and go for it, even if the guilt itself will be what gets me first. Some of these steps require me to do these things right before I CTB, so I need to be committed throughout the process. I don't even believe I'll have any amount of consciousness once I'm dead, so logically, I shouldn't care what happens. There's just peace in mind in going knowing I tried something.

 

[Matchaaa]

Personally, I think you could write a note to your mom, telling her something like, "This isn't your fault. If people judge you or gossip about you, it just shows they aren't worth keeping in your life." I feel that judgment and scrutiny from others only add to the burden on the surviving family members.
wishing you all the best.

 

[vampyrzelda]

Honestly, I plan on destroying my devices and drives with hammers or shooting them before I go.

 

[WiltingFlowers]

Personally, I think you could write a note to your mom, telling her something like, "This isn't your fault. If people judge you or gossip about you, it just shows they aren't worth keeping in your life." I feel that judgment and scrutiny from others only add to the burden on the surviving family members.
wishing you all the best.

That's a good idea! I agree about her family adding a burden. I want her to know she never did anything wrong, I'd be disgusted by any shame she received, and if she needs to show that to her family, she can.

Honestly, I plan on destroying my devices and drives with hammers or shooting them before I go.

I'm considering that. Maybe I'll get a physical drive to put information I want my mom to have, then work on destroying everything else.

I'd love to have a gun but I don't think I'd be able to legally purchase one. I don't really want to go through illegal channels either, in case something goes wrong.