lefi

lefi

waiting for rainy days
Aug 19, 2023
61
There's this guy that's showing interest in me for a long time. He's almost everything that I'm looking for in a guy.. But for some reason I feel scared. How can I be in a relationship with someone when I'm afraid of dating them? He's kind and gentle, and I told him a long while ago that I'm not exactly sure what I'm doing with- well, anything really, and he's being patient with me. I feel like I'm leading him on or wasting his time. The thought of being in a relationship with him is nice, but actually being in one makes me want to throw up. How do I fix feeling this? Is it even worth trying something with him out..

How does one even act in a relationship? I don't know how to talk to people, and I never know what's the right thing to do...
 
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razahcareca27

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Apr 5, 2024
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if he's kind, gentle and doesn't show reasons to scare you apparently.

why the hypothesis of living one relationship makes u want to throw up?
Is it even worth trying something with him out..

How does one even act in a relationship? I don't know how to talk to people, and I never know what's the right thing to do.
ofc is worth trying something if there are not contexts stopping from entering in a relationship with someone you like. how people act in a relationship? participating in each other's lifes in each particular way each one would like to. if you like him and he likes you, you'll get along and be talking, acting. You're scared way too much to the context you presented us. seems to me a self confidence thing, social phobia, something on these spectrum.
a advice as well is to look for therapy, there are different kind of ones and really different professionals doing their way. good luck šŸ«¶
 
lefi

lefi

waiting for rainy days
Aug 19, 2023
61
if he's kind, gentle and doesn't show reasons to scare you apparently.

why the hypothesis of living one relationship makes u want to throw up?
I guess that it just seems like something permanent or something that's way too serious that I'm not supposed to cross.
ofc is worth trying something if there are not contexts stopping from entering in a relationship with someone you like. how people act in a relationship? participating in each other's lifes in each particular way each one would like to. if you like him and he likes you, you'll get along and be talking, acting. You're scared way too much to the context you presented us. seems to me a self confidence thing, social phobia, something on these spectrum.
a advice as well is to look for therapy, there are different kind of ones and really different professionals doing their way. good luck šŸ«¶
Thank you for your supportšŸ¤ I'll give it time and see where it leads me.
 
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razahcareca27

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Apr 5, 2024
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guess that it just seems like something permanent or something that's way too serious that I'm not supposed to cross.
nothing is permanent probably, a relationship between two people doesn't come close to it. you'll be riding any relationship you might have. you and your partner. alone and together. you don't need to use some word if u don't want to (date, boyfriend). you'll be reaching levels at this experience
Thank you for your supportšŸ¤ I'll give it time and see where it leads me.
you're welcome, be well and time is the right word to perceive emotions and taking decisions.