how to get my parents onboard with my ctb?

[DreamEnd]

I know its probably incredibly difficult if not impossible but I don't want to die and surprise them. I want to gradually expose them to the idea that I wont be here anymore since no treatment is helping me. I have talked to them quite a bit but they just start screaming at me and the conversation goes nowhere. I just wish they could let me go and I can go to sleep peacefully knowing that they know. But it is incredibly hard. Any thoughts?

 

[ThisIsLife]

I have talked to them quite a bit but they just start screaming at me and the conversation goes nowhere.

You got the answer right here.

I don't think there's anything you could do about it but leaving a note when you go.

 

[Shiva_Story]

I know its probably incredibly difficult if not impossible but I don't want to die and surprise them. I want to gradually expose them to the idea that I wont be here anymore since no treatment is helping me. I have talked to them quite a bit but they just start screaming at me and the conversation goes nowhere. I just wish they could let me go and I can go to sleep peacefully knowing that they know. But it is incredibly hard. Any thoughts?

i'm pretty sure they are hardwired to keep you alive and ensure the continuation of their bloodline through you. it's nature's programming. i don't think they are equiped to accept your argument.

 

[Deleted member 65988]

Yeah this was never ever going to end well no matter how much you give it your all. Imagine your own friend coming up to yoi in order to try to talk to you about them catching the bus, it would be such a terrifying thing to hear, let alone conceive the idea that they are actually being serious about it and want to engage in conversation over it so that you can accept it.

To add to this, these are your parents so I absolutely can see why it didn't go well and never will. Unfortunately, the ties we have to the people we know life comes with a heavy price too hence why I'm sure many, many people who've ctb have never ever even had the idea of telling their loved ones about their plans, let alone try to get them onboard. They just aren't going to be open-minded enough to accept whatever argument you bring to the table.

 

[DreamEnd]

i'm pretty sure they are hardwired to keep you alive and ensure the continuation of their bloodline through you. it's nature's programming, i dont think they are equiped with ability to accept your argument

yeah thats what i though too

 

[Deleted member 65988]

yeah thats what i though too

It isn't surprising since they did it and had you as a result so no doubt they'd want you to continue that as well.

 

[frozensun]

I know its probably incredibly difficult if not impossible but I don't want to die and surprise them. I want to gradually expose them to the idea that I wont be here anymore since no treatment is helping me. I have talked to them quite a bit but they just start screaming at me and the conversation goes nowhere. I just wish they could let me go and I can go to sleep peacefully knowing that they know. But it is incredibly hard. Any thoughts?

Hi, I completely understand you. I'm going through the same. I just explained to my parents why I can't live further. I've been doing this for some time so they are not really surprised. They definitely don't want me to die but I'm trying to make them understand why living doesn't work. It's really difficult, maybe impossible but I'm trying to train their mind to imagine a life without me. I hope you get peace, friend. Best wishes and love

 

[FuneralCry]

Sadly I just don't believe that most people will be accepting of the decision to die no matter what. I personally wouldn't see it as the best idea opening up about suicide plans as it could very likely just cause them to interfere.

I wish people were more accepting of the right to die, it's sad how people refuse to despite the fact that nobody is obligated to continue existing and that there is no limit as to how much one can suffer in this existence.

 

[sammiechzxv]

I don't think you can. You're always going to be their baby, it's nature that they'd want to protect you no matter what. It's going to hurt regardless. All you can do is write a note.

 

[Duality]

I'm sorry to say this, but this is a fruitless endeavor. No matter how much you try to talk to them, they will be opposed to it. I would stop trying to change their minds, and stop talking to them about this to them. They'll never understand.

The second thing is that you don't want them to have you hospitalized every time you say you want to CTB. This will hurt you more and might make it harder for you plan things properly. What if they start opening your mail? What if they start questioning you every time you go out? That kind of thing.

 

[MiMif]

On all honestly if they were on board with you ctbing that would probably hurt more than you think....it means they've stopped caring about you and don't give a damn...it's probably better for your mental health they care. Tho I fyou don't want them to be too surprised if you cut yourself show them the scars and stop faking your personality anf let your depression show and they'll realize....let it go on for the period before you die
My parents know and I got cursed out....it hurt and it got swept under the rug and ignored....it really hurt....it's not a good feeling when the people who love you don't give a damn if you took your own life