How to find a gf

[Makko]

I'm South American and I'm basically a midget. But not all men here are. I see a lot of tall men here, otherwise I wouldn't have developed inferiority complex.

Are in you in the north or south? North Brazil is really midgety. Maybe the south has more taller men due to more white ancestry.

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

@lonelyuglyguy44 @Darkmoon Queen @Dr Iron Arc @orangepotato

Here's a revolutionary idea - people could try dating within their friggin' league!

I'm fairly attractive, but I'm traumatized, so I got myself a traumatized bf! I can have dirty brief encounters with fairly hot "normal" guys, but I can't & don't even want to trick them into dating me. I might be fucked up, but that doesn't mean I have to be delusional as well. If you want a decent relationship, don't pretend you're something you aren't or you'll fuck yourself over big time. Duh.
Btw, it's simply impossible that no short women are interested in short men. WTF is a tiny female with an average tiny female's orifices supposed to do with an average tall guy's dick??

I don't give a shit about height, I honestly don't. Short masculine guys are very hot because they usually have something to prove & they try much harder to impress with their skills. I simply had to share that with you

Why can't anybody once get his name right? Ioan Georgiev (Йоан Георгиев) goddman it.

Is Abe by chance Abraekhamm Lyncowln?

I agree with this. I guess some people find it bullshit but I'm not sure why. Most couples I see are sort of evenly matched in the looks department or else complement each other somehow. It's about relatability, I think. I see many fugly couples after all.

 

[Manaaja]

Sometimes I wish all the people looked exactly the same, so people would choose based on personalities, likes, dislikes, hobbies, etc.

It's really a tricky situation. I'm always preaching that personality is all and looks don't matter, yet if I'm being honest, I have to admit that I'd rather date someone with the looks of Inuyasha or Cheryl (from Pokemon) than a burn victim. I wish there was minimum look level, like no matter what their genetics, experiences, diseases, burn levels, etc. they'd always be at least 8/10. Like their body would just magically repair itself to look like that. Because even if you find someone who is 10/10 in both looks and personality, what if they get burned.

 

[Midgardsorm]

[Edited]

Southeast. But even in the North, I've only seen giants through here ( Giants on my perspective ).
I'm probably a Hobbit just because of genes. I'm shorter than my father and my brother. So it's just genes
.. and lack of magical abilities too. Maybe you could teach me.

I've been told I'm too short by a lot of women. ( Height, please ... )
That is a major turn off I guess.

 

[stygal]

@lonelyuglyguy44 @Darkmoon Queen @Dr Iron Arc @orangepotato

Here's a revolutionary idea - people could try dating within their friggin' league!

I'm fairly attractive, but I'm traumatized, so I got myself a traumatized bf! I can have dirty brief encounters with fairly hot "normal" guys, but I can't & don't even want to trick them into dating me. I might be fucked up, but that doesn't mean I have to be delusional as well. If you want a decent relationship, don't pretend you're something you aren't or you'll fuck yourself over big time. Duh.
Btw, it's simply impossible that no short women are interested in short men. WTF is a tiny female with an average tiny female's orifices supposed to do with an average tall guy's dick??

I don't give a shit about height, I honestly don't. Short masculine guys are very hot because they usually have something to prove & they try much harder to impress with their skills. I simply had to share that with you

Omg. This.

Why is everyone just out to get the "perfect" prince/princess who has it all: looks, brains, money...
Maybe start looking at yourself and start evaluating your strengths and weaknesses and find an actual even match.

So many people have unrealistic standards - men & women

(I always had high standards when it came to intelligence and probably always dated out of my league in longterm relationships but I got lucky)

And has anyone - even a supermodel found a serious relationship on Tinder? Stop looking for love in places made for hook-ups. lol

 

[Losteverythingtwice]

If you want a future wife, go to the church. You'll find a nice girl there who isn't a slut or a liberal green haired freak. Who wants children and has morality. That's the best advise anyone can give you.

 

[callme]

If you want a future wife, go to the church. You'll find a nice girl there who isn't a slut or a liberal green haired freak. Who wants children and has morality. That's the best advise anyone can give you.

But she drinks to kooky conspiratard kool aid. You know, a member of one of those signature-quota based churches, where you can found your own for 300 signatures. In case it's mainstream, fund her church in the 10's of thousands (wonder where it goes if churches pay no tax), read books only if her pastor tells her to, convince her children chocolate contains giant bugs and earing it will send them to hell, or do the classic - tell them to do "insert thing here they don't want to", else they will never see their parents again.

 

[Deleted member 8579]

If you want a future wife, go to the church. You'll find a nice girl there who isn't a slut or a liberal green haired freak. Who wants children and has morality. That's the best advise anyone can give you.

A church like this?

 

[motel rooms]

I wanted to point out @hotelbeneathground gave an incorrect depiction. The basketball player is clearly not gay.

It wasn't a depiction of "gayness". It was a gif of LeBron James saying, "What??" in response to your statement that "Homo men can always appear good-looking else "bicurious" wouldn't exist"

It's obvious he is not gay. Listen, we the hetero just somehow can determine by look if somebody is gay. Without regards as clichès like makeup, wearing pink, hugging male friends, wearing different colored socks etc stupid crap.

Now, he would be a "manly" gay so to speak. I am saying if he was one, he'd be slightly different looking and would have a better chance with men. Instead, try to imagine this tall and somewhat indimidating guy as he is now, but with a girly voice or small down there.

One will be probably with an equally ugly black boyfriend at worst. The other will endure a week at work of beeping notifications of his girlfriend's friends and family, making fun of him after being sent pics of how small he is.

Yeah, what she said:

I can't make a lick of sense of this.

Str8 guys definitely can't "determine by look if somebody is gay without regards as clichès like makeup, wearing pink, hugging male friends, wearing different colored socks etc." You don't have a gaydar, dude, not even gays have it. It isn't obvious I'm gay irl, topping other guys & sucking their dicks doesn't make me act like Mary Poppins when I walk down the street or enter a mom-&-mom hardware store How old are you, btw? You don't have to answer, of course. Even old str8 men in many European countries hug their male friends all the time & pink shirts & colorful socks haven't been an exclusively gay thing since the '90s

 

[callme]

It wasn't a depiction of "gayness"

Well, since you asked if I find him pretty.. I didn't know it's LeBall.

Yeah, what she said:

Just like mental illness, you can expect to see low IQ people in a place like this. That's why it doesn't make sense.

You don't have a gaydar, dude, not even gays have it

So it serves no purpose, then why does it exist

It isn't obvious I'm gay irl

Fine, but gays look different. Maybe not better, but different somehow.

or enter a mom-&-mom hardware store

Wouldn't this be a hint?

If a guy walks in, buys some anal beads - why is it so hard to see he could be using them himself? Come on, something surely can give you away.

How old are you, btw? You don't have to answer, of

This attitude wouldn't be expected from somebody over 17 right? I'm nearly 27.

old str8 men in many European countries hug their male friends all the time & pink shirts & colorful socks haven't been an exclusively gay thing since the '90s

So either Spain or France. Maybe they also swing with other gay couples as well.

 

[motel rooms]

If you want a future wife, go to the church. You'll find a nice girl there who isn't a slut or a liberal green haired freak. Who wants children and has morality. That's the best advise anyone can give you.

@Losteverythingtwice I want a moral gay husband who isn't a liberal green-haired harlot & wants to make a baby with me, which churches should I cruise?

@UseItOrLoseIt Do old & not so old str8 men in Croatia (& Bosnia & Serbia) hug their male friends even if they aren't drunk?

 

[Losteverythingtwice]

@Losteverythingtwice I want a moral gay husband who isn't a liberal green-haired harlot & wants to make a baby with me, which churches should I cruise?

@UseItOrLoseIt Do old & not so old str8 men in Croatia (& Bosnia & Serbia) hug their male friends even if they aren't drunk?

West Hollywood probably

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I actually do know people who've met their serious relationships through such things as Tinder or Bumble. It can happen at least in well-populated areas.

But I also know people who only met their partners by being at the right place at the right time. This is probably more likely how it could happen for me but I'm afraid I've potentially missed that opportunity and I'm too burnt out to go seek it unless somebody makes it obvious where and when exactly I'm supposed to be.

Also I'm sorry I don't want to date anyone who looks like me because it would just remind me of my family. I'm not into most Asian women because of that.

 

[Sittichmutter]

I'm not attractive, short, maybe I'm slightly boring(my hobbies are relatively weird), and have mediocre social skills. I have very low standards (female, age <= 23, not overweight, that's all).
I'd like to give life another chance before I ctb, I really wish I could experience love. If I find a gf I will leave and probably never return. Instead I've been stuck in the dark for years unable to find even the slightest indication of a way out.

Find a dance School for latin dances (salsa, samba, forró). Learn to dance. It is Fun and most women love to dance. If you dance well enough, smells good and got a nice smile, just hit the dance floor. You will increase your chances of getting a girlfriend.

 

[callme]

Find a dance School for latin dances (salsa, samba, forró). Learn to dance. It is Fun and most women love to dance. If you dance well enough, smells good and got a nice smile, just hit the dance floor. You will increase your chances of getting a girlfriend.

If you are also good-looking, fit and tall.

 

[motel rooms]

So it serves no purpose, then why does it exist (gaydar)

Gaydars aren't real just because the annoying buzzword "gaydar" exists. They're about as real as this unicorn

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/attachments/shit-ice-cream-gif.68733/

Fine, but gays look different. Maybe not better, but different somehow.

Listen, there's no way you'd somehow be able to tell I'm gay just by looking at me & even having a polite everyday interaction with me irl. I've spent countless hours with openly homophobic str8 guys in all kinds of settings & they always assume I'm str8. How do I know? When I was younger, they talked to me about stuff str8 guys only share with other str8 guys & they were perfectly comfortable around me in showers & locker rooms. Chicks also had no idea I was gay because they used to "casually" touch my hand, arm & even chest all the time & say things like, "Wow, your voice is really deep" & "Wow, you have really big hands, don't you?" Yes, I forced myself to sleep with a couple of them & it just felt silly & unstimulating; I had to think about football to make myself cum. Yes, I'm gay & stereotypically masculine. There are plenty of gay men who look & act like me & wear uncolorful clothes - I know because I've been fucking them for over 20 years, just like there are tons of 100 % str8 guys who are physically fragile, unathletic & insecure, & who got called faggots in high school because of it. Sadly, SS is full of them...

 

[netrezven]

Just create the standards that you personally want.
Accepting you don't have high standarts automatically kills all of your options for meaningful relationship. How you imagine to be in love with someone who you think is under the standards, but meats your criteria for lack of confidence. How that person would feel if you can't hide that or in longer period?
And standards are subjective. Make your standards based on what other's consider high or low and your options again go to almost 0.
Two of my best friends are much shorter than me, when we were junger all the girls were crazy for them, anywhere. Once one of them said he had 4 in a day, out of his girlfriend, but it did not count cause 2 were something like exes, so the record didn't count. Now it's still the same, but we all got families and just wanna get drunk and do stupid things, rarely. It's all about how you feel, what's your atitude. And as we get older - money.

 

[SirChuxAlot]

Confidence really is key to dating as well as loving yourself beforehand in the process. I to am on the shorter side (5'7) and have dated women slightly taller then me. I never let my height bother me mostly because I love the way I am built, only one time did a female I was interested in tell me no over height and yes, it was online.

The problem is online dating, it is a flawed and mostly broken system which is why you will almost always see the same women on there. It created people to be selective in who they wish to match up with compared to being able to analyze someone in person, so it is a pure superficial experience.

A good example I like to use is how many times I've told someone no or not responded because I am not particularly attracted to obesity due to my active lifestyle. Yes, it is superficial still but one shows bad lifestyle choices compared to one being determined at birth, you can change weight, not height. Regardless, people are entitled to who they choose to date, that's the reality of things.

Tldr version: Become more confident, maybe workout and for god's sake, get off the broken apps and meet people in real life.

 

[BobMorane]

 

[callme]

I've spent countless hours with openly homophobic

Why pray tell did you do it? Out of obligation I assume?

about stuff str8 guys only share with other str8

Now you are stereotyping us! We don't all talk about women, guns and cars you know.. I've never touched any of these.

they were perfectly comfortable around me in showers & locker rooms

The two places where "it" may be visible. Uh-huh I got it, you have it better than most guys.

I had to think about football to make myself cum.

So you put your ball between her goalposts. I am sorry you didn't like it and I still don't see why you went ahead with them and not just told them.. it would only make them creeped out at worst, but you had your reasons.

I've been fucking them for over 20 years

Ok, boom.. grandad.

like there are tons of 100 % str8 guys who are physically fragile, unathletic & insecure, & who got called faggots in high school because of it. Sadly, SS is full of them...

Sadly as in because they are suffering? I am unathletic and insecure, glad I was bullied only a couple of times. Don't know what the recovery is.



In all seriousness, I see you had to do many things you don't like ot forced yourself to. Hope most people who find out threat you fair. I couldn't understand, because I am from a place so retarded, when they hear of a gay couple they say :"Who is the woman in the relationship?" Being around 7 millions of those clowns is ctb worthy in full.

And oh, apologies if I offended you by age, old man.

 

[Apricity]

u think all gay guys look like Disney princes(ses)? I look a lot like the guy in my profile pic; do you find him "pretty"? He & I would want to buttfuck someone bicurious, you know.

I'll do a "cross-country skier", but I'm not interesting in bottoming. I expect dinner.

 

[PeacefulTonic]

Go to the gym, workout, and keep yourself clean cut. Workout from home with some weights and body weight exercises if you feel uncomfortable going to the gym. Make sure you present yourself well. Attitude and confidence is key. Fake it till you make it, it really does work. If you're boring, try hanging out with friends who have lively personalities and try to feed off of them, or to pickup some things from them. And practice talking to women, no matter how they look, just to instill some confidence in yourself. Also, raise your standards a bit. Women don't like desperate men. If you can't afford to be picky, well then you gotta go back to working on improving yourself to become more desirable to them.

 

[callme]

Go to the gym, workout, and keep yourself clean cut. Workout from home with some weights and body weight exercises if you feel uncomfortable going to the gym. Make sure you present yourself well. Attitude and confidence is key. Fake it till you make it, it really does work. If you're boring, try hanging out with friends who have lively personalities and try to feed off of them, or to pickup some things from them. And practice talking to women, no matter how they look, just to instill some confidence in yourself. Also, raise your standards a bit. Women don't like desperate men.

Whoever is depserate and never has a girlfriend usually has no friends either. If like you people insinuate it's all personality, then they would have friends. But either they have no friends, or their friends are no better.

Practise talking to women? In an increasingly superficial world? What makes you think any woman is even going to bat an eye, let alone allow any of us to even get close? Is this 1976 where you could be a pest control in Podunk, Iowa and get settled with a waitress in the local diner which smells like a portuguese cathouse?

Long over my friend. Bar or club doesn't matter. Under 7, under 6ft, under 7 inches or under $10000 a month - hats off.

For comfidence to develop, we must have had experience. That's the simple reason confidence develops. But how do we get experience if we don't have confidence in the first place? Should it be one of those things like talents or qualities or whatever you call it that usually we are born with without choosing for ourselves and completely decides if we stay alone for the end of our lives and that's why everybody is a woke green haired positive retard?

Or did we choose it for ourselves? I've already heard from people stupid enough to believe in afterlife, but not in beforelife.

Also, raise your standards a bit. Women don't like desperate men.

Why raise our standarts if we are desperate? Part of why we are desperate is because we have high standarts and never going to attain them.

 

[PeacefulTonic]

Talking to women, yes. Just striking up a little chat. It can be as simple as "Hey, how's your day going?" Small talk bullshit. It doesn't have to be a full on conversation. Little things like this help overtime. You gotta start somewhere.

You seem like a know it all. I'm just trying to give my own insight, I've had plenty of experience with women in the past. You don't have to be so dismissive.

"Whoever is desperate and never has a girlfriend usually has no friends either."
This is such a blanket statement. I know plenty of friends who were desperate, never had a girlfriend, but still had many friends.

You seem really angry and bitter dude. This is the recovery forum, why are you even here?

 

[callme]

Talking to women, yes. Just striking up a little chat. It can be as simple as "Hey, how's your day going?" Small talk bullshit. It doesn't have to be a full on conversation. Little things like this help overtime. You gotta start somewhere.

You seem like a know it all. I'm just trying to give my own insight, I've had plenty of experience with women in the past. You don't have to be so dismissive.

"Whoever is desperate and never has a girlfriend usually has no friends either."
This is such a blanket statement. I know plenty of friends who were desperate, never had a girlfriend, but still had many friends.

You seem really angry and bitter dude. This is the recovery forum, why are you even here?

Desperate, that's the word. You can't describe colors to the blind. So we the desperate are destined to be alone, in most cases

 

[PeacefulTonic]

Desperate, that's the word. You can't describe colors to the blind. So we the desperate are destined to be alone, in most cases

Well yeah, with that defeatist attitude you'll never get a girl.

 

[callme]

Well yeah, with that defeatist attitude you'll never get a girl.

This attitude is rooted in things I don't have a control over.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Wait, which is it? Raise our standards or lower them? I'm confused. I consider my standards fairly high. They have to be able to tolerate me for one.

Also what if someone like me doesn't have any motivation to do things like work out and stuff until someone we're in love with tells us to do it first? Obviously that's pretty pathetic but if there's really no other way around it then what options are left besides to die?

 

[callme]

Wait, which is it? Raise our standards or lower them? I'm confused. I consider my standards fairly high. They have to be able to tolerate me for one.

Also what if someone like me doesn't have any motivation to do things like work out and stuff until someone we're in love with tells us to do it first? Obviously that's pretty pathetic but if there's really no other way around it then what options are left besides to die?

Tells us is a bit over the expected. People don't waste time on this, or if they do it's bad intentions. Perhaps we would be only motivated if we saw the least sign of interest, and would do it on our own, because it satisfies the other person's expectations. But I rely on common sense to be developed in people to differentiate in case they are pushed, is it for their own good, or for their parnter's unhealthy control wishes satisfied.

 

[cooldude420]

www.igotstandardsbro.com