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noctiva
the invisible girl
- Nov 6, 2019
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I have to write an Email to someone who has lost his daughter (15) 2 months ago to suicide. From what I understand, she has died horribly by deliberately running onto the freeway and getting caught by a car and dragged along (or at least, that is what has been pieced together by what little information is floating around).
I have not been (nor been invited to) the funeral and I haven't seen him since 2 weeks BEFORE the death of his daughter. I do not know him well at all, we've seen each other a few times around, gone for lunch together once and met at church events (not religious, more church events due to social obligation - confirmation) and the mandatory coffee afterwards.
English is not my native language and I do not have many deaths, and no suicide so far, that I needed to express my condolences for. I have googled but I don't like all these formal suggestions. I know I need one 'formal' sentence but then something more, something that.. you know, something that actually says something that's not just platitudes. Something kind and considerate. Something more than 'I'm so sorry, hope you'll move on!'.
I didn't think I would ever have to write something like it, especially not a few weeks before I plan to ctb myself. I thought, who better to ask than people that have actually thought about ctb, about how to write notes, how to prepare their families, how to make it easier for the loved ones they leave behind.
I would not bother him at all, but he is the only person I can reach out to to possibly help me. Or should I not reach out, at all, and let the family grieve and just ctb quietly in the corner? When I ctb, I have to send him a delayed email, that's why I thought I might want to reach out once before I ctb to ask for help, before I send him a 'Sorry I ended my life!' Email.
Thank you for reading this thread, thank you for any ideas you might have. Thank you for being there for me, I cannot tell you how much I appreciate you all.
I have not been (nor been invited to) the funeral and I haven't seen him since 2 weeks BEFORE the death of his daughter. I do not know him well at all, we've seen each other a few times around, gone for lunch together once and met at church events (not religious, more church events due to social obligation - confirmation) and the mandatory coffee afterwards.
English is not my native language and I do not have many deaths, and no suicide so far, that I needed to express my condolences for. I have googled but I don't like all these formal suggestions. I know I need one 'formal' sentence but then something more, something that.. you know, something that actually says something that's not just platitudes. Something kind and considerate. Something more than 'I'm so sorry, hope you'll move on!'.
I didn't think I would ever have to write something like it, especially not a few weeks before I plan to ctb myself. I thought, who better to ask than people that have actually thought about ctb, about how to write notes, how to prepare their families, how to make it easier for the loved ones they leave behind.
I would not bother him at all, but he is the only person I can reach out to to possibly help me. Or should I not reach out, at all, and let the family grieve and just ctb quietly in the corner? When I ctb, I have to send him a delayed email, that's why I thought I might want to reach out once before I ctb to ask for help, before I send him a 'Sorry I ended my life!' Email.
Thank you for reading this thread, thank you for any ideas you might have. Thank you for being there for me, I cannot tell you how much I appreciate you all.
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