how to deal with loneliness

[TheHatedOne]

Title basically. I tried to be only on my own ever since 2019 but each time I tried this I'd end up with a very horrible breakdown that would last for days if not for weeks and destroy myself and others around me. How do I deal with it now knowing that I m planning to go in one month and half anyway. I don't want to get attached or anyone else get attached to me. I don't want anyone else experience the pain that Istill go through. Not that someone would care anyway enough to get attached lol. But I still worry. Hobbies don't really help me at all.

 

[Pluto]

I like to sleep a lot when I can. It kind of gets ridiculous at times but hey, who cares, right?

 

[TheHatedOne]

I like to sleep a lot when I can. It kind of gets ridiculous at times but hey, who cares, right?

I also like sleeping but I have huge ass troubles falling asleep so I pretty much can't even do that :(

 

[Crazy4u]

I find myself more comfortable when I go out and walk whether it is indoor or outdoor.

 

[TheHatedOne]

I find myself more comfortable when I go out and walk whether it is indoor or outdoor.

this really helped me throughout the summer when the weather was bearable but now that it's incredibly cold I can't really go outside. Sometimes I still feel like doing it, walk around the 'hood and feel like a rap singer not caring about the consequences of catching a cold. However that makes me forget only temporarily, once I am home I start to think again about it. I find sleep the best solution but I really can't fall asleep and I suspect I might have insomnia.

 

[LittleBlackCat]

Title basically. I tried to be only on my own ever since 2019 but each time I tried this I'd end up with a very horrible breakdown that would last for days if not for weeks and destroy myself and others around me. How do I deal with it now knowing that I m planning to go in one month and half anyway. I don't want to get attached or anyone else get attached to me. I don't want anyone else experience the pain that Istill go through. Not that someone would care anyway enough to get attached lol. But I still worry. Hobbies don't really help me at all.

I feel the same, including the breakdowns. I'm sorry to hear it, I don't have the answer unfortunately. I see everyone else living 'normal' lives with families and friends. I don't have that, but it doesn't matter now I've decided to ctb.

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

Finding your inner voice, meditation. But most of time, for me, the pain has to just be dealt with.

 

[ClownMe]

I like to sleep a lot when I can. It kind of gets ridiculous at times but hey, who cares, right?

If I could, I would just be in the state of sleep all day, every day.

 

[TheHatedOne]

If I could, I would just be in the state of sleep all day, every day.

Wish Christmas day happened over and over again so I could sleep the whole day like I did back then without waking up for no reason then not be able to fall back asleep :(.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Experience, although I guess I'm not the best example for how to healthily deal with loneliness…

 

[Z-bar]

Get a dog!!! Seriously, dogs give unconditional love, are always happy to see you, love playing and chasing and making them happy will put a smile on your face.
Just my two cents. A rescue dog will forever be grateful to you and may give you a greater purpose.
Also any form of helping others can make you feel good.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Get a dog!!! Seriously, dogs give unconditional love, are always happy to see you, love playing and chasing and making them happy will put a smile on your face.
Just my two cents. A rescue dog will forever be grateful to you and may give you a greater purpose.
Also any form of helping others can make you feel good.

I sadly can't have a dog because my family already has someone even more demanding than a dog to take care of. Also dogs can get really expensive to care for especially rescues if they have some preexisting condition that needs constant vet bills.

Would be nice to have one though or even a cat but I'm not fit to take care of any creature if I can't/won't even take care of myself.

 

[TheHatedOne]

Get a dog!!! Seriously, dogs give unconditional love, are always happy to see you, love playing and chasing and making them happy will put a smile on your face.
Just my two cents. A rescue dog will forever be grateful to you and may give you a greater purpose.
Also any form of helping others can make you feel good.

Having a pet, especially a dog requires huge responsibility. Also knowing that I'll go soon, I can't make any animal attachments either. I already feel awful about my cat ever since I moved out, couldnt take him with me because im not allowed with pets here so I just visit him weekly. I feel awful that I'll leave him, it's difficult.

 

[FuneralCry]

For many people, loneliness can be very painful. I know that it can be hard to cope when you are suffering so much. Going outside and distractions can help some people but nothing makes me feel better. I would prefer to be alone though than be around people. For me nothing will ever take away the emptiness. I wish you the best.

 

[sharky]

Distraction can help, temporarily. Also if nothing works, drugs. If everything fails then I got a secret weapon: dogs

 

[Sherri]

Besides mental illness this issue almost goes hand in hand. On a world more virtual each day, where people only talk online, date online, by online. It is a hard question, the few good friends I have I met at school as a teenage, work colleagues when you can relate to them, and when I was a smoker there was always human interaction even though it was a bad habit it created a bond. I hope you feel less lonely soon and find a friend. I'm like you hobbies and video games bore me. The Lego set I bought it's already in a corner. Not the ideal answer but you have friends in us here. A big hug.

 

[myopybyproxy]

Drugs, online forums, and talking to strangers or homeless people. Constantly fighting human nature gets exhausting.

 

[fox_wannabe]

I like to sleep a lot when I can. It kind of gets ridiculous at times but hey, who cares, right?

Same, sleeping is one of best things human can do for himself. I also recommend watching netflix and roleplaying on discord (UwU notices your bulgie wulgie) also taking hot baths. Exercising, running mile or two. ehmmmm.. cleaning cooking. Meditating. Doing research on some obscure interest of yours if you into that like I am. Don't bother with thinking about your life.

Idk if my life is worth living but I should not be really think about this.