How to build resilience

[brokenengine]

I know all the thought patterns I'm "supposed" to have. I should be telling myself that it's okay to go at my own pace, my best is good enough, it's okay to make mistakes, etc. But those phrases can't change the way I feel... Even if I make small improvements I feel like I'm in a hole that's too deep to get out of. If I'm miles below the earth, how can one step up make a difference, especially when I know I'll probably fall back down again? I've read about the concept of resilience and I know that's what I lack. But I don't know how to get it? It's especially ridiculous because this is almost completely internal, my parents and my bf are so supportive and I'm somehow just doing this to myself. Maybe I need to drill it into my brain until I believe it. Maybe I'm just posting this thread bc I want someone to tell me I'm doing a good job even though I woke up at noon and still haven't showered or brushed my teeth lol. I'll go do that now I guess.

 

[Bugg1]

You are doing a very good job, I'm proud of you, even you not feel like that but what you are doing is resilience. So keeping up the fight my brave warrior.

 

[SylvaanBanaan]

I get what you mean.
It's especially a pain to keep up with that mindset when you try to recover and end up going downhill again
I still need to learn that :')
Wish you the best

 

[Thereisnothing]

I know all the thought patterns I'm "supposed" to have. I should be telling myself that it's okay to go at my own pace, my best is good enough, it's okay to make mistakes, etc. But those phrases can't change the way I feel... Even if I make small improvements I feel like I'm in a hole that's too deep to get out of. If I'm miles below the earth, how can one step up make a difference, especially when I know I'll probably fall back down again? I've read about the concept of resilience and I know that's what I lack. But I don't know how to get it? It's especially ridiculous because this is almost completely internal, my parents and my bf are so supportive and I'm somehow just doing this to myself. Maybe I need to drill it into my brain until I believe it. Maybe I'm just posting this thread bc I want someone to tell me I'm doing a good job even though I woke up at noon and still haven't showered or brushed my teeth lol. I'll go do that now I guess.

I think building resilience is hard to foresee, but seems to happen somehow without us knowing (if that makes sense?) I go ages without even showering or brushing my teeth etc and longer dont do it, worse gets. So well done you. xx

 

[seho_j]

You are here and you are fighting to get better. That's a form of resilience!
It's hard to believe in yourself, but you are doing a great job.