How quick do parents recover?

[wherearewenow]

im 19 and have a mom that cares, but im seriously considering CTB. i have another post going into detail. she has another daughter that actually has a reason to exist. how long would it take my mom to get over my death?

 

[thenamingofcats]

If she loves you, never.

 

[Dot]

Honstly

Am nt sre thy wll

Thy fnd wys 2 cpe as tme gs on bt mst parnts d/ nt 'gt ovr' ctb of thr chld

 

[dreamfloat]

I think there's no way to know. Before when I was severely depressed, I believed my parents and my sister didn't care about me and they would be just fine. Now, I can see that they do care and would be very sad. It's something I feel guilty over now, so I can relate. It's hard to feel okay with CTB when you have people who care and would be devastated.

 

[Sylveon]

I'm in the same boat as you; in my case, I'm sure that my mum would take a long time to recover, if she ever manages to, that is... :')

 

[wherearewenow]

i know it would break her heart. but if i do finally end it, how long would it take for her to recover? again she has another daughter that actually has a reason to exist unlike myself

 

[LaVieEnRose]

They never recover as such. They just adjust (or don't, in some cases). That's not really "recovery.

 

[ifeelsofragile]

Never

 

[MeowTheFlemishCat]

Honstly

Am nt sre thy wll

Thy fnd wys 2 cpe as tme gs on bt mst parnts d/ nt 'gt ovr' ctb of thr chld

What's the reason behind the way you type?

 

[wherearewenow]

damn. i dont want to break her. i guess thats why they say suicide is selfish
i just wish i never existed. it wouldve been so much easier :c

They never recover as such. They just adjust (or don't, in some cases). That's not really "recovery.

how long do you think it would take for her to adjust if i do CTB?

 

[Dot]

What's the reason behind the way you type?

Info on profle

 

[Deleted member 65988]

After reading up on a lot experiences of bereavement due to ctb, they'll adjust to it but "recover" in a sense where it's something they can move past is something that won't happen, they'll learn to live and cope with it over time but they certainly won't be able recover from it.

 

[final_countdown12]

Unfortunately there is not 100% recovery, its the biggest trauma posible in any mom's life.

Nonetheless you could do some things to minimise the suferring:
- leave a clear, concise, objective Letter
- make prepaid funeral arrengements
- leave your funeral clothes already cleaned and organized
- close all your accounts
- make a will or schedule 100% money transfer to her
- donate all your clothes
- organize all your documents
- CTB in a neutral place, where she is not the one who has to clean the mess and be the first one to see your body (example: chain hotel room)
...
Just try to eliminate all possible hassle. It will somehow help her.

 

[Meteora]

I don't care. She's anyway find a reason why it had absolutely nothing to do with her.

 

[Kta1994]

In my case my mom will understand because im in too much chronic pain

 

[Lady Laudanum]

When I tried to CTB 6 years ago and was hospitalized, my mom said if I didn't survive, her reputation would be ruined.

That was when I had my answer, and it wasn't an answer that I necessarily liked.

 

[slightoverlooked]

my mom told me she would kill herself if i ctb. i have three siblings. tbh only reason why I'm trying to recover.

 

[Optimu$]

im 19 and have a mom that cares, but im seriously considering CTB. i have another post going into detail. she has another daughter that actually has a reason to exist. how long would it take my mom to get over my death?

@whatif How long is a piece of string? That's how long.

 

[suffering_mo]

Im on this site because I am so freaking sick, in pain, with other rare conditions. Otherwise I wouldn't even consider going like this. There are a lot of sorrows to be had in life but there can also be a lot of joy. Not sure of your situation but if life isn't too painful, please try to live for the ones who love you. Hugs.