how do you guys deal with loneliness?

[marudekinoumitai]

I really don't... I used to play video games sometimes or read or watch YouTube but that all feels like too much work now. Basically I just drown in it. It's the loneliness more than anything that makes me want to ctb

 

[Clowndollie]

I try to make friends and force myself to hangout with people but it feels so fake and after it I also feel so incredibly tired. I just wish for a person I could do everything with honestly, just someone that saves me.

 

[gokpg]

Games or shows tbh, not much else to go for

 

[Argo]

There are a few ways and they can work together. Here's a question to just consider:

"Is it generally true that, the stronger the loneliness, the stronger the desire for others to to make us feel better-- the bigger the hole in our hearts, the bigger the feeling of unworthiness?"

It can help to just question that. Is it true or not, that it feeds into itself? Does isolation and rejection get internalized into a message saying something like, "I don't have value. I'm not interesting. Desirable."? Which creates more isolation? And more internalization?

This is the way the knot is tied more and more over time in a way that's hard to untie. Just imagine now that many others have this same problem. Loneliness is a little bit like drowning in the ocean and being unable to swim next to others, who are also drowning and can't swim, but asking them for help. It would be understandable, but it would be confused. Sometimes it can work for a little bit if you get close to them and you take turns pushing off of each other for room to breathe, but it does not solve the problem. But imagine if people were too busy drowning to see that the solution was learning to swim, and instead constantly grasped at others who were drowning. I think that's the very first step: to only see this problem as clearly as possible. You don't have to solve anything, you don't have to work on anything, just see the problem itself.

 

[escape_from_hell]

Opioids, cannabinoids, dissociatives, alcohol, whatever kind of drug.
A lot of sleep. Crying and assuring myself I will die helps me deal sometimes too but then feel like shit because too pussy to kill self.

Used to be able to use entertainment like music, movies, literature, porn, video games, and so on.
Developed severe anhedonia eventually so those do shit all.
Nature hikes stopped working too that's how far gone I am.

So lonely and depressed that the fact that music/art/literature are forms of human communication makes me feel isolation/guilt/unworthiness even deeper so actually make me feel MORE awful vs relating. Cuz I feel far from human.

Therefore drugs, sleep, and suicidal ideation about all I have to deal.