How do you guys cope?

[LaVieEnRose]

Not super well, as it turns out.

 

[almondmilk]

i get a razor or a cutter , and from here is self explanatory

 

[BlissfulVoid]

I try to surround myself with things I remember from a happier time. Old childhood hobbies, games, television shows, etc.
My CTB thoughts already began as a child, but since I had what felt like infinite time to indulge my interests back then, I managed to stay happy most of the time. Since I grew out of childhood, I started going downhill fast, but one day, I remembered the happier times and decided to try and recreate them.

Beyond that, just having access to this community helps me a great deal. I know I am still very new here, but just reading what you guys all write, and sometimes enganging in the discussions myself, really makes it easier for me to feel a sense of belonging. I've never been able to talk openly about my CTB thoughts and plans before, due to the taboo society has placed around it, and how the only fitting response seems to be trying to "help". Sometimes, all one needs is someone that listens and understands, someone going through the same things. I feel like we can all have that here, a safe space in the truest sense of the term.

My CTB thoughts are still alive and kicking in my head, but at present, I do find myself wanting to see what tomorrow brings.

 

[MarimbaKitten]

I try to hang out with a friend or bury myself in work. At times the anger at myself/the world/existence can be converted quite efficiently into getting a lot done. Only really works with certain kinds of work and certain moods though.

 

[AllMyDreams]

Going for a walk always helps me- I instantly feel better and then when I'm back on my computer I feel worse. But walks are good because there's no risk of failure or complications (unlike the gym).

Also YouTube rabbit holes, and researching things I'm interested in.

Or venting toward people and telling them how awful I'm feeling and how much I want to die. But that has taken a toll on the people I vent toward. So... I try to do that sparingly.

 

[Crasher]

I try to surround myself with things I remember from a happier time. Old childhood hobbies, games, television shows, etc.
My CTB thoughts already began as a child, but since I had what felt like infinite time to indulge my interests back then, I managed to stay happy most of the time. Since I grew out of childhood, I started going downhill fast, but one day, I remembered the happier times and decided to try and recreate them.

Beyond that, just having access to this community helps me a great deal. I know I am still very new here, but just reading what you guys all write, and sometimes enganging in the discussions myself, really makes it easier for me to feel a sense of belonging. I've never been able to talk openly about my CTB thoughts and plans before, due to the taboo society has placed around it, and how the only fitting response seems to be trying to "help". Sometimes, all one needs is someone that listens and understands, someone going through the same things. I feel like we can all have that here, a safe space in the truest sense of the term.

I really resonate with you. I look back on what made me happy and trying to recreate it. Playing games, watching shows, etc. It may be starting to bite me, but im still in one piece.

Furthermore, I agree this forum has given me a place I can feel safe to express and parse out emotions which would be difficult to say anywhere else.

 

[Emptied_soul]

Walking and listening to music, the only things that can sort of keep my mind distracted as of now, when i'm walking i feel like i actually have a goal, to reach some place, also while walking i like to turn off my brain and just focus on listening to some podcast so i can take my mind off from any worry that i have.

 

[arcadia]

My PlayStation

 

[Dolphin55]

I don't know how to cope lately. I was able to, in the past, but it's been about 7-8 years and at some point the coping with the same awful stuff just gets harder and harder. I try to engage in distractions and keep my mind from dwelling on the depression and anxiety as much as I can, but it's always temporary, I know it's always still there, waiting for me. I used to escape into art and writing, the best escape I found was to immerse myself in the fictional lives of characters I'd created, often I'd be able to get myself so invested I'd entirely forget about myself for awhile. But lately that doesn't work too well anymore. Watching a good tv show, listening to music, going for walks, again all things that used to be able to help me cope. Nowadays I find since these really don't work that well for me anymore the only thing that helps is to browse a forum like this where at least I don't have to feel alone. But spending too much time here can also eventually make one feel worse due to the amount of pain/hopelessness people are experiencing here, so it's a balancing act

 

[redisblue]

I play video games a lot, that's probably my main coping mechanism as well as watching YouTube. Sometimes art, reading and writing helps too. I usually listen to music as well when doing all of this, it helps drown out negative thoughts. I also tend to self-harm sometimes, but it's unhealthy and doesn't even really help anymore. I'm so glad that you have healthy coping mechanisms :D

 

[Flores de Abril]

It depends a lot on how the depression is hitting on me in the day
But in general I usually spend time with my pets, read books, watch Jurassic Park (my fav movie), meditate, go for walks in the nature, climb on the rooftop or if it is too bad I have my secret place under my study table, there I write what I am felling, even if are just scrambled words or paint them with watercolor paint. Going out with friends helps sometimes when i am felling more extroverted

 

[BBBB]

Hang out on this site. Makes me feel a little less alone.

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

Hang out on this site. Makes me feel a little less alone.

I agree with that, I don't know if this makes me sound bad but it feels good to not feel alone in my misery. I've definitely felt less alone since I've joined here, I was a lurker for a bit before joining, but I eventually joined. I left for quite a bit but then came back after my breakup and now I'm here more often.

It depends a lot on how the depression is hitting on me in the day
But in general I usually spend time with my pets, read books, watch Jurassic Park (my fav movie), meditate, go for walks in the nature, climb on the rooftop or if it is too bad I have my secret place under my study table, there I write what I am felling, even if are just scrambled words or paint them with watercolor paint. Going out with friends helps sometimes when i am felling more extroverted

You seem to have a variety of mechanisms. I wish I was decent at painting. I've tried but I'm not good at it and now it just reminds me of my ex too much lmao. Also, even though I have a fear of heights, being on tall things is relatively calming.

Do you like dinosaurs in general or just Jurassic Park? I went to a dinosaur museum a few months back and it was pretty cool! Even saw a T-Rex skeleton, truly amazing how massive it was.

I play video games a lot, that's probably my main coping mechanism as well as watching YouTube. Sometimes art, reading and writing helps too. I usually listen to music as well when doing all of this, it helps drown out negative thoughts. I also tend to self-harm sometimes, but it's unhealthy and doesn't even really help anymore. I'm so glad that you have healthy coping mechanisms :D

Video games are great, it's a great way to escape for a bit. I'm watching horror stories on YouTube as I watch this lol.

If this isn't too personal to ask, why do you self-harm if you're aware it doesn't help? I don't know much about it and I have a low pain tolerance so I've never even considered it as it seems like a slippery slope.

 

[StruggleWithin]

I embrace a hedonism philosophy. There are many types of pleasures. Find and pursue the ones that help you cope best. At least that works for me. gl. : )

 

[suicidalenby]

distractions hella, my biggest one is sleeping i sleep all fucking day

 

[Vuliex]

This is a basic question, I've been having it very rough recently, and I want to know what people do to cope with stress, depression, anxiety, etc.

Me personally? I walk to wherever I feel like, especially in the warmer months, sometimes with friends, sometimes alone, sometimes with headphones listening yo music. I also work out. I've tried to develop healthy coping mechanisms, and things to revolve my life around, especially in recent month

Whenever im doing good im typically out in nature majority of the times. Gardening, tending to my livestock, foraging, etc. When im doing poorly I may drink or result to self harm.

 

[Wowser]

Writing fanfic, going for a walk. But realistically, that only prolongs the pain.

Forgot to add, eating food. Knowing that I get pizza in a few minutes gives temporary relief. But again, it also means I prolong my suffering.

 

[altoids]

Sounds cliche but I basically don't. Unless distracting myself with useless nothings in the short term counts. I'm basically just piloting my body around and doing the bare minimum until the inevitable arrives.

 

[qwerty1969]

Forgot to add, eating food. Knowing that I get pizza in a few minutes gives temporary relief. But again, it also means I prolong my suffering.

I have started ordering pizza everyday

 

[EternalOblivion]

Running for as long as I can to tire myself out. Doing this helps a bit with my insomnia. I also picked up knitting and crochet—I like the process of creating something out of nothing.
I suppose my coping mechanisms are whatever forces me to be present and get out of my head for awhile. If I'm really going through it: I drink excessively while binge-watching television.

 

[OutOfTheVoid]

drugs and listening to music mostly. and when i have the motivation, making music and writing. those are my main ones. plus anything that can distract me, like anime/manga, video games, and youtube. when im depressed i also eat and sleep more, i guess those count too

 

[missingpeace]

In silence...in my room.. staring outside the window...weep alot... Go and talk to my family members in nearby rooms for alittle while.. things get annoying when my mom comes in and tells me to eat, go out, help around the house, participate socially.. tbh I'm capable of nothing.. can't wait to ctb..

 

[ermurazor]

Reading and drawing.
And some weed before going to bed to help me with insomnia.

 

[ilovecats]

gym and alcohol

 

[TakeMeBack07]

Reading, music mainly but self harm gives me a particular high nothing else can give.

 

[Avyn]

I think about suicide a lot, it calms me down. I also play games, read, watch youtube and cuddle my pets when I feel lonely (:

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

I think about suicide a lot, it calms me down. I also play games, read, watch youtube and cuddle my pets when I feel lonely (:

I relate with this a lot, except the reading, I don't read nearly as much as I should :)

 

[PainfulPainkillers]

I don't want to buy a gym membership, plus I live in a really small town so there's like 2 gyms here and they're always crowded. I choose to workout at home because I tend to work out on an impulse. I think it would be nice for a gym membership for the routine but that's the main benefit beyond more workout variety.

I agree with your points, maybe cope wasn't the right word but it was the first word to come to mind. Bettering yourself is always a better option than some routes like self-destruction.

That's the spirit, I've tried self harm but lets just say it does more harm then good. Don't go that route, I would totally go for a gym membership if I were you, I have one and I love meeting people at the gym and making new friends while I work out. A lot of people at the gym have the exact same mindset and personality as you, if you are nervous about how to approach people then a good way to do it is to ask people how to use a machine and then after they help you explain that you are just getting started and ask for any tips for a routine and that's how you get to know people at the gym. If you think you are making friends then ask them if they don't mind you working out with them to learn a routine and trust me, you will be a lot happier. Good luck.

 

[melancholyc418]

Im not im waiting until all my supplies come in

 

[imcadt99]

Alcohol, guitar, and the knowledge that I will soon have the means to carry out my death. It's hard to avoid doing something impulsive, but I know it will work out in time and thankfully that is something I can afford given my fortunate circumstances at the moment.