Help How do you get people to stop caring?

[Meimi18]

I just want them to stop worrying, I wish they could at least be neutral about this

Like hey man just live your life, you'll be fine I promise, you have all these other people ok? Like c'mon man it's not like I've been the greatest friend, you can just drop me, you'll be alright, maybe even better

I just want them to stop investing energy into this, why can't they see it'll be easier? I need a way to let them off easy and with the least amount of stress for them, but I feel awful about lying

 

[yeahokbuddyboy]

Personally I'm not sure there's a way I can be sure they stop caring without hurting them in the process, which might make them hurt/care more in the end

 

[jalapeno]

This is a problem with no easy solution. It's part of who were are to care about each other. I'm taking my journey very slowly and making efforts to try and make my life palatable. I don't want to hurt my family or friends or others who care about me. I think I'm mostly ok with dying, but just because I'm gone doesn't mean I'm ok leaving others to suffer. That's where I'm at. I don't have the anger as much anymore.

I like to think I'm leaving subtle hints. I've explained a few times that I don't think life is a gift, and that I don't think my own life is something I'd want to repeat. I'm pro-choice. I hope that this means if they think about it, it'll make at least some sense. I'm showing the signs.

I'm also getting older which means that my friends have their own lives, my parents are slipping into old age, and it's easier to have fewer friends and keep them further away. A lot more is in my control and before the end I think I could reasonably limit the worst of the suffering down to about 3 people. 100% waiting until all my grandparents are gone. I like the long game.

 

[Meimi18]

This is a problem with no easy solution. It's part of who were are to care about each other. I'm taking my journey very slowly and making efforts to try and make my life palatable. I don't want to hurt my family or friends or others who care about me. I think I'm mostly ok with dying, but just because I'm gone doesn't mean I'm ok leaving others to suffer. That's where I'm at. I don't have the anger as much anymore.

I like to think I'm leaving subtle hints. I've explained a few times that I don't think life is a gift, and that I don't think my own life is something I'd want to repeat. I'm pro-choice. I hope that this means if they think about it, it'll make at least some sense. I'm showing the signs.

I'm also getting older which means that my friends have their own lives, my parents are slipping into old age, and it's easier to have fewer friends and keep them further away. A lot more is in my control and before the end I think I could reasonably limit the worst of the suffering down to about 3 people. 100% waiting until all my grandparents are gone. I like the long game.

Dang, that sounds kinda nice. I'm pretty young and I don't seem to have a lot of patience for the long game haha
Hope everything goes smoothly for you

 

[Death is my goal]

Dang, that sounds kinda nice. I'm pretty young and I don't seem to have a lot of patience for the long game haha
Hope everything goes smoothly for you

how old are you?

 

[j3n4829]

i think the best way to make people stop caring is by hurting them, doing anything bad to them till the point that they could not care less about you. I wish you the best, stranger

 

[Forever Sleep]

If you want to stop them worrying about you CTB- I'd imagine not talking about it to them would be the way. I understand why people tell people- to warn them. Maybe just because they need support or even- want to recover. Still, it's unlikely they will accept your decision, so I imagine they will just keep on trying to 'help' if they think you are in danger. From their perspective- you've presumably told them your wishes. Presumably, they still think you can be helped. If you did it without them even trying to intervene- imagine how guilty they would feel. I think you have to imagine that from their perspective- you can still be 'saved' and- seeing as they know the seriousness of the situation- they probably feel it's up to them to do it.

Personally, I've estranged myself from people. In part it's happened naturally. We've all moved away from one another and are all wrapped up in our own lives. But, I'm hoping that distance would help. They don't know about my situation to know to try and help. I wouldn't want them to try and fail to help.

 

[WAITING TO DIE]

Gradually isolating yourself from people can be a good strategy to help them stop caring.

 

[DearMe]

This is a problem with no easy solution. It's part of who were are to care about each other. I'm taking my journey very slowly and making efforts to try and make my life palatable. I don't want to hurt my family or friends or others who care about me. I think I'm mostly ok with dying, but just because I'm gone doesn't mean I'm ok leaving others to suffer. That's where I'm at. I don't have the anger as much anymore.

I like to think I'm leaving subtle hints. I've explained a few times that I don't think life is a gift, and that I don't think my own life is something I'd want to repeat. I'm pro-choice. I hope that this means if they think about it, it'll make at least some sense. I'm showing the signs.

I'm also getting older which means that my friends have their own lives, my parents are slipping into old age, and it's easier to have fewer friends and keep them further away. A lot more is in my control and before the end I think I could reasonably limit the worst of the suffering down to about 3 people. 100% waiting until all my grandparents are gone. I like the long game.

I can't relate. I chose the harder method and made them all hate me. I'm too close to them and live near them. I can't move out as much as I want to. So I became the black sheep entirely. I'm this close to attempting ctb, but someone is keeping an eye on me. Sigh.

 

[BLEH:3]

Unless you become a terrible person and make people despise you people wont stop caring and even then it wont guarantee people will stop caring about you. I wish for people to stop caring too but lets be honest theres very little we can do