- Oct 27, 2020
I can’t die if I feel this way. I have to be stoic and unattached.
How long does that take and is it constant or does the pain come back?I just found that when things felt bad enough for long enough, it just turned to numbness and apathy. It's not a quick solution, but it's tried and tested.
Can't give an exact time frame, I think it depends on the kind of things you're exposed to. Doesn't really come back though, not much of anything gets through except for the occasional uncomfortable emptiness.How long does that take and is it constant or does the pain come back?
One came back that I had forgotten about for 2-3 yrs.Can't give an exact time frame, I think it depends on the kind of things you're exposed to. Doesn't really come back though, not much of anything gets through except for the occasional uncomfortable emptiness.
I’ve done that a few times this year. It felt good. I don’t know what else to get rid of. Some things I use infrequently but I still need them.Try throwing away some of the stuff you have in your home that's there in expectation of other people being around (more people than there ever actually are).
The key one being kitchenware I find - plates, cutlery, glasses, mugs, etc. - we usually have enough for like 6 people, if not more. I think it subconsciously makes us feel lonely having stuff around that isn't used very often or at all. Same for clothes, furniture, everything really.
I’ve done that a few times this year. It felt good. I don’t know what else to get rid of. Some things I use infrequently but I still need them.
I need my stapler I use once a year.Then its time to test your needs. Things that you think are necessary you might be better off without, in terms of how they are making you feel.
Also if you have things from past relationships/friendships those could be an issue too.
It sounds like you need to take some time to come to terms with how things have changed for you, both from illness and just getting older. The things you used to do with ease that aren't as easy anymore.I need my stapler I use once a year.
The second is the reason. So many women I never went for that were a sure thing. It’s eating me up. My illnesses are much worse now and I can’t foresee having any other chances. Back in my 20s, women didn’t care that I was jobless.
I’m not middle aged yet lol.
So 30s mean fun times are over?Wasn't suggesting you were, but even 20s vs 30s makes a difference I think. What people are looking for and what is important to them changes a lot. I don't know enough about you or what you're after to be any more help. Just generalising from my own experiences.