Help How do you deal with Jealousy?

[CFLoser]

i don't want to be so jealous all the time.

I harbor a lot A LOT of jealousy towards people who are able to transition easier, are more accomplished that me, are nicer and have friends and stuff.

I just get jealous over stupid silly things and I don't want that emotion to guide my life in a big way. Pls help!

 

[Final Escape]

i don't want to be so jealous all the time.

I harbor a lot A LOT of jealousy towards people who are able to transition easier, are more accomplished that me, are nicer and have friends and stuff.

I just get jealous over stupid silly things and I don't want that emotion to guide my life in a big way. Pls help!

I don't know, because I used to get insanely jealous lol! For me it might have improved with age for some reason. I still get envious sometimes when I see things that remind me of what I once had or things I don't have that would be nice to have. You can try to improve yourself and fix stuff you don't like. Or focus on things that give long term meaning as opposed to the shallow stuff that many people do especially when we are young. When young many of us are overly concerned with our image rather then how you are actually living and wether you are hurting or helping yourself or the people in your life.

 

[CFLoser]

To be honest I get rly jealous of peoples bodies. I hate mine and I hate my face too.

 

[WhiteRabbit]

Completely getting rid of social media helped stop me compairing myself to others and their seemingly "perfect" lives.

 

[TheGoodGuy]

Actually it motivates me more to ctb so that is a good thing, like when I see people living their lives with friends, having fun, going on vacation or rich people like on Instagram or IRL it is a great reminder that I will never have they have so I have to ctb.

But I guess this isn´t what you meant when you said deal with it.

 

[meaningisgone]

I dealt with jealousy to the point it virtually doesn't exist in my life anymore to my knowledge, by practicing the Buddhist concept of non-attachment, starting with material possessions and extending outwards to emotions. I don't recommend my exact path though, because I think I succeeded in emotional non-attachment to the point of being apathetic about things I should probably experience emotion about. But not getting jealous is pretty cool.

 

[StillWaiting]

I wish i know how.
Once I become too jealous of someone, i will start hating/disliking them and eventually push them away

 

[meaningisgone]

One of the most pragmatic aspects of Buddhism, but one that has turned me into what seems like something of a sociopath, is the realization and application of the fact that at the root of all suffering is attachment. Every single thing in the universe is fleeting and impermanent so getting attached to that which will sooner or later fade, creates pain when that attachment is threatened or severed. Maybe I didn't do it right or something lol, but I've found myself emotionally unresponsive in awkward situations, for instance when people express great suffering or tragedy. Part of my lack of emotional response may be due to the numbness of depression though, I'm sure. Anyway, if you can logically believe that everything you'll ever value is impermanent, always was, always will be, then you have a rational basis for seeing the utility in non-attachment, and seeing its usefulness will help you experiment with your reactions to things in this way.

Or not. Whatever works for you!

 

[TheCrow]

are nicer and have friends and stuff.

Tbh, I really like your personality. You're really upbeat & silly all the time—I love it! I always read your posts & think you'd be so fun to be friends with in real life! :D

 

[Going Home]

Jealousy can make people sick. I have had the ability to be truly happy for others, admiring others without jealousy. If someone had something I wanted I would try to work on my own to buy it. If its something I can't have then I have to just come to terms with that fact and move on.

 

[21Neberg]

I deal with it the same as many other feelings - I usually cut myself in the nearest bathroom. Lately I've been going out on my bike too, because my therapist recommended it. It kind of works, but nothing is as satisfying as a cut.

 

[netrezven]

I think i might never had experienced jealousy from my side. There are very little times, when i realized that someone had something/someone/emotion i wanted and i knew i may never had it. But it was just a sad feeling for myself. I was not able to understand the reasons why i can't get this or that. Only the lack of correct answer made me sad for this moments. Didn't felt anything negative about people, based on what they own or have accomplished.
Still feel sometimes the envy of people about me. And it definitely points to "hidden" negative attitude, intentional attempts to hurt me, or just gossip about it. I felt this even from my very closest and still can't understand it. Being jealous might not be good, but being on the other side too often becomes painful.

 

[Cookiedough8956]

When I experience jealousy, that's like a trigger for me, to cut, bruise, something! I can't deal with it at all. And then it becomes a spiral from there

 

[FTL.Wanderer]

Not get attached.