Discussion how do you cope with your feeling/emotions?

[bestroper]

i need good coping method tbh

 

[Quiet_Observer]

I try to listen to asmr videos and such to try to fill the void of loneliness inside of me; helps me not think bad thoughts, and I can pretend im loved for a little bit. Music also helps.

 

[MatrixPrisoner]

Adderall pill, after Addeall pill, afte Addeall pill...

 

[revolutionnaire23]

unfortunately mine is self-harm. it helps by "resetting" my feelings.

 

[Unattainable666]

Unfortunately, not very well. When I'm frustrated, angry, sad, pissed off, depressed, happy - I cry all the time. I never knew anyone with this much water in their body.

 

[Takamagahara]

I LOVE DRUGS. Opiates specifically.

You know that feeling you get when you settle in to sleep and its a long weekend and you know you can sleep in for as long as you want and it's just nice and relaxed? It's that feeling but hours of it, over a whole day if you spread out your doses.

Of course my tolerance is totally fucked now but that's the price I pay. I'll OD one day anyway.

 

[Mauve87]

I do a simple breathing exercise
While watching a comfort movie

 

[SSamGarrison]

Taking a warm shower is nice. Sometimes I self harm but not severely. Sleeping is great for the escapism but unfortunately takes up too much time and will mess up you sleep schedule. Sometimes I just lie down in my free time without sleeping, just kind of stare and think, but that isn't very good for me. I go here when I am suicidal, but that isn't really coping

 

[ChronicallyCynical]

Method A:

Step 1 - Crying
Step 2 - Hating myself for crying
Step 3 - Hugging my plush toy from when I was a kid and crying some more
Step 4 - Feeling my throat getting squeezed with emotion and my eyes burning and hating every bit of the pain
Step 5 - Somehow finally getting a release from all that

Method B:

Step 1 - Listening to some music that works for the mood
Step 2 - Crying or being angry and letting it all out to the music

Method C:

Step 1 - Food. Maybe tea, alternatively.
Step 2 - Self-loathing.

Method D:

Step 1 - Try to distract myself with a different line of thinking. Maybe by thinking of a comfort character.
Step 2 - Potentially start putting together a story to keep me distracted until I can temporarily forget my distress. May still involve crying, but for different reasons.
Alternative Step 2 - Fall right back into the distressing thoughts and remain trapped there until my mind has decided it's done tormenting me for the night. May involve more crying.
Step 3 - Fall asleep.

As you can see there is a lot of crying involved in my methods. I am very good at crying. Not much else, though. (:

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I use Method D most often. I generally can tear myself from my thoughts for long enough when in that negative state of mind to go through the motions and actually put on some music, eat/drink, and sometimes I can't even quite reach out for the plush.

I hate breathing exercises and meditation -- they just cause me more stress. Trust me, I've tried. It's not for everyone and I just happen to be one of the folks those things alone don't work for. Meditation just doesn't at all, and the breathing stuff, require the other comfort methods for me to actually end up clear-headed enough to do.

And sorry in advance, because I'm aware this isn't really advice ... I mean, these methods don't even get five-star reviews from me. Not even three stars. Well, the plushie, music and the comforting character might. Food... eh. Flip of a coin. Tea's solid, but I wouldn't recommend holding a cup of fresh tea in shaky hands. (Also, may be hard to make depending on your exact state.) Hands and feet have gotten burned by such impulsive acts, even if only mildly. I think it might be the warmth and the comforting smell that help. If you have something you associate with comfort and pleasant things - a smell, a texture, a character, idk - maybe give that a shot.

 

[HighFlight]

I'm not a good person to give advice on this topic. I've buried my feelings and emotions for the past 30+ years. It's caused physical and mental harm to myself, and brought me here.

For your sake, I hope someone here can give you some ideas that work for you.

 

[numar]

drugs or talking to friends, which one of those is good is up to you ig

 

[Liamyzzuf]

Talking with friends.(if they decide to pick up)
Drugs. (Cannabis, Adderall)
Movies.
Video games.
Porn.
Watching streams.
Holding my dog.
Crying.
Recording my mood.
Coming here and expressing myself.

 

[natthebrat]

I go into the next room over to snuggle with my girlfriend.

 

[CrazyDiamond04]

I cope by getting angry,sleeping, and escapism.

 

[ultrasharpy123456]

I stay in the bathroom and wait for my anger to subside. I think that it's going away. My pounding heart will stop, I'll stop feeling adrenaline I tell myself. It will be over soon. And I agree with all the thoughts telling me of all my mistakes and what kind of person I am.

 

[duwangJEff]

For me, it depends on what I'm feeling and how intense it is. I greatly enjoy weightlifting, and I find it very enjoyable to blast some music and pull a heavy deadlift when I'm upset about something. If I feel agitated, or if I find myself missing someone, I tend to get into my head and focus on that negative/painful feeling, maybe look at some old screenshots or something that agitates myself even more, and then I'll blast whatever music feels appropriate. Then I go in for the lift when the music climaxes. I've used this method to make a lot of gains in the gym, since it allows me to use a lot of my negative energy for something productive; though, it's not good in the long term, as it causes me to hyoerfixate and obsess over my ex.

Alternatively, if I feel angry at myself and feel an urge to self harm (I never have self harmed, something just stops me from doing it), I will box with some of my friends so I get beat up somewhat. I made up a game with my buddy where we'd take turns punching each other as hard as possible until someone gives up

Tl;Dr, I like to lift weights and fight people

 

[su1c1dal-dungeon]

drugs alcohol sleeping

idk how to control my emotions/feelings/mood idk fucking all of the above. idk what im doing with my life

 

[CH349]

Play something competitive (probably just League of Legends) and lose my mind in a slightly healthier way.

It seems to me that drowning myself in something until my head quiets down is the best way for me.