how do you cope with guilt and regret?

[alfie]

guilt and regret are the two major reasons i want to kill myself. for people who are blighted by these same demons, what do you do or think to be able to survive through these insufferable afflictions?

 

[Ruffian]

I try to focus on learning something or pushing myself to do something physical. I'm suffering t guilt and remorse after a mania. It makes you do ridiculous stuff. Did you want to share about why you feel bad?

 

[alfie]

i can share but in a not too in-depth fashion... to painful to share fully... basically, i knew enough to be able to prevent my daughter's chronic condition but i failed to act and she developed it...

 

[Ruffian]

i can share but in a not too in-depth fashion... to painful to share fully... basically, i knew enough to be able to prevent my daughter's chronic condition but i failed to act and she developed it...

I'm sorry...if there is a way to make it better I'm sure you will find it.

 

[Stan]

guilt and regret are the two major reasons i want to kill myself. for people who are blighted by these same demons, what do you do or think to be able to survive through these insufferable afflictions?

I can't and i don't

 

[pole]

accepting it. you cant do anything to change whats happened. for me, i accept it whole heartedly, and try and make up for it by bettering not only myself but the person affected and by giving it my all to somehow make up for it.

you made a mistake. but shes fairly young correct? the least you could do, as a guardian and someone who she loves and you love as well is be there for her so she doesn't have to suffer anymore than she already does; and to attempt to give her the world, and make her the happiest person on the planet.

 

[Sweet emotion]

I have a lot of guilt and regret built up but I really don't want to say what it's from. It's too personal and strange. Let's just say I was up for three days straight in pain. Physical pain. I have OCD and instead of waiting until I got sleep and was rested I did something to myself because I felt like it needed to be done right then and there. I hurt myself very badly. And it's something I've been struggling with for 6 years. Only I could have done something so bizarre. The first couple of years I couldn't forgive myself. I wanted to die because of it. Then the guilt faded away but it comes back every now and then. What I did to myself makes me feel like an alien like less of a person. I know there is nothing I can do about it so I should just forgive myself but I can't.

 

[Mr2005]

Trying to be a better person but also listening to music and smoking weed. Staying in my bubble and not really being a better person at all. I mean I know things but I don't contribute anything

 

[837]

Tbh i don't really. i am not good at coping with things that happened in the past so i just linger on it but the only thing that makes it better is time because I just stop caring after. I also try to distract myself with music and sleep although that's a just a temporary distraction.

 

[Final Escape]

Drugs numb it all lol!

 

[Forest Fire]

Smoke cannabis and then it's easier to distract myself, although it isn't a miracle cure. It also makes my body feel calmer. If I haven't got cannabis then I plan/day dream about killing myself.
A few years ago I used to help anyone who was in a bad situation to try and counter it. I Don't have the energy for that anymore.
Not trying to be negative but I can't imagine my regret or guilt going anywhere so unless I can forgive myself and move on then it will always be there.
If there is any way you can directly make up for the things you've done to cause guilt or regret then do what you can to fix it.

 

[Nem]

The only way I cope is...SUICIDE!!!!!!
Peace/hugs

 

[truthseeker]

I beat myself up for a very long time, knew I was being too hard and couldn't brake out of the cycle no matter what. Forgiving one's self can be more difficult than other people. I did/do have guilt and regrets but in my heart I know that I'm a good person, flawed but good. I'm tired and world weary, despite not feeling a part of it I've tried my best to repair what I could. Somehow it has to add up to being good enough, even if it isn't it is if you know what I mean.

 

[stellabelle]

Art. Copious amounts of marijuana. Activity. Internet. A walk. Visit with others. Any distraction possible. I try to avoid all of it. And I can't tell anyone outside of my counselor - it's like people are just invasive and don't understand. It's hard. I only have that space to discuss it once a week. Hopefully soon it will be twice a week.