How do you cope when you're bursting at the seams?

[favourite]

I've been lonely for 6 years now and mostly I got used to it, but recently there are these days when I just DON'T FUCKING KNOW how to deal with being chronically untouched and unloved. I tried many copes, from drugs, through music, to exercising, but nothing seems to help now. I feel high-wired constantly, my mind running in circles, and can't even go outside, 'cause it rains all the time.

Please give me some new copes till I collapse completely!

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

Tapas Acupressure Technique, Emotional Freedom Technique. Sometimes they provide some instant relief, but usually it's a more gradual release of the emotional charges and one notices they feel better, are having less charged responses, or aren't having them anymore at all.

 

[TheSoulless]

Gaming is my go-to coping method. It often succesfully distracts my thoughts.

 

[Arrow]

Gaming is my go-to coping method. I

same

 

[favourite]

Eh, unfortunately gaming lost its charm for me quite a long ago. Nowadays I prefer to just watch letsplays on yt, but it doesn't help when my mind is racing.

 

[Sprite_Geist]

Drawing? You could research historical or mythical places, and make concepts for a fantasy world.

 

[favourite]

I used to like drawing, now I mostly can't even focus on it. Fantasy worlds, yes, I do make some concepts but it steams mainly from my maladaptive daydreaming (which helps me survive the day, but it's getting harder and harder to snap out of the fantasies...)

 

[BitterlyAlive]

I wouldn't recommend this, but cutting helps quiet the thoughts and it numbs me. Um... screaming helps sometimes. Shredding up paper with an eraser? Breaking pencils? :/

 

[Pryras]

Do you have any hobbies or something that interests you? This seems like a cliche answer but finding something you're passionate about and pursuing it can help take your mind off things.

I've been alone for a long time and avoid relationships because of how draining and taxing it can be on my mental health. I feel MUCH better being alone and wouldn't trade it for the world.

 

[Jon86]

I don't really, I suffer but I do persist.

I suppose, I try my best to remain apathetic so as to keep my life grey, I now reject optimism, in favor of stoicism. A lot of this just happened naturally, i've been suicidal for just over 10 years without reprieve, so as expected I am also anhedonic and often in a near comatose state. Hope has failed me so many times, if I ever feel it, I keep it slightly muted to avoid the inevitable trauma from my return to hopelessness.

When I keep the colors grey, the black doesn't feel so overwhelming, I miss out on the colors I used to enjoy but the payoff is that i've learned to look into the darkness without it breaking me. Not sure if it's worth it, it wasn't much of a choice, tbh, this is just how it played out for me.

 

[favourite]

I wouldn't recommend this, but cutting helps quiet the thoughts and it numbs me. Um... screaming helps sometimes. Shredding up paper with an eraser? Breaking pencils? :/

I used to cut myself and I'd happily relapse, but soon I'm gonna be forced to look for a new job and I want to avoid dumb questions during medical examination.
Punching walls is all I have left.

 

[favourite]

I don't really, I suffer but I do persist.

I suppose, I try my best to remain apathetic so as to keep my life grey, I now reject optimism, in favor of stoicism. A lot of this just happened naturally, i've been suicidal for just over 10 years without reprieve, so as expected I am also anhedonic and often in a near comatose state. Hope has failed me so many times, if I ever feel it, I keep it slightly muted to avoid the inevitable trauma from my return to hopelessness.

When I keep the colors grey, the black doesn't feel so overwhelming, I miss out on the colors I used to enjoy but the payoff is that i've learned to look into the darkness without it breaking me. Not sure if it's worth it, it wasn't much of a choice, tbh, this is just how it played out for me.

My life is also kept gray most of the times but there are still inevitable days like these, when I'm not in control of my brain. Like I was on some sick stimulants.

 

[Jon86]

My life is also kept gray most of the times but there are still inevitable days like these, when I'm not in control of my brain. Like I was on some sick stimulants.

I got on disability last year and live alone. I isolate to extremes, haven't had a phone call from a friend in years, I am alone, except for family that live 1000 miles away who I see once or twice a year. I chose solitude in a lot of ways, to escape the pain of everyday life, I moved away, stopped social media and never made outgoing calls going back nearly a decade ago now. It is pretty brutal tbh, i've been trapped in suicidal depression for so long because of physical disease, mostly alive because of fear, also some guilt, probably as ridiculous as it is still some hope, which I hate with a passion.

 

[favourite]

I got on disability last year and live alone. I isolate to extremes, haven't had a phone call from a friend in years, I am alone, except for family that live 1000 miles away who I see once or twice a year. I chose solitude in a lot of ways, to escape the pain of everyday life, I moved away, stopped social media and never made outgoing calls going back nearly a decade ago now. It is pretty brutal tbh, i've been trapped in suicidal depression for so long because of physical disease, mostly alive because of fear, also some guilt, probably as ridiculous as it is still some hope, which I hate with a passion.

Yeah. Days like this are the worst not only because I'm high-wired, but because there's a glimmer of hope and motivation...and I only know it will soon pass and everything will be gray again.

 

[Epsilon0]

I usually burst out crying and hit the wall with my fists if the pain is unbearable. That and a few expletives spoken to noone in particular have a cathartic effect.

At night, if the frustration and pain are ovewhelming, I lay on a bed of plastic nails for half an hour. That helps relieve the stress a little bit.

 

[KibblesNBits]

I can't. I just lay around in the fetal position and browse my phone 'cause there's nothing else I can do. I can't sleep, rarely leave the house and can't tolerate living in my shitty body. At this rate, I'm surprised I didn't have a stress induced heart attack or go catatonic. Why can't I just die!?

 

[favourite]

I can't. I just lay around in the fetal position and browse my phone 'cause there's nothing else I can do. I can't sleep, rarely leave the house and can't tolerate living in my shitty body. At this rate, I'm surprised I didn't have a stress induced heart attack or go catatonic. Why can't I just die!?

I feel like I could use exactly the same words. Hang in there, buddy.

 

[pete_x]

Any instrument really. Cello for me.

 

[Yahoel]

I usually try to channel my inner caveman and shut down my civilized mind by exercising eating and sleeping. Sleeping usually is the most effective of them all..

 

[AnxietyAttack44]

I browse ss, walk around house aimlessly, pray, play a game till i get pissed and cry. If i do fall asleep i dream of just dieing in horrible painful ways.

 

[Pryras]

Very very poorly.

Recently tried taking a bunch of leftover tramadol that would put me to sleep within 15 minutes.

 

[favourite]

Very very poorly.

Recently tried taking a bunch of leftover tramadol that would put me to sleep within 15 minutes.

I tried tramadol once or twice too, but I eventually stayed with codeine. all opiates put me in a weird (but lovely) half-asleep state though. not very healthy, but I love it