Bunnymmm
Member
- Aug 29, 2022
- 40
Hello, after some thinking I realize that I need to be alone and happy with myself before pursuing a relationship. Any advice on how to do that?
tooBadTooLate
Member
- Aug 16, 2025
- 49
Getting into hobbies and self-studying subjects seemed to help me. Maybe learn a new language, like, say, German—I've heard that it's the easiest language to learn for an English speaker.
starinthesky
twinkling star
- Aug 13, 2025
- 46
Hobbies are about the only thing keeping me from losing my mind, also the only thing I have confidence in. In some occasions all that focus makes you forget or disregard negativity, but it's hard to be consistent. It works great too if you want to meet people through it
amerie
an earthworm sprinkled with salt
- Oct 6, 2024
- 816
Heal from your abandonment trauma. A need to be saved by a partner is usually caused by being rejected or neglected emotionally during childhood and wanting a Prince Charming to save you from yourself and tell you everything you want to hear.
And become confident in yourself, find a hobby with a lot of rigor like guitar or body building and become really good at it, you'll start liking yourself because you've challenged yourself into doing hard things.
Also learn radical self acceptance maybe? I think that will help you stop caring about how you look.
And become confident in yourself, find a hobby with a lot of rigor like guitar or body building and become really good at it, you'll start liking yourself because you've challenged yourself into doing hard things.
Also learn radical self acceptance maybe? I think that will help you stop caring about how you look.
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As stated above, you need to be ok with yourself first. By that I mean generally. We all have flaws and we all have things we need to work on, but you should be generally comfortable in your own skin. If there are things about yourself you do not like, work on them.
Next, be comfortable doing things alone. I big confidence boost for me came when I started going to movies and restaurants by myself. Society has this unspoken rule that you HAVE to do things with someone else and it is just plain untrue. I had a "date night" with myself and it was amazing.
Third, as others have said, get hobbies. Find a way to entertain yourself while no one else is there. This can also help with the two above points. You might also find someone else who shares a hobby interest and start a friendship there.
Next, be comfortable doing things alone. I big confidence boost for me came when I started going to movies and restaurants by myself. Society has this unspoken rule that you HAVE to do things with someone else and it is just plain untrue. I had a "date night" with myself and it was amazing.
Third, as others have said, get hobbies. Find a way to entertain yourself while no one else is there. This can also help with the two above points. You might also find someone else who shares a hobby interest and start a friendship there.
