how do i get rid of that ache in my chest

[halfwaydown]

that sad ache just wont go away and its so physically painful and draining and it fucking sucks so much. it lives in me and no matter what i do it wont go anywhere. i wish i could just tear it out of my chest but its not even a real thing. its just a feeling, but why must this feeling burn and hurt me so intensely

 

[myopybyproxy]

Man, I have no idea. Rest assured, if I knew - the entire field of psychiatry would be defunct.

All the solutions I know of are only temporary fixes. Food, sex, drugs, self harm, putting oneself in potentially dangerous situations for the adrenaline rush...that's all I can think of and look where it got me. I don't fucking know. Hugs to you.

I think the solution is an intersection of holistic lifestyle changes:
- spiritual (connection with something larger / beyond oneself)
- emotional (expression and regular outlets)
- intellectual (stimulating stronger neural connections and keeping the frontal cortex well-oiled for the lifespan duration)
- physical-environmental (movement, cardiovascular and resistance/strength building, nutrition ie not living in a food desert, sunlight, fresh air and no pollution or toxins, natural water bodies, trees/plants/flowers/animals etc)
- social-familial (support system, peer engagement as equals, sufficient in person human interaction to one's healthy ideal level)
- financial (fuck society, idk about this one - real estate? dogecoin? breaking bad? FOR THE RECORD I AM NOT ENCOURAGING ANYONE TO MANUFACTURE METH OK DEA)
- sexual (sufficient engagement alone and with a partner/s to one's healthy ideal level).

By healthy ideal level, I mean the level where one would be if not for depression etc - as depression contributes to self isolating and annihilates one's libido - and even in nondepressed people there is a range of healthy activity within that sphere - some people are more skin-hungry than others, some are asexual, etc.

There's probably a few spheres I'm missing. Nice theory anyhow - I've not the faintest clue how to go about implementing it. But what do I know? I'm just a dumb immature adult with a broken brain who's too young to be so cynical or want to die or get to decide without being roundly criticised for it. FML.

(okay but the actual solution is meth. no im kidding KIDDING KIDDING DONT LISTEN TO ME I AM BUT A JESTER IN A HUMAN SUIT)

 

[Of The Universe]

OP,is there a source,in your life,of this ache? I have it all the time and I know exactly where it comes from. You?

 

[Z-bar]

Dmt. Also something that makes you laugh. In my experience even in deep depression or anxiety something with dry or sick humor will ease that chest pain agony. A good crazy laugh is the best medicine

 

[Foresight]

The physical aspects of long-term turmoil are truly understated. I hate that ache, it's more haunting to me than the memories. My mental illnesses live in my body now. I have aches in my muscles, I blink less, and that feeling in the chest. That feeling in the chest is the worst. I just try to breathe it away. Let the air hit deep and see if I can exhale all the hurt.

A good cry helps. I mean a good fucking cry, preferably in the shower for me. Then lots of beautiful self care. Chocolates and fresh clothes and music and whatever fills you with warmth.

 

[dreadpirateroberts69]

I can't stand the ache. I wish I knew how to make it go away but the grief will always remain as long as my needs are not being fulfilled...

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

I know that feeling. That deep sadness.

 

[Al Cappella]

Same. Sometimes more frequent/intense than others, but always there. The only thing that remotely helped—I started running. I was up to running 3+ hours on my long runs. I noticed a) I was too physically exhausted to feel emotionally cruddy b) I started getting a bit of a carryover endorphin high. Didn't get rid of it completely, but dulled it

 

[FuneralCry]

In my case, my pain will only end when I die so I do not have an answer. It can be horrible being alive as we have to live with ourselves. Our feelings can torture us. I know that it can be unbearable when you are suffering so much. I wish you the best.

 

[halfwaydown]

OP,is there a source,in your life,of this ache? I have it all the time and I know exactly where it comes from. You?

i don't know what specifically, however i know a lot of things that make it worse but they're unavoidable

 

[Soapie]

God I wish I knew man. Its what pushes me over the edge a lot of the time. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Very few people in this world deserve that.

 

[Spiritual survivor]

Is it like heartbreak type of ache?

 

[halfwaydown]

Is it like heartbreak type of ache?

kind of. its that sort of pain most people get when someone tells you something really dont want to hear and your stomach just drops and your whole body feels grey and drained but permanently i guess

 

[Spiritual survivor]

kind of. its that sort of pain most people get when someone tells you something really dont want to hear and your stomach just drops and your whole body feels grey and drained but permanently i guess

Nobody will tell u how to get rid of it because it is not discussed, and not taught to most people. It stems from spiritual emptiness. We are not taught how to turn on the spirit or activate it. But even if I told u how to turn on your spirit u might think I'm a lunatic lol! Because it is simple, kind of silly and strange, but it is also supernatural in nature. So most people would roll their eyes at what I say if I discussed it here.

 

[whatevs]

Nobody will tell u how to get rid of it because it is not discussed, and not taught to most people. It stems from spiritual emptiness. We are not taught how to turn on the spirit or activate it. But even if I told u how to turn on your spirit u might think I'm a lunatic lol! Because it is simple, kind of silly and strange, but it is also supernatural in nature. So most people would roll their eyes at what I say if I discussed it here.

Let's not leave it here, now you have to tell us. Pretty please? Share that secret recipe.

 

[drowning]

The only way to surefire enable the spirit is suicide. That's what I've been longing for, at least. My only need.

 

[Spiritual survivor]

Let's not leave it here, now you have to tell us. Pretty please? Share that secret recipe.

I'm at work but I'll be back with the answer because it is kind of lengthy to explain. Because if I explain it wrong people think u are crazy.

 

[sadanon3]

I wish I knew. I also wish no one else had to experience what this feels like. I'm sorry anon.

 

[Spiritual survivor]

Let's not leave it here, now you have to tell us. Pretty please? Share that secret recipe.

It is called speaking in tongues. This was a way that God had given to us to get our spirit back after Jesus died for us and was resurrected. So basically when u begin to speak in tongues it turns on the spirit part of ourselves that had been lost when Adam and Eve had disobeyed God. This is the way to have it be active inside u and then it helps end addictions, helps u have restraint and be able to have peace, joy, long suffering, and a bunch of other positive things begin to happen. I'm not saying u will never have suicidal thoughts again or bad days, or it is immediate. You need to do that daily b4 u begin to notice u feel ok without external pleasures and relationships begin to improve, addictions subside over weeks and months. Basically all u do is pretend u are speaking a foreign language, in a normal voice like u always talk with. U keep doing it and u start to get better at it and your language will sound different from anyone else's. It is a communication with u and God. He enjoys hearing us speak in tongues it's music to his ears. Speaking in tongues edifies us, it makes it so u will have inside u the same spirit that Jesus had. You will be able to handle situations in a way like Jesus could which then improves your life and u become better with other people.

 

[soinvisible]

Oh man, this thread...that feeling in the chest almost all the time. I feel it start and think oh no no no. What hindsightis2020 said, trying to get air all the way in or a good hard cry sometimes works. But sometimes I can hardly be upright with it, I have to lie down or take slow cautious steps if outside. I am so sorry you all have it too, truly. So sorry.

 

[Cherry Crumpet]

2-3 inches right behind the sternum right? That's where mine lives.

Dunno if it might help other people, but my therapist had me do progressive muscle relaxation. I've only done it a few times, but it did seem to lessen the ache. Well, for me, it's usually a solid ball of iron.. but other times it is a sharp burning ache. Anyway, I did the tense-release exercise about five times for my chest, and it seemed to help a bit. If you want to try, basically tense up your chest by sucking in your stomach and pulling all the air out of your lungs. Think of it as trying to 'suck' your body into the core where the pain is, tense your muscles really hard and keep them like that for 7-10 seconds. Then at 11 seconds, release all at once. Don't do it slowly, just instantly release the tension and slowly draw a breath back in. breathe normally. be in this relaxed state for 10-15 seconds. Repeat as necessary. Also, count 1-mississipi or 1-onethousand .. we count quicker in our heads than we realize.

 

[S like Siren]

that sad ache just wont go away and its so physically painful and draining and it fucking sucks so much. it lives in me and no matter what i do it wont go anywhere. i wish i could just tear it out of my chest but its not even a real thing. its just a feeling, but why must this feeling burn and hurt me so intensely

Oh my God....i feel you so much!You described it perfectly...i felt this horrible,terrible pain for years and years...it bought me to total desperation to the point to wanted to open my chest with with hands and stop all this ache:(:( i couldn't stop screaming inside...jesus it was terrible...lately it seems this pain has subsided but only because I have practically lost all emotion and am about to die.hug you

 

[LoneMisery]

I know that exact feeling. Its terrible. It can last for hours sometimes days. And it can usually happen right after i laugh with a group of people. It may go away when i do laugh but it can come back faster than speed of light. Instantly bringing me back to ground that the reality isnt happiness but this heavy dull feeling in my chest. It feels like im crying or about to cry yet no tears or sobs are happening.
I would think that there is a medicine that could help subsidie it or by god almighty get rid of it entirely. I know everyone gets sad but to have that feeling constantly is the worst. I feel its our hearts just ripping and tearing apart from internal sadness. I hope we all could find a way to get rid of it and just be normal. Although i dont look at "happy" people as being very normal either...they just know how to put on a veil a lot better and easier than we do.
Were at least real and true to our feelings and dont fake it in order for society to look at us as normal