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Canttakeitanymore
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- Feb 11, 2021
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Exactly.You unfortunately. They have their own minds and make their own decisions and trying to convince them usually has the opposite affect,
Study seduction.
I've used seduction theory and techniques on my now GF and it's worked quite a bit. Granted she probably would have went for me regardless of the seduction but I think it helped.I don't think this is something you learn. either you got it within you or you don't.
Couldn't agree more. I wasted 10 years in this cycle, until I saw that it was my own ego I was chasing, (in my mind it was "he can't possibly not love me, I am so special and did everything for him - he's just hurt and scared and can't admit it but he'll wake up if if I just do this or that or he sees how amazing I have become!) That whole time I was really campaigning for ME, for my image, for my self-esteem that I thought would come back if he came back. Instead the humiliation of doing that dance lowered my self esteem further. The truth was we were locked in our own dramas from childhood wounds - and neither of us actually loved the other, or even liked each other all that much tbh. We liked to hurt one another, jockeying for control and power. Of course I thought it was the biggest love story of all time and now I'm embarrassed. I wasted so much time (being hopelessly in love kept me safe from other guys - trust issues galore!), and then when I finally broke free, I got sick. Now I can't imagine I will get a second chance with someone who would have appreciated me.Don't! Whenever I tried, it became so humiliating. She will just pump her ego and she will take more distance.
Even if you convinced her to come back, eventually she would feel more and more obliged and it will make things fall apart again.
I've been there already..
not too different from my story.. I know, it sucks.and then when I finally broke free, I got sick